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I dont care about my hair anymore. I am too frustrated.
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darkflame213
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Don't give up!! Go through some of the albums for motivation. PM people with hair like yours and see if they've had similar issues. Keep trying!!
hairmaster
New Member
GO ON A HAIR VACATION - GO TO THE SALON FOR SOME TLC..
Cichelle
Well-Known Member
I know the feeling. I think we all have times when we start feeling this way, either because of a setback or just because of a bad hair day. I'm sorry you had to cut your hair. Maybe you can just take a break from thinking about it for a while. I have to say I have been feeling frustrated the past few days too. I've decided to just cowash daily and put my hair up/baggie and go about my business without giving it anymore thought. Kind of like out of sight, out of mind. I know how frustrating it can all be, especially when you try so hard to take care of your hair and you don't see positive results. It's difficult to stay motivated. Perhaps just do the basics and let it grow a bit. You may feel differently in a while. Again, sorry about the setback.
meia
New Member
Bmm,instead of telling you not to (which i really want to tell you- dont give up) im going to *hopefully* aid you with a story..a long ass story lol..but a story none the less...
ive always had short nappy ass hair (think twa)..when i was younger..my sister had that beautiful silky hair that looked like she was straight puerto rican (and yet were half but its funny how the odds work)..she used to comb it and braid it and everything..she didnt appreciate it..its funny because im not sure what age it happened, i think i was in 4th grade...my hair had finally grown out to around about my shoulders..which when you think about it..took me more than 8 years from birth..lol..anyways we went to a salon once..my sis wanted a trim..they did her trim and then my mom and her went to get some food right quick..that left me with my aunt and the barber (yea i know a girl going to a barber even though they did a good job with my sis) - my mom said to wait till she got back to cut it...i was at that age where everyone did what they wanted with you and you couldnt really do much about it..my aunt decided to "suprise" my mom and get it cut anyways...well the stylist was crazy..she cut all my hair off till i had 1/2 an inch on my head...
i looked like a man (in my point of view..lol) i cried..everything...it was terrible..then i realized later (although i STILL wasnt happy) that it was easier to manage..it was a dream...then my hair started to grow out..mind you i had curly hair.. the curl had loosened a bit and as it grew (which was pure hell) i got accustomed to it.. even though when that happened i was ready to give up
PART 2
yearrrrrrsss later..
me and my sis, eventually--we both got perms cos my grandma couldnt comb it no more right..welll she both of our hair textures changed..which up until that point we were beautiful naturals..my sister had long wavy middle to the back hair..and my texture had grown out..wellll make a long story short..her hair turned into the nappy hair and my hair turned into the long wavy rican hair..she cant go 6 weeks without a perm and now i didnt have to get but twice a year if not less..
part 3..MORAL: now im trying to grow to my lower back..its hard..like anything..due to relaxer damage (ive stopped), a HOST of horrible haircuts..like crazy cuts into my hair- layers, to my dyeing obsession, to too much gel...its been hard but maybe now that you have shorter hair, you can start from step one again..nurture it..attempt to stretch relaxers, take better overall care to improve the health of the hair...and in NO TIME youll be back to your hair goal..i understand youre discouraged..we all get discouraged..but if you are...ask any person on the board and theyd be willing to support you and help you anytime you need it!
lol..jut dont give up taking care of it..just let it take its own time because sometimes getting it cut is just the break you needed..
i hope this long ass hahaha post helped!
good luck bmm!!
-meia
ive always had short nappy ass hair (think twa)..when i was younger..my sister had that beautiful silky hair that looked like she was straight puerto rican (and yet were half but its funny how the odds work)..she used to comb it and braid it and everything..she didnt appreciate it..its funny because im not sure what age it happened, i think i was in 4th grade...my hair had finally grown out to around about my shoulders..which when you think about it..took me more than 8 years from birth..lol..anyways we went to a salon once..my sis wanted a trim..they did her trim and then my mom and her went to get some food right quick..that left me with my aunt and the barber (yea i know a girl going to a barber even though they did a good job with my sis) - my mom said to wait till she got back to cut it...i was at that age where everyone did what they wanted with you and you couldnt really do much about it..my aunt decided to "suprise" my mom and get it cut anyways...well the stylist was crazy..she cut all my hair off till i had 1/2 an inch on my head...
i looked like a man (in my point of view..lol) i cried..everything...it was terrible..then i realized later (although i STILL wasnt happy) that it was easier to manage..it was a dream...then my hair started to grow out..mind you i had curly hair.. the curl had loosened a bit and as it grew (which was pure hell) i got accustomed to it.. even though when that happened i was ready to give up
PART 2
yearrrrrrsss later..
