Honestly, Do you Think Some People Will Never...

[MizaniMami]

Get to Their Desired Lengths?

**Disclaimer PLEASE NO NAME CALLING OR ANYTHING! This isn't one of those calling out/negative posts, so please don't make it.

Do you beleive that for some people longer apl, bsl ,wsl, etc is just unattainable?

I was talking toone of my LHCF friendgirls last night through PM and I got to thinking about this question. I seen some people that hair won't budge. I was wondering, if it was only me that thought some people's hair probably will never make it to bsl or beyond. I hope this doesn't come off as catty but I honest want to see what you guys think.

Do you think that every last black women who puts her mind to it can grow hair to longer lengths? Why or why not?

 

[Guyaneek]

I sure hope they will. Unless there is some sort of medical condition I guess. With a majority of the methods that are discussed here, I see no reason for us not to slowly but surely inch along. I think the main idea is to focus on health and the length will eventually follow. I think some women may not want to commit to growing their hair or a solid routine.

 

[Cheleigh]

I think my answer to your question "do you think some people will never get to their desired lengths" is yes, I believe that.

For any number of reasons, not just terminal length or genetics, or whatever. Not every person is going to have waistlength hair, no matter how much they may want it, IMO. I think everyone can have healthy hair though.

 

[~Nigeria~]

I don't think so. I guess some peoples' hair just grows a lot slower than others so their progress would not be that noticeable. Their desired length would just take a little longer to achieve.

But then again, I think it goes back to health also. If you are sacrifice health for the sake of length and you're ends are breaking off as fast as your new growth is coming in, then you won't see any progress.

 

[gymfreak336]

Yes. I do think genetics have something to do with it but also your starting point. I think in order for you to really reach the long lengths you desire you do have to maintain healthy hair; not just from conditioning and styling methods but also from the inside out. If some one has extra brittle or fragile hair from bad diet or medication, or stress ,I don't think it will grow really long. I do think that everyone with care and dedication can push to atleast armpit length.

 

[Wishin4BSL]

Well, now I'm REALLY sad...I got a trim AND I probably still won't reach my goal length? I guess I may just stay right here at SL.

 

[Cichelle]

I guess I'm an idealist. But I think anyone who really wants it and is willing to put in the time and effort can have long hair.

 

[MuseofTroy]

I'm one of those people who believes that genetics and lifestyle play a big role in how long someone's hair will grow. Unfortuanately I think some women will never reach their goals because either they get frustrated and stop whatever they are doing to take care of their hair or genetics. Hate to say this but not everyone is going to have shoulder, back, or even waist length hair. Instead of focusing in length, a lot of women should focus on overall health. The length will automatically come if it's meant to be.

 

[Proudpiscean]

I think anyone can reach their goal length IF they are dedicated to a good regimen that is actually working for them. I think consistency and patience are key though.

 

[Sosoothing]

Do I think some people will never get to their desired lengths? Yes.

I think their hair can grow much longer and become healthy or healthier. But to reach the desired length would firstly depend on what that length is. For instance, I might desire butt length hair, or even waist length hair, but that is possibly unrealistic due to my hair cycle, and all the other things that determine how long an individuals hair can get.

 

[sprungonhairboards]

I'm one of those people who believes that genetics and lifestyle play a big role in how long someone's hair will grow. Unfortuanately I think some women will never reach their goals because either they get frustrated and stop whatever they are doing to take care of their hair or genetics. Hate to say this but not everyone is going to have shoulder, back, or even waist length hair. Instead of focusing in length, a lot of women should focus on overall health. The length will automatically come if it's meant to be.

I agree with all of this. The exact same theory applies to reaching and maintaining a healthy weight.

 

[gymfreak336]

Do I think some people will never get to their desired lengths? Yes.

