If you have sisters or women you consider sisters......

[MsLizziA]

How easy or hard has it been to get them to join your hair journey with you? If your a regular on this forum, you know what i go through w/ my own sisters trying to get them to listen to my advice.

Now while i have eased up and learned not to say anything and just mind my business it still bugs the hell outta me . I just dont tell them anything about their hair anymore

I was hoping that my hair journey would inspire them w/ no need for words but my growth is sky rocketing and it seems like i can inspire everybody around me BUT them....

How about you ladies?

 

[Makenzie]

My mom's hair could be banging. She's always been natural, but she needs moisture, moisture, moisture. I make suggestions but she says she doesn't have time. She wears a shrunken afro that never get blown out. With some tweaking her curls can pop. I can see em. So close yet so far away. I keep making suggestions though. I see her looking at my progress. So there's hope.

 

[curlyninjagirl]

Well, I help my brother with his 4b fro. He never took care of it and it was always dry and breaking to the point of near-bald spots. I bought him a satin pillow case and within a month or two those bald spots were filled in! A month after that I told him to ditch his metal pick and put him on a regimen and his hair has never been so soft and healthy!

It was easy getting him and my friend on the hair kick, but then I only bother sharing my hair stuff with people I know will listen. LOL

 

[MsLizziA]

Bump..............

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[SpicyPisces]

When my hair got to APL, my sister began asking questions, so I gave her the site. She said she has browsed through the site but she isn't really following any of the advice given here. She told me she refuses to wear her hair up all the time like I do and she use heat pretty frequently. Even though her hair isn't growing much, it's still very healthy looking and I'm happy for her .

As for my mom, I try to give her advice but she's pretty stuck in her ways about everything. She recently BC'd due to breakage, so she did the best thing she could for her hair since she wouldn't properly care for it when it was relaxed.

 

[CurlsBazillion]

Well as far as my mom we're on the same page, she's a member here herself. Hi mom aka @skyslady. As far as my bff, thats another story, I've done her hair and she says her self she can't believe how soft her 4b natural hair is but when she goes home she puts on the satin bonnet I got her to buy and lets her hair mat underneath for days, weeks even. Just like Pretty Brown Eyes said if she had some moisture she would be straight! I stopped pushing the issue and only answer questions when I'm asked. I can't talk to a wall but for so long.

 

[prettypithy]

I try and share the gospel but its hard. My sister has always been BSL so you can't tell her nuffin'--even though it is dry and thinning. She moisturizes with oils rather than water based products, washes and conditions like every three or four months. But as far as she's concerned as long as it is long, it is healthy.

 

[shasha8685]

I feel that way about my cousins. Their hair is so badly broken off from excessive relaxing and heat abuse that I don't know where to begin. The oldest had to cut her hair b/c the breakage is so bad and it hasn't grown out so now she wears (awful) wigs.

They look at my hair and "wish they could have all the hair that I have." I tell them what they need to do but they never follow through on it b/c it is "too much work." At this point, I don't say anything. They're gonna have to want to make a change before I offer up my advice again.

 

[skyslady]

Well as far as my mom we're on the same page, she's a member here herself. Hi mom aka @skyslady. As far as my bff, thats another story, I've done her hair and she says her self she can't believe how soft her 4b natural hair is but when she goes home she puts on the satin bonnet I got her to buy and lets her hair mat underneath for days, weeks even. Just like Pretty Brown Eyes said if she had some moisture she would be straight! I stopped pushing the issue and only answer questions when I'm asked. I can't talk to a wall but for so long.

hey baby girl,@DayDreamist...you have done a lot of research and taught me, your mom so much and thanks for turning me on to this forum.

Now maybe next we can work on getting my pic up on here...

 

[LayneJ]

I gave my mom and sisters a very short summary regarding healthy hair habits, so they don't mind following my random hair advice. I basically gave them my personal hair rules: keep your scalp clean, moisturize regularly, and be aware of your hair and what it can or cannot take (i.e. heat, certain products/styles, manipulation, etc.)

I don't really follow the hardcore hair rules though. For example, I told my mom she could keep her hair straightened 100% of the time when she asked. I bought her the Aveda DR line and she was good to go. She straightens 1-2x/month and she's gone from neck to APL in about a year.

I don't tell them which products are good or bad for their hair, what tools to use, etc. The only thing I had to be explicit in explaining was detangling since my mom and sisters were (as I had been) completely unaware of how to manage their natural hair textures (which are all different).