me and my sis, eventually--we both got perms cos my grandma couldnt comb it no more right..welll she both of our hair textures changed..which up until that point we were beautiful naturals..my sister had long wavy middle to the back hair..and my texture had grown out..wellll make a long story short..her hair turned into the nappy hair and my hair turned into the long wavy rican hair..she cant go 6 weeks without a perm and now i didnt have to get but twice a year if not less..
part 3..MORAL: now im trying to grow to my lower back..its hard..like anything..due to relaxer damage (ive stopped), a HOST of horrible haircuts..like crazy cuts into my hair- layers, to my dyeing obsession, to too much gel...its been hard but maybe now that you have shorter hair, you can start from step one again..nurture it..attempt to stretch relaxers, take better overall care to improve the health of the hair...and in NO TIME youll be back to your hair goal..i understand youre discouraged..we all get discouraged..but if you are...ask any person on the board and theyd be willing to support you and help you anytime you need it!
lol..jut dont give up taking care of it..just let it take its own time because sometimes getting it cut is just the break you needed..i hope this long ass hahaha post helped!
good luck bmm!!
-meia
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SerenityBreeze
Member
Please dont give up! You will get there. Try to look at the positive side of things. At this point you should have a Fresh Start and with proper care, you will get there.
I had to start so many times, I had sissor happy stylists. I am still not over an agressive trim I had in Jan but, thanks to it, my hair was able to grow healthy from that point.
Can you pinpoint where you are going wrong? Are you being consistant?
I just looked in your album, the pic I saw of you hair was nice and healthy and your energy was on point "You love your products" You can do it! We are all here to support you!
I had to start so many times, I had sissor happy stylists. I am still not over an agressive trim I had in Jan but, thanks to it, my hair was able to grow healthy from that point.
Can you pinpoint where you are going wrong? Are you being consistant?
I just looked in your album, the pic I saw of you hair was nice and healthy and your energy was on point "You love your products" You can do it! We are all here to support you!
meia
New Member
serenity is right...girlllllll your hair looks BEAUTIFUL at that length..i wish i would look that good with shorter hair..its frames your face, obviously looks healthy- you look so good with it!
im reallllll jealous right now..lol seriously i am..you dont realize how lucky you are...
first step: understand how lucky you are
second step: start taking care of it properly (which you already must do cos it looks really healthy and not damaged at all)
third step: reach the sky with your hair dreams!
meia
im reallllll jealous right now..lol seriously i am..you dont realize how lucky you are...
first step: understand how lucky you are
second step: start taking care of it properly (which you already must do cos it looks really healthy and not damaged at all)
third step: reach the sky with your hair dreams!
meia
Divine Inspiration
Well-Known Member
NOOOOOOO! Don't give up! You've got tons of support here, and like another lady said, some of us would *love* to be able to wear short hair...my head is just too big, but that's another story... 
Nevertheless, I agree with Hairmaster...take some time off...go the salon, wear buns for a week or so...I have all of these beautiful scarves, and when I get "hair depressed" I wrap my hair up for 2 or 3 days...the scarves are stylish and comfortable and I don't have to look at or think about my hair AND it's protecting my hair from the elements...just a suggestion that always makes me feel better.
Hang in there girl...we all go through phases when we are hating our hair, regardless of how hard we've worked, how much length we have, and how small or large the setback!
You'll be in my hair prayers!
Nevertheless, I agree with Hairmaster...take some time off...go the salon, wear buns for a week or so...I have all of these beautiful scarves, and when I get "hair depressed" I wrap my hair up for 2 or 3 days...the scarves are stylish and comfortable and I don't have to look at or think about my hair AND it's protecting my hair from the elements...just a suggestion that always makes me feel better.
Hang in there girl...we all go through phases when we are hating our hair, regardless of how hard we've worked, how much length we have, and how small or large the setback!
You'll be in my hair prayers!
Angelicus
Well-Known Member
If you didn't care about it anymore, you wouldn't have made this thread. You care.
Time is the factor at hand. And since time is a constant, it's going to pass anyway.
I used to want to give up, but I realized that my hair is going to grow, whether I liked it or not, so I might as well take care of it and keep what I have. If I didn't fight back, I'd still have hair to my neck.
Maybe you need a break, get away from the board for a week, a month. Forget about haircare and just eat right, exercise, and meditate. Then jump right back in with me!
Take care!
Time is the factor at hand. And since time is a constant, it's going to pass anyway.
I used to want to give up, but I realized that my hair is going to grow, whether I liked it or not, so I might as well take care of it and keep what I have. If I didn't fight back, I'd still have hair to my neck.
Maybe you need a break, get away from the board for a week, a month. Forget about haircare and just eat right, exercise, and meditate. Then jump right back in with me!
Take care!
