Supergirl
With Love & Silk
Good Morning Hair Buddies,
I have had a revelation this morning and I believe I have figured out the true cause of my ends becoming so thin. I have noticed that in the last year and a half or so, I have had to do 3 major trims. By major I mean 2 or more inches at a time. I knew that I was taking good care of my hair so I didn't understand what the problem could be.
I thought maybe I'd reached my "terminal" length and so the ends would just thin out to prevent more length. I don't know. My stylist, whom I just love as a person, has a limited role in my haircare. She does my relaxer touch-ups only. Over a year ago, I stopped allowing her to style my hair and would just have her send me home w/ conditioner in my hair. Why? Because she combed the wet hair too roughly even after I gave her tips on how to keep my hair from getting tangled in the first place and even after I asked her to comb gently. With the winter season, I allowed her to detangle and place me under the dryer for a while so I wouldn't leave with wet hair.
Some of you saw my thread about the 4 inch trim I did last week. (self-trim) I feel I didn't have any choice in the matter. I have been more upset about the why than the actual what. I have speculated and this morning it hit me. It's her rough combing of my wet hair. This last time when she was detangling my hair, I could hear the comb. I spoke up and said "that sounds like a 'skinny' comb." She said that it was a wide tooth. She told me that my hair gets so tangled in the bowl. (but I've told her how to prevent that prior to now
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This morning when this hit me, I thought about how my ends even at 18 weeks post-relaxer looked pretty good before I went into the salon. I wouldn't think that hair could be damaged in a matter of seconds but now I know that it can happen.
So the advice I need this morning: I have a 2 year relationship with this stylist. She goes to my church as well. Should I try communicating with her about this or just leave without talking?
I have had a revelation this morning and I believe I have figured out the true cause of my ends becoming so thin. I have noticed that in the last year and a half or so, I have had to do 3 major trims. By major I mean 2 or more inches at a time. I knew that I was taking good care of my hair so I didn't understand what the problem could be.
I thought maybe I'd reached my "terminal" length and so the ends would just thin out to prevent more length. I don't know. My stylist, whom I just love as a person, has a limited role in my haircare. She does my relaxer touch-ups only. Over a year ago, I stopped allowing her to style my hair and would just have her send me home w/ conditioner in my hair. Why? Because she combed the wet hair too roughly even after I gave her tips on how to keep my hair from getting tangled in the first place and even after I asked her to comb gently. With the winter season, I allowed her to detangle and place me under the dryer for a while so I wouldn't leave with wet hair.
Some of you saw my thread about the 4 inch trim I did last week. (self-trim) I feel I didn't have any choice in the matter. I have been more upset about the why than the actual what. I have speculated and this morning it hit me. It's her rough combing of my wet hair. This last time when she was detangling my hair, I could hear the comb. I spoke up and said "that sounds like a 'skinny' comb." She said that it was a wide tooth. She told me that my hair gets so tangled in the bowl. (but I've told her how to prevent that prior to now

This morning when this hit me, I thought about how my ends even at 18 weeks post-relaxer looked pretty good before I went into the salon. I wouldn't think that hair could be damaged in a matter of seconds but now I know that it can happen.
So the advice I need this morning: I have a 2 year relationship with this stylist. She goes to my church as well. Should I try communicating with her about this or just leave without talking?
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