I'm sick of my father talking about my hair!

[Tene]

All my life I've had to hear how my brothers hair was longer than mine and blah blah blah. He's really getting on my nerves with this bs. He brought it up again today talking about my mother thought she was carrying a boy when she was pregnant and I was born with no hair. All my brothers was supposedly born with hair down to their necks, which I've seen their pics and I didn't see it. I'm tired of him thinking my hair can't grow or my hair was never long. When I was younger my hair was a few inches past my shoulders before I started getting it messed up by hairdressers and not taking care of it myself for years. So in the car he's talking about when I was born I barely had any hair all of them had long braids when they were younger. Then he's asking me did I ever wonder why their hair was longer. I told him no and I'm thinking to myself I don't give a damn. I don't care if their hair was down to their feet I have more important things to worry about in life. My hair is currently shoulder length and it's healthy. But if you go through years of hairdressers breaking off your hair and you're not taking care of it yourself what do you expect. I just started taking care of my hair 2 years ago when I joined this board after one hairdresser overprocessed my hair and I had to cut it. Then when I told him I've decided to go natural he thinks it's because I wanna grow my hair I told him no it's because I'm tired of getting relaxers. I am really getting sick of him and his comments.

 

[Isis]

That's an interesting fixation for a father to have.

As I'm sure you know, there is nothing we can do to change another person, we can only change ourselves. Sounds like he is noticing how healthy your hair is now and your shoulder length since LHCF. When you stop caring what he is saying about your hair, he will stop. By continuing to do what you are doing he will soon have nothing to say but Wow!

 

[Brownshugaz]

Don't mind him. You know how to take care of your hair and that's all you have to worry about.

 

[MissYocairis]

Hi Tene. I feel you. Dads can be insensitive sometimes. Maybe you could one day, just when you are not feeling emotional about it, just tell him how you feel about that. That would bother me too. I am sure he doesn't realize it's hurting your feelings or he wouldn't be doing it. No matter how long your hair gets, that wound will only heal with communication, forgiveness and time. You could have waistlength hair and one day snap on your father for commenting on it. It will never feel better if he keeps doing it. ((((((huggs))))))

 

[TonicaG]

I agree with the other ladies. This sounds very discouraging especially coming from someone whom you look up to and respect. Being a man, he's probably not mindful of your feelings or what he's saying.

Sounds like you're the only girl. I would address it with him in humility and love so that he will be more aware of his communications with you about your hair in the future.

 

[bluediamond0829]

Girl my dad is somewhat the same way..he is constantly telling me to get those people out of my heads and to stop letting everyone be in my hair...but he doesnt go as far as your dad did...my Nanny use to be like that too...i mean they act like long hair makes the person....ive been thru it to and heard it all.....