 

[OhSoOthentik]

Aww...DayDreamist and Skyslady remind me of my mom (LovinLocks) and I. My mom turned me on to LHCF and was trying for years to get me to go natural. I gave all those excuses mentioned up thread and hid my thinning, dry, breaking hair under weaves and such. Now I am 19 months post BC. So don't give up Ladies. There is hope for your loved ones

 

[Missjae09]

I do have one friend who is on this journey with me, however, i've learned that most of the women I know do not want to take time required to learn what their hair likes and requires in order to thrive. At times I find myself trying to give tips and pointers, and in the end I'm always left feeling frustrated after talking to a brick wall, so I'm trying to learn not to get excited when it seems like someone is leaning towards talking about hair because 9 times out of 10 it's a false alarm! lol

 

[empressri]

I don't offer advice unless asked. I mean really, how annoyed would you be if someone kept telling you to relax your hair? Same thing with asking someone to go natural or do whatever.

I know folks that have thinning edges...they ask my advice...I told them what to do and they nay'ed to everything I said so I leave it alone.

 

[Mizz Diamonds]

I tried to offer my younger sister advice but she wouldn't take it now that my hair is slowly making it's way to APL she is still ripping out bonding glue from hers, maybe she'll listen when I am full APL

 

[DarkAngell]

my sister has SL relaxed hair. Naturally she's a 4a/b. Her hair is about as dry as a tumbleweed. She has not gotten a hair cut nor a trim in over 10 yrs & has worn the same old pony tail and has had the same JAGGED SL length hair the entire time. I try to give her advice but i've backed down. It all boils down to her just not caring about her hair.

It makes me sad because when she used to take care of it, it was beautiful! On top of that she has a very unique, gorgeous light brown/blonde color naturally. So sad.....

 

[afiyabirdie]

I come from a family of 5 sisters (i'm the middle child)...no brothers, and my oldest sister inspired me to go natural. She had MBL hair and it was really healthy but she just decided one day that she wanted to be natural and chopped it all off leaving her with maybe 4 inches of natural hair...I liked the way it looked so i decided i would grow out my own hair. The other 3 only admire our journey and hair but they don't have the courage to give up relaxers.... for them and my mother, i am the go-to person for hair care though...they ask for help and advice on products, styles, and processes all of the time. Maybe one day they'll join us. I ignore their hair and it annoys me to hear them "marvel" at my long hair because they could possibly have it too... they expect EVERYTHING to happen overnight and if it doesn't the product is supposedly "crap" smh...

 

[Etherealsmile]

My elder sister is on this journey with me, i'm pretty happy about it because initially she didn't want any advice or help from me but after I directed her to the forum she now sees I wasn't just blowing hot air

My younger sister is a lost cause for now, i'll keep working on her though

My best friend doesn't want to hear anything about hair, she's one of those that keeps chopping her hair off and doing all the wrong things to her hair, she refuses to listen to me. Oh well, can't win them all right?

 

[Fyne]

Friends and family notice the health of my hair when its straightened, but do not heed my suggestions. I only have LHCF.

Last weekend me and a friend went away and we got caught in the rain. When we got in I threw on some condish (co washed) and told her to do the same....She put some cones and oil spray in her hair and wrapped. next morning her hair was a H.A.M and dryyyy! She flat ironed it and sprayed holding spray - It was painful to watch, even more painful was the smell of burning hair! SMH

 

[carameldimples]

My BFF is on the journey with me. She's fully natural I am transitioning. She was really doing healthy practices before I told her about my journey (co-washing and protective styling, no heat) I have another friend who just follows, I say I am going natural, so now she is too, LOL, but she doesn't want to take the time to learn stuff. I tell her she needs moisture in her hair during her transition, she doesn't like to put products on, she thinks it weighs her hair down! I did buy her some Shea Moisture products she seems to like them, but refuses to moisturise regularly and never uses any oils. My family is another story....just yesterday my mom tried to go in on me. It was one of my daughter's pre-k graduation so since she never had her hair straightened before and stretched I did it, of course my mom was pleased with it, but my other daughter still had about 6 plaits in her hair that I did on Sunday. I refresh them by taking the band off each one and moisturising and sealing them (no combing and little manipulation) but more or less fixing the edges. My daughter is 3c and a little frizzy and my mom says now do something to hers....I did plan on tidying it up, but my mom took it all down and left it!!! I was furious because I don't like to manipulate it too much during the week and only comb once a week....you only comb their hair once a week, that is soo ridiculous, I didn't do you that way, what is wrong with you and this natural kick you want them to look throwed away(mind you my kids never look thrown away because I don't have that she considers an afro on my one year old looking thrown away) Anyway I am going too off topic, but yea my fam is super annoying when it comes to their hair care practices!!!

