Who's in the wrong, me or the stylist??? (answers needed quick)

[Koffie]

I made an appt. yesterday to get my hair done today. The stylist told me to come at 5:00, so I did.

I walk in and then it goes similar to this

Her: Its 5:00 already?

Me: yeah

Her: well I have to finish the head I'm working on, and then I have two more ahead of you. What makes you thinks you can walk up in here like that, you gon' have to sit down and wait like ee'ry body else. (mind you she told me to come at five for the appt.)

And the people ahead of me would take longer that 4 hours, because one was a guy that had long thick hair that needed to be braided, and I forgot what the other wanted.

Me: ***insert stupid look on face for 15 seconds*** Well I will just reschedule for next week, I have some things I need to do

Her: you budgeted your time for today... blah, blah, blah and some other smart mouthed stuff)

Me: okay I'll be back later

Her: don't get lazy on me and not come back and not call, because I will leave you a message that will not be nice

Me: walks out the door and laughs it off.

Her: I'm not playing



She also had an audience while she straight up clowned me ya'll, and her tone was not nice. I don't wan't to talk to her or let her do my hair because of her attitude. Granted, she has been doing my hair since I was 13 (I am 21 now 22 in June of this year), and she got skills, but that still shouldn't make her comfy enough to dis me the way she did.
I suppose she thinks she can talk to me any kinda way since she is my mom's friend from high school.

I just feel I at least owe it to her to call her and politely tell her I will not need her to do my hair. But I don't even want to do that 'cause she was so darn mean to me

I called one of my friends from high school who is also a stylist and she was a good comforter to talk to about this, and I think I will be going to her from now on becuase she got MAAAD skills and she is cheaper ( not to mention she wants me to grow my hair as long as possible )

But I don't ever want to go to my original stylist after 9 years, 'cause I feel that her service is no longer needed.

I don't want to go back tonight either (she is doing someone else's hair as I type), so I just wanted to know what ya'll thought.

 

[MizaniMami]

Well, I know me. I would have been very embarrassed. I probably wouldn't go back. Obviously she have no respect for you or your money because she was getting smart with you in front of the salon. In my opinion, I think she direspected you and you have every right to have gotten mad. And IF she does have the nerve to call you. I would tell her what she did wasn't cool and she obviously don't want your money.

 

[goldensensation]

She had to be joking. She was acting like she was the one paying YOU.

I think that you made a good move to change stylists.

 

[Koffie]

She had to be joking.

Girl, I wish she was, but she was dead serious.

She don't realize that stylists are like men and that she CAN be replaced.

 

[BabyImaStarr]

Well, I know me. I would have been very embarrassed. I probably wouldn't go back. Obviously she have no respect for you or your money because she was getting smart with you in front of the salon. In my opinion, I think she direspected you and you have every right to have gotten mad. And IF she does have the nerve to call you. I would tell her what she did wasn't cool and she obviously don't want your money.

I agree.

 

[Dark&Lovley]

I would not go back 2 her anymore either. People kill me! Just because she been doing your hair that long & she's u'r mother friend doesn't give her the right 2 disrespect u or put u on blast
She probably did that because she had a audience

Anyway its your money and its a beauty salon on every other corner with someone with skills so just go to your friend that other lady doesn't deserve your time nor money

 

[Teacake]

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[testimony777]

Well, I know me. I would have been very embarrassed. I probably wouldn't go back. Obviously she have no respect for you or your money because she was getting smart with you in front of the salon. In my opinion, I think she direspected you and you have every right to have gotten mad. And IF she does have the nerve to call you. I would tell her what she did wasn't cool and she obviously don't want your money.

Amen to that! I cannot believe she treated you that way . If she calls you you should make sure she knows (in a respectful way) exactly why you will no longer be needing er services.

Good for you for finding another stylist and not just accepting the poor service and the disrespect she showed you. I hope it works out for you.

 

[Koffie]

Thank ya'll, I am really grateful for the support I get from all of you guys.

 

[Neroli]

Sounds as if she was clearly rude to you and no longer deserves your business.

Interesting that she is your mother's friend and been doing your hair that long. Whew! Are you gonna tell your mother what happened? Has she ever done this before?

I know whenever I go my stylist (which is like 4 times a year now and then only for touchups) I just factor in about 3 hours 'cause that's how they all operate, in my experience. I now don't even bother to go on fridays or saturdays 'cause I know the drill -- I try to schedule appts on their "slow" days -- usually tuesday and wednesday. Now, I'm not saying its right or that anyone have to tolerate them "packing it in" but they're as bad as going to the doctors who always run late. I'm an attorney and I get the same complaint from my clients, that I always keep them waiting but it's not intentional, honest . . . plus, I ALWAYS apologize profusely for keeping folks waiting, 'cause I sure need there business . . .

