Some guy did a weave check on me.

[belleza]

I was out dancing, and this guy comes walking from behind me, and puts his hand on my hair, and gives it a very slight pull and keeps walking. We were in a crowd of people and it was dark, so he disappeared into the crowd before I could check him. Has that ever happened to anyone else.

 

[bluediamond0829]

girl i know you were upset...i had a guy that i was talking too...and my hair wasnt even that long about the length in my avatar..and he kept putting his hands in my hair...and i finally asked him why he kept putting his hands in my hair and actually grabbed his hand to stop him...and i didnt even know him like that...and now that i think of it since you brought that up..i finally now can look back and see thats what he was doing....

people are crazy ...that was rude and ghetto to come up to someone in a club and put there hands in another persons hair to chk for a weave/tracks...

 

[caramelty]

haha......yea this happened to me last March 5th to be exact at my best friends party at this night club and I too was dancing I was like hold up brother....


this was the night

 

[shortness]

Happened to my sister. Sad thing is, she had in a ponytail. She has amazing hair but she wears the ponytail for thinkness and when she goes out to the club because she doesn't want her hair to "puff" up. So she's dancing with some guy and he grabs her ponytail right OFF . Then he sees her hair and says "at least you have nice long hair"
She told me about it and I said if I was her, he would have been running away from me.

 

[rmwms]

This happens to me all the time. My hair is not that long (not yet anyway), but it is really thick and sometimes it looks a little wig-ish. I’m always grabbing somebody hand and telling them to fall back. This is just so rude.

 

[LaNecia]

...I was her, he would have been running away from me.

 

[Phoenix]

I can't believe that people really do this. That is such a violation. You wouldn't walk up to a stranger and grab their boobs if you think they have implants or poke someone in the eyeball to see if they had a glass eye! IMO it is never okay to touch a person's body without their permission. Now see, if you had turned around and smacked him people would have thought you were wrong.

 

[qtgirl]

I've had guys do this to me while I was dancing with them. I never really checked them because if I let you into my zone to dance okay you can touch my hair, plus I think it's funny. But if someone yanked my hair I'd be mad, usu. the dancing guys are just running their fingers through it.

Oh I don't let them do it anymore I'm married.

 

[jasmin]

People are just so ignorant. Sometimes I can't stand people. People feel lke they can treat strangers any kind of way as if it's okay.

 

[asummertyme]

Lmao!! o my goodness..my dad did that too me a few months ago..he stuck his fingers right in my scalp and felt for tracks...lol

 

[MissYocairis]

Lmao!! o my goodness..my dad did that too me a few months ago..he stuck his fingers right in my scalp and felt for tracks...lol

LOL. My aunt felt for tracks on Thanksgiving right in front of the entire family. WITHOUT WARNING. Now, what if I HAD tracks in? She didn't give a damn about my dignity or nothing! *smh*

 

[SweetCaramel1]

lol, too funny! my hair isn't that long but i've had people fun their fingers through my scalp looking of tracks

guys and girls

 

[Iluvsmuhgrass]

lol there was this one guy that kept his hands in my hair. I didn't mind cause i knew him and played in his all of the time. dang it just dawned on me that he was rubbin my scalp feelin for tracks!

 

[balisi]

Unfortunately, yes, this has happened to me on dates, at a new job, etc. I say it's unfortunate only because as black women, we are not expected to naturally have long hair. Serves them right when they discover that yes, it is all mine.

 

[southie20]

I have never had someone feel my hair for tracks. However, I was just talking to my friend about this matter the other day, because I have had a lot of strangers walk up to me lately and ask me if my hair is all real. I was dancing with a guy at a club a few months ago and he stopped dancing and said, " I just have to ask if that your real hair?" When I said yes, it seem like he was suddenly turned on or something. I also had two other guys ask me the same question that night and they seemed turned on also when I told them that my hair is real. The whole thing is quite strange to me. Also, just recently, I was doing some holiday shopping at Lenox Mall and two guys tryed to holler at me. The wierd thing is that the first thing that both guys said to me was "Is that all your hair?" I also had one guy walk up and ask me that, then he just walked away. I think that alot of people just assume that if a black woman has long hair then it must be fake. (In my oppinion my hair really isn't that long. I am now just curious of how people will act when my hair really does get long.)