I think their hair can grow much longer and become healthy or healthier. But to reach the desired length would firstly depend on what that length is. For instance, I might desire butt length hair, or even waist length hair, but that is possibly unrealistic due to my hair cycle, and all the other things that determine how long an individuals hair can get.

totally ot but I love your quote; reminds me of some people I know

 

[Whimsy]

I think that healthy hair will grow, despite genetic predisposition. Unfortunately people kill their hair w/ various chemicals, routines or lifestyle choices that screw up any hair length attaining efforts.

 

[MizaniMami]

oh, I just dropped in before class and I am glad that you ladies are sharing your opinions. keep it coming.!

 

[sareca]

I guess I'm an idealist. But I think anyone who really wants it and is willing to put in the time and effort can have long hair.

I'm with you.

 

[breezy]

I think that maybe some people won't (and I don't mean anyone in particular b/c nobody really comes to mind) simply b/c maybe they expect to see progress before health and get frustrated and slip back into old habits. But I personally think that everyone should at least be able to make it to BSL by being consistent w/ healthy hair practices, they just might not get there as fast as they want. I know that's my number one issue in my hair journey, patience, not commitment

 

[Proudpiscean]

I think that maybe some people won't (and I don't mean anyone in particular b/c nobody really comes to mind) simply b/c maybe they expect to see progress before health and get frustrated and slip back into old habits. But I personally think that everyone should at least be able to make it to BSL by being consistent w/ healthy hair practices, they just might not get there as fast as they want. I know that's my number one issue in my hair journey, patience, not commitment

I totally agree with this

 

[seeminglysweet]

I'm one of those people who believes that genetics and lifestyle play a big role in how long someone's hair will grow. Unfortuanately I think some women will never reach their goals because either they get frustrated and stop whatever they are doing to take care of their hair or genetics. Hate to say this but not everyone is going to have shoulder, back, or even waist length hair. Instead of focusing in length, a lot of women should focus on overall health. The length will automatically come if it's meant to be.

I agree

I feel like I will never reach my goal of mid-back and I know that it is because I don't like protective styles, in a nutshell, right now I am not truely dedicated to my hair, yeah I'm half stepping.

I also think that genetics plays a role in ones hair growth and the end result in length but that is sometimes difficult to figure out if you, your mother, her mother and all your great aunts all practiced the same antiquated hair maintanence myth's that never allowed their hair to strive to its fullest potential.

 

[breezy]

I agree

I feel like I will never reach my goal of mid-back and I know that it is because I don't like protective styles, in a nutshell, right now I am not truely dedicated to my hair, yeah I'm half stepping.

I also think that genetics plays a role in ones hair growth and the end result in length but that is sometimes difficult to figure out if you, your mother, her mother and all your great aunts all practiced the same antiquated hair maintanence myth's that never allowed their hair to strive to its fullest potential.

ITA, if your whole family has damaging hair practices, how will you know how far you can go with healthy hair unless you try?

 

[MuseofTroy]

I agree with all of this. The exact same theory applies to reaching and maintaining a healthy weight.

Very true. Thanks for adding that as well. From my observation, a lot of people want quick fixes for whatever problems they are experiencing, not just hair but in life in general. People want to make fast money, lost weight fast, grow their hair 20 inches in a year, etc... Patience and hard work is the key and I think the journey of discovering your mind and body is an invaluable learning experience.

 

[LovelyStyle]

Hey everyone,

Like a lot of previous posters, I have varying views on this.

I believe health and genetics are major factors contributing to what is possible in terms of the ultimate length you can achieve. I understand that stress is one of the primary reasons why a person might loose hair or have unhealthy hair that appears not to grow well.

However, I believe that hair vitamins and a healthier lifestyle can further a person's progress, too. You know, happy hair growing.

Best wishes

 

[DahomeyAhosi]

I think anyone can get to bra strap but the question is how much energy will it require to get there. Different people need to different amounts of effort into it.