Phoenix
Well-Known Member
I think it's normal to go through periods of frustration with your hair. For me, there are times when I'm really into my hair and I'm on the boards ALL the time. Then I'll go through a period where I kind of lose interest. I agree with those who suggested that you simplify your routine. I mean, your hair is going to continue growing whether or not you do anything to it. I say, just leave it alone for awhile, take your focus off of it. I bet in a few months you'll be interested again and by then you'll have a couple more inches.
One more thing. I joined this board about 2 1/2 years ago. I grew my hair out for several months, go frustrated with it, and chopped it all off. Now I'm into the hair growth thing again and I really wish I has just left my hair alone instead of cutting it. If I had, I could have reached my goal length twice by now. I wish I had just picked something low maintanence like a bun or phony pony and taken a break from all the time consuming routines. Okay, that's my two cents.
One more thing. I joined this board about 2 1/2 years ago. I grew my hair out for several months, go frustrated with it, and chopped it all off. Now I'm into the hair growth thing again and I really wish I has just left my hair alone instead of cutting it. If I had, I could have reached my goal length twice by now. I wish I had just picked something low maintanence like a bun or phony pony and taken a break from all the time consuming routines. Okay, that's my two cents.
hOnii
New Member
i know the feeling. there have been sooo many times when it seems like i'm getting nowhere. i do everything for my hair, and its still thin, and always has to get trimmed or cut off when i go get it done. or when i take out a weave, and my hair starts falling like i'm going bald. what i've decided to do is grow my hair out until my shortest layers are shoulder length, then chop it all off to blunt. my hair is just too thin for me to wear layers and its driving me crazy. if that doesnt work, well i dont know what else to do...
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JenniferMD
Guest
You've gotta love the support system in here...I love yall! 
I've wanted to give up at times too...had agressive trims and a hard time with my nape area. But don't give up, you'll feel better soon.
I've wanted to give up at times too...had agressive trims and a hard time with my nape area. But don't give up, you'll feel better soon.
metro_qt
Well-Known Member
You know what? I actually liked Meia's post.
It was kinda inspiring...
Bmm, Maybe Meia is right, maybe a cut brings you back to what's good with your hair.
or maybe, like me, when i was hating my hair in may, you put some braids or a weave in, and forget about it for 2 months.
I took my hair down last thursday and i can say i'm pleasantly surprised.
Give your hair a mental rest, get some distance from it...
It was kinda inspiring...
Bmm, Maybe Meia is right, maybe a cut brings you back to what's good with your hair.
or maybe, like me, when i was hating my hair in may, you put some braids or a weave in, and forget about it for 2 months.
I took my hair down last thursday and i can say i'm pleasantly surprised.
Give your hair a mental rest, get some distance from it...
KathyMay
New Member
Girlfriend please dont give up!!!! There are so many ladies here who have inspired me to keep on with my hair goals. Sometimes yes I wanted to cut my hair off because I thought it wasnt growing but I focused and develop a routine for my hair to grow and now I am almost at shoulder length. So keep on learning from our ladies and maybe you need to take a hair vacation, braids or a sew in weave and if you tolerate the smell try some MTG (it does wonders). Take care and DONT STRESS!
meia
New Member
i agree with the ladies on here...regardless of how many dumb questions i ask..and i certainly do got my times, they are always sweet and attentive..
we all mainly have the same ideas. to just take a bit of a break..
metro_qt: its funny when i sit back and think about them days where my hair was so short peoples ignorance mistook me for a boy..iyou just have to stick with it (like another member said) because your hair is going to grow regardless..
lol andddd that story? seee you can live vicariously through my horrible experiences and see for yourself "damn im not as bad off as she was!!" hahaha...go ahead..i dont mind!! lol
i just know personally, i cant wait until the day when i can look back and see that my journey wasnt for a reason..when i finally have the texture i want and ive reached the goal of my dreams...i honestly cant wait..and as for you Bmm, youll look back on this low point as just another path to getting the beautiful look youve always desired..
good luck to everyone on this board!!!
meia
we all mainly have the same ideas. to just take a bit of a break..
metro_qt: its funny when i sit back and think about them days where my hair was so short peoples ignorance mistook me for a boy..iyou just have to stick with it (like another member said) because your hair is going to grow regardless..
lol andddd that story? seee you can live vicariously through my horrible experiences and see for yourself "damn im not as bad off as she was!!" hahaha...go ahead..i dont mind!! lol
i just know personally, i cant wait until the day when i can look back and see that my journey wasnt for a reason..when i finally have the texture i want and ive reached the goal of my dreams...i honestly cant wait..and as for you Bmm, youll look back on this low point as just another path to getting the beautiful look youve always desired..
good luck to everyone on this board!!!
meia