 

[HairPhoenix]

people are crazy ...that was rude and ghetto to come up to someone in a club and put there hands in another persons hair to chk for a weave/tracks...

I have had that experience a couple of times. YES, that was rude and ghetto.

My question is WHY?! Why to people feel that they need to know sooo badly? What the hell difference is it going to make in their lives whether your hair is a weave or not?

I feel you girl. People need to mind their own business and keep their hands to themselves!!

 

[Undefeated Queen]

LOL, that happened to me last weekend. I was out and this guy ran his fingers through my hair and said, "You got some pretty hair and it's all yours!"

 

[renee_n_3000]

Some woman did this to me years ago in the supermarket. She walked up to me and called me by name, said we went to high school together, and put her hands right through my hair onto my scalp. Then she said, "Oh yeah, I see you still have that long hair," and walked away before my mind could even grasp what happened. I didn't know much about weaves then and I think it was years before I put two and two together and got what she was doing.

Fortunately, that is the only incident I've had where someone touched my scalp, but people do touch my hair without asking. I don't go dancing, but I have had a few men do this when they approached me in other places, like a store, fair, etc. They try to run their fingers through my hair or brush it out of my face, as if they know me when they DON'T!

One time, I was foolish enough to give one of these guys my number when he asked for it after he'd pushed my hair back over my shoulder. I should have known that was a bad sign. When he called that night, he said he could tell I was 'shy' because my hair was in my face when he met me. I told him I was not 'shy,' I was bending over a vendor's table looking at things when he walked up to me, so of course my hair would fall in my face! I asked him if I'd been standing up straight and my hair was hanging straight down, or if I'd had my hair pinned up that day, would he have said still assumed I was shy? He didn't have an answer for that and said a lot of other stupid things during that call so, needless to say, I didn't go out with him.

I have a question: When people do this, are they really usually trying to feel for weaves, or do they just want to touch a woman's hair? The reason I ask is that my cousin pulled my hair a few months ago when I was visiting her at her house. I was getting ready to leave and she was standing behind me, and I felt her pull my hair. It was a 'gentle' kind of pull just at the tips, but it was unmistakable.

Afterwards, having been on this board for a while, I wondered if she thought I had a weave. But, she is seven years older than me and has known me my whole life and we spent a lot of time together. She used to baby-sit me and probably even did my hair a few times when I was a kid, so she knows my hair has always been long. Why, after all these years, would she suddenly think I have a weave now. Also, even if it were a weave, it's not like it would have fallen out by her pulling it, right? Aren't weaves glued or sewn into a person's scalp? So what does the person think they will discover by pulling it? I've never understood that.

A few years ago, her mother (my aunt) greeted me by whispering, "That's all your hair, right? I mean, of course I know it is but, is it?" Again, this woman has known me my WHOLE life. And, I've had an uncle compliment my hair, then lean in to whisper and ask if I was wearing a wig. These people have pictures of me (and my hair) on their walls at various stages in my life. It's just ridiculous to me because I feel these questions have nothing to do with me and everything to do with other people they may know who wear weaves/wigs.

 

[imani97]

Also, even if it were a weave, it's not like it would have fallen out by her pulling it, right? Aren't weaves glued or sewn into a person's scalp? So what does the person think they will discover by pulling it? I've never understood that.

I don't understand this either. I was at Dream one night and a guy pulled my quick weave and then said "oh,it is your hair!" How stupid!

 

[Gryphyn]

This happened to me almost 2 years ago, back when my hair was relaxed. My hair was never longer than chin length, but I was very full. I was on a commuter bus and these 2 guys came and sat behind me. After they were seated, one of them popped up and ran his fingers through the top of my hair. It happened so fast that I couldn't believe it had even really happened! I grabbed my hair and I heard them laugh behind me and they were talking to each other in their language (I have no idea where they were from).

