Overreacting at hair salon - how to apologize?

[TrendySocialite]

Your reaction was only normal. I know that I've had my hair cut really, really short at least twice in my life from people supposedly "trimming" my hair. You were just trying to protect your lengths. She probably should have asked you before she trimmed your hair. Most stylists don't bother to ask because they feel they know what's best. Fortunately you ran into a good one who actually cares about your hair and what your trying to accomplish. Just go back to her and apologize for your behavior. I'm sure that she'll understand. She's probably experience salon freak-outs worse than that in her life.

I don't really agree with the bolded. There is never an excuse to be rude, especially over hair. I am as serious about my hair as the next person and am quick to speak up about it, but honestly in the grand scheme of things, hair is not a priority. My relationship with people is more important than my hair. And as someone else said, it's hard to find a good stylist.

This is one thing I wish would improve about this board. People tell so many horror stories about stylists and the DIYers are so passionate about not going to the stylist that I think it taints some against stylist so they are hypersensitive and go from 0 to 60 in .2 seconds.

I think an apology pretty quickly is warranted. And as someone said, talk about your hair goals and that you would really prefer to discuss any trims before she picks up the scissors. As my grandmother used to say "It's easier to catch flies with honey than with vinegar." Your tone and words mean a lot. You can tell her not cut her hair, without telling her off.

 

[thefineprint]

i would call soon and then on the next appt. i would bring a card w/ a note telling her how much you appreciate her business - i would also put the tip that she SHOULD have gotten in the card

 

[Honey-Dip]

You should call her and say," I really liked what you did with my hair and I'm sorry for my overreaction." " I hope this will not affect my future visits with you."

Exactly! Very well stated. I am sure she will understand.