 

[LaShanne]

I think that maybe some people won't (and I don't mean anyone in particular b/c nobody really comes to mind) simply b/c maybe they expect to see progress before health and get frustrated and slip back into old habits. But I personally think that everyone should at least be able to make it to BSL by being consistent w/ healthy hair practices, they just might not get there as fast as they want. I know that's my number one issue in my hair journey, patience, not commitment

I caught myself falling into this mental trap a couple of times since I've begun my hair journey. I have to remind myself that I cant erase years of damage I've caused to my hair in a few months of protective styles and hair vitimans. It truly is a journey and I WILL reach my goal with consistency and patience

 

[Eiano]

Genetics definitely plays a role... becuase otherwise my brazilian friend who tosses her hair around, sleeps on it at night and blowdries everytime she washes, wouldn't be able to go from shoulderlength to waist length in a year, while I'm going from shoulder length to bra strap in 2 years...

That being said, slowly but surely I am going to get to waist length. I never had hair past shoulder length growing up. If I can get this far... there's not telling how far it can REALLY get!

 

[MuseofTroy]

Success comes, especially with hair, when people aren’t falling for gimmicks or being unrealistic about what they can or cannot do. Most people don’t have an hour every day to do their hair so don’t pick up a routine that requires that amount of time. Also buying tons of products because poster ABC said it worked for their hair doesn’t mean it will have the same results for yours. I take the advice I receive on here with a grain of salt. A particular method might work for one person, and be totally disastrous for another. Many times people don’t take into account the person’s lifestyle, health, or, what else they are using on their hair.

 

[Crackers Phinn]

Yes, I do think some people will never get to their desired length, but mainly based on how they treat their hair.

If you constantly wear your hair out, your ends are going to have the last word on what length you get to.

Weaves ARE NOT a protective style. In my not so humble opinion, if you want to retain the least amount of length, this is the route to go.

Diet and excercise are going to be more important than MTG or any other miracles in a bottle. (BTW - I've used MTG and it works, but hitting the gym worked better and I don't smell like burnt pig feet.)

If you're not consistent with your regimen, you're not going to get to your goal.

Genetics play a role in how fast your hair grows, but to me maintenance is a bigger issue.

 

[sylver2]

Yes, I do think some people will never get to their desired length, but mainly based on how they treat their hair.

If you constantly wear your hair out, your ends are going to have the last word on what length you get to.

Weaves ARE NOT a protective style. In my not so humble opinion, if you want to retain the least amount of length, this is the route to go.

Diet and excercise are going to be more important than MTG or any other miracles in a bottle. (BTW - I've used MTG and it works, but hitting the gym worked better and I don't smell like burnt pig feet.)

If you're not consistent with your regimen, you're not going to get to your goal.

Genetics play a role in how fast your hair grows, but to me maintenance is a bigger issue.

Agree definately with all the bolded

 

[Kimberly]

Well, now I'm REALLY sad...I got a trim AND I probably still won't reach my goal length? I guess I may just stay right here at SL.

Me, too...and this is the longest my hair has ever been... Maybe I should just be happy with my two pieces that should make it to BSL by November?

 

[kally]

I am beginning to wonder if this is the case for myself. I have tried being natural for 2 years and just two weeks ago put a silk elements relaxer in. My hair does not grow past the bottom of my neck and it does not matter if i am relaxed or natural. I know the right things to do, and try to follow what i have learned but my hair does not seem to go anywhere. Maybe I am just impatient. Also I do not have the fullness that everyone else in the world seems to have. Maybe it is just in my genes. I have to just learn to live the hand I have been dealt and stop lusting over things I can not have. I have been on hair boards for years. I do not want to even post pictures, because I am really self consious about my hair. It does not look nice enough to post like everyone else. I must that however my hair is much more healther then it has ever been and has a little bit of body now

 

[Southernbella.]

But I personally think that everyone should at least be able to make it to BSL by being consistent w/ healthy hair practices, they just might not get there as fast as they want. I know that's my number one issue in my hair journey, patience, not commitment

ITA. I think ANYONE is able to get to BSL. It may take some longer than others, and that depends on various factors, but I think all of us can do it.