I was so pissed off and and felt so violated. I always regret that I didn't turn around and look at them or get up and move seats. I was in such disbelief!! I honestly felt like someone had just fondled me. Why are some guys so damn stupid

 

[glamazon386]

I don't understand this either. I was at Dream one night and a guy pulled my quick weave and then said "oh,it is your hair!" How stupid!

hahaha whatd he think it was gonna come off? i dont get that even if someone pulled my weave it wouldn't go anywhere. so what really are they trying to accomplish? I've had a few people touch my hair before out the blue and I definitely smacked their hand though. you will not touch the hair. It cost me too much damn money for people i dont know to just be running their grubby fingers through it. LOL And they still thought it was real... It's weird everyone thinks my hair is real and my nails are fake, especially when they get long. Go figure...

 

[CinnaMocha]

People need to get over it all and accept the fact that black women can grown their hair long. Now what did all that prove by him tugging your hair, even if it was a weave, it still would have pulled on your scalp (unless for some reason you just threw together something real quick).

 

[brownhaired_bonanza]

My uncle did a weave check on me at my cousin's high school graduation cookout last summer. I thought it was hilarious, mainly because he's a certifiable nut job. He was just kidding of course but I think everyone has that crazy uncle who can always make you smile by saying (or in this case) doing something silly.

 

[belleza]

This happened to me almost 2 years ago, back when my hair was relaxed. My hair was never longer than chin length, but I was very full. I was on a commuter bus and these 2 guys came and sat behind me. After they were seated, one of them popped up and ran his fingers through the top of my hair. It happened so fast that I couldn't believe it had even really happened! I grabbed my hair and I heard them laugh behind me and they were talking to each other in their language (I have no idea where they were from).

I was so pissed off and and felt so violated. I always regret that I didn't turn around and look at them or get up and move seats. I was in such disbelief!! I honestly felt like someone had just fondled me. Why are some guys so damn stupid

I feel that you were fondled. I don't know why people feel entitled to an explanation about my hair, or anyone's hair. CantBeCopied mentioned that she was called out, without regard to her dignity. What if it was a weave. How do you think this should be handled? The guy who pulled on my hair was very big, and I couldn't get to him. Unfortunately, I'm not sure how I would have handled it if I could have got to him.

 

[beadedgirl]

Man, i know how i could be if this were to happen to me....i'd be like"hey how would u like if i grab your crotch"........ .......now i know thats a crazy response,but that just me!!!!!!!!!!

 

[SparklingFlame]

People are just so ignorant. Sometimes I can't stand people. People feel lke they can treat strangers any kind of way as if it's okay.

Bet they won't do that kinda stuff to a white girl....(I went there!)

 

[joyous]

Happened to my sister. Sad thing is, she had in a ponytail. She has amazing hair but she wears the ponytail for thinkness and when she goes out to the club because she doesn't want her hair to "puff" up. So she's dancing with some guy and he grabs her ponytail right OFF . Then he sees her hair and says "at least you have nice long hair"
She told me about it and I said if I was her, he would have been running away from me.

I would have smacked the s**t out of him. I don't know where people get off at. I've had this happen more times than I can count, even with people who know me. One guy actually yanked my ponytail and took off before I could smack him. My childhood friend is always sticking her hands down in my scalp, even though she knows I've always had long hair. I'm always telling people to keep your f@&*ing hands out of my hair.

 

[Lucia]

Men are looking to get slapped , they think our generation doesn't know how, well I do.mmmph

 

[Mizani_Mrs]

I think it's SEXY!!! if a guy were to touch my hair while we were dancing. as long as i don't get a serious tug...i feel like they are complimenting you by touching your hair because it is so amazingly beautiful that they question whether it's real.....

 

[renee_n_3000]

I don't understand this either. I was at Dream one night and a guy pulled my quick weave and then said "oh,it is your hair!" How stupid!

Ha! It must have looked great and natural, Imani!