ETA (proofreading/spell check LOL)

 

[libertysince05]

I gave my mom and sisters a very short summary regarding healthy hair habits, so they don't mind following my random hair advice. I basically gave them my personal hair rules: keep your scalp clean, moisturize regularly, and be aware of your hair and what it can or cannot take (i.e. heat, certain products/styles, manipulation, etc.)

I don't really follow the hardcore hair rules though. For example, I told my mom she could keep her hair straightened 100% of the time when she asked. I bought her the Aveda DR line and she was good to go. She straightens 1-2x/month and she's gone from neck to APL in about a year.

I don't tell them which products are good or bad for their hair, what tools to use, etc. The only thing I had to be explicit in explaining was detangling since my mom and sisters were (as I had been) completely unaware of how to manage their natural hair textures (which are all different).

Same here. They're all receptive to the advice, provided it doesnt interfere woith their routine too much.

 

[tatiana]

N/A because my sister has long healthy hair. Most of the women in my family have long hair.
I have seen her go short (APL) to WL several times. I think she could grow it longer but chooses not to due to the time it takes to take care of it.

 

[TraciChanel]

I have my mom and my sister following my advice for healthy hair practices. The only thing that irks me about this is that they won't join LHCF. Instead, I am the "go-to" person for all topics related to hair - including: sulfur, JCBO, hair growth vits and aids, etc. I really encourage them to join and interact with other ladies here, but my mom lurks every now and then and my sister says she is too busy. Oh well, I guess it's at least good that they've embraced the healthy hair journey. Oh, and by the way - my mom's edges were really bad (they came out b/c of a lace wig she tried) and now they have almost filled in completely due to information I learned on this forum

 

[JayAnn0513]

Nope. My mom had just experienced her 1st hair crisis ( bad color ate her hair) ever. She jumped right on the bandwagon with me. So did my sister and aunt. We are all natural now and have hair between below SL and APL.


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[ashleymichelle1]

My mother follows my advice. But other than that I don't give anyone else advice unless they ask. I tried to give my sister advice but she would never listen...her hair about 4,5 years ago was wl..shes natural and her hair is 3c/4a. She flat irons her hair TO DEATH, never moisturises her hair and now its a little past shoulder length. Now she wears clip in weaves for length..its usch a shame cause she had beautiful hair but if she doesn't care then why should I? Most people really dont care about hair like us ladies on this board..

 

[choctaw]

My mother believes that black people should not wash their hair more than 2x per month. She went from weaves to extensions to texlaxer on a pixie cut because of dry, breaking hair. We live in the same house and I have put water on my hair daily for past year (e.g. co-wash, oil rinse, distilled water in spray bottle,).

My type 4 natural hair grew from NL to just below SL and I can gather my hair into a single braid. I gave her a jar of ayurvedic infused oil just now and she said thanks. She is on the phone calling her beautician for an appointment to get a press and curl on see-through hair too short to hold a roller.

She would rather be bald than have SL nappy hair

 

[NYAmicas]

My mother & sister prefer to let someone else work on their hair than even begin a hair journey with me. My mom had some nice thick long natural hair as a child & now her relaxed hair is very thin, limp, and lifeless most of the time but she has no interest in going natural.

 

[MsLizziA]

ashleymichelle1 Well i don't think that its that they don't care, i think that its that they haven't actual SEEN better. Idk about you but i know ALL of the ladies, myself included, didn't care about hair as much as we do now at some point in our lives. And i know for me personally, its b/c i hadn't seen better or even knew that any of this existed.

 

[Triniwegian]

My "sisters", my SO's sisters (we are very close), went natural about 2 years after I met him.. I don't know if I was an inspiration but I love that we are all natural and that we can talk hair and help each other out with styles and techniques.

 

[Ladybelle]

No one would listen to me first- not my mom, my sis, NOBODY! But, once I hit SL -they started listening. Even after a setback (I'm back at NL thanks to a bad relaxer & cut) They still listen, and when I say they- I mean my mom, my sis, co-workers, and even my hairstylist. Now, I have several people on the HHJ with me and some are even going natural with me -- again!

 

[GaiasDaughter24]

Both my mom and sister went natural before I even reached a yr post BC. My brother wanted to grow his hair out since he was, in his words "the only one bald" in his class lol. My mom let him do so because of the knowledge I've gained. My family has been very receptive.