 

[blackbarbie]

Girl, get gone! I used to have that prob. when I went to my step-brother, but he never clowned me in front of people though. It's just that when I got there for my scheduled appt. time, he would still have people way in front of me and I told him it didn't make sense for him to stack appointments on top of each other (all in the name of being greedy and trying to make that money) and felt like just b/c someone was there they would just stay there b/c they really needed their hair done. He would say the same thing too (you have the time set aside anyway) and I would tell him that the only time I had budgeted for my hair is the 2 1/2 hours it normally takes to wash and set or either the 3 1/2 hours for a touch up - nothing more. I would always tell him that my time is just as valuable as his and just didn't appreciate having to wait. I had to reschedule with him quite a few times and didn't feel bad, but what she did to you was downright now called for, even though she was laughing it off (and was dead serious)

Just call her and make sure you let her know that not only are you not coming back this evening, you won't be returning because even though you set aside the time to see her, you running that far behind (or rather, HER running that far behind) really throws your schedule off and while you have enjoyed her services all these years, you're just going to have to find someone that can accomodate your schedule a little better.

Good Luck~

 

[MizAvalon]

I agree with everyone, drop her. The fact that she is your Mom's friend and has known you since you were younger probably makes her think that she can talk to you any way she wants. Like you're her child or something.

These stylists really kill me. It's a shame that their attitudes cost them business.

 

[Koffie]

Okay ya'll, I just called and cancelled the appt.

Her: Okay, have a nice weekend BYE!!****hangs up phone****

Me: sittin here lookin like "Glad I ain't got to deal w/ her no' mo'"

 

[jasmin]

If she's late like that all the time and she clowned me she wouldn't be my stylist anymore. Besides I would have told her then she should manage her time better.

 

[Koffie]

Are you gonna tell your mother what happened? Has she ever done this before?

I was thinking of tellin' mama her friend is crazy, and no, I can't remember a time that she has straight up dissed me like that, even though she's always been ruff around the edges.

 

[sareca]

You were not wrong. She had all of these appts. stacked up together. I can't blame you for letting go of a stylist who has an attitude. I would do the same thing. She acted like you were the problem, and she was doing you a favor. I really hate when stylists act like their time is valuable, and yours is not. She doesn't deserve your money. I hope everything goes well with your new stylist.

Co-signing. You were mistreated. Was this the first incident?

 

[Koffie]

Co-signing. You were mistreated. Was this the first incident?

if my memory serves correct, this is the first time she just went straight flip mode on me

 

[SweetCaramel1]

she was acting like a mother not a business woman, what the heck was her problem? i agree that she does not respect you, treating you like she's yo mama. maybe your still a baby to her but that doesn't give her any right to chastise you. i wouldn't go back or wait an extremely long time (6 months or so) before i did to teach her a lesson. or you can confront her but would you feel comfortable letting her do your hair afterwards? i think not. whatever you decide it's her loss for playing the fool

 

[Dark&Lovley]

Okay ya'll, I just called and cancelled the appt.

Her: Okay, have a nice weekend BYE!!****hangs up phone****

Me: sittin here lookin like "Glad I ain't got to deal w/ her no' mo'"

erplexed Girl that broad got a problem
And she the 1 suppose 2 b gettin yo
money with that jacked up attitude!
Please!
Don't bow down 2 her!

 

[Super_Hero_Girl]

she was acting like a mother not a business woman, what the heck was her problem? i agree that she does not respect you, treating you like she's yo mama. maybe your still a baby to her but that doesn't give her any right to chastise you. i wouldn't go back or wait an extremely long time (6 months or so) before i did to teach her a lesson. or you can confront her but would you feel comfortable letting her do your hair afterwards? i think not. whatever you decide it's her loss for playing the fool

This is what I thought when I read your post. She sounds very condescending and as if she doesn't respect you. Her attitude and responses are severly unprofessional too. Saying she's going to leave you a nasty message, joking or not is just ridiculous! I wouldn't ever go back to her EVER! There are plenty of other stylist out there. Plus, you can keep your money to yourself and learn to style your own hair, it's possible.

 

[nicki6]

Oh my.....you handled the situation properly and with class
Tell your mom what happened before she gets in her version.

The 21 yr old me would have been intimidated and just left. The 34 yr old me NOW would have flipped the script and shamed HER in front of her clients

 

[balisi]

I'm glad you canceled on her. You don't have to take that kind of treatment from anyone. Shame on her! You did the right thing.

 

[GinnyP]

I made an appt. yesterday to get my hair done today. The stylist told me to come at 5:00, so I did.

I walk in and then it goes similar to this

Her: Its 5:00 already?

Me: yeah

Her: well I have to finish the head I'm working on, and then I have two more ahead of you. What makes you thinks you can walk up in here like that, you gon' have to sit down and wait like ee'ry body else. (mind you she told me to come at five for the appt.)

And the people ahead of me would take longer that 4 hours, because one was a guy that had long thick hair that needed to be braided, and I forgot what the other wanted.

Me: ***insert stupid look on face for 15 seconds*** Well I will just reschedule for next week, I have some things I need to do

Her: you budgeted your time for today... blah, blah, blah and some other smart mouthed stuff)

Me: okay I'll be back later

Her: don't get lazy on me and not come back and not call, because I will leave you a message that will not be nice

Me: walks out the door and laughs it off.

Her: I'm not playing



She also had an audience while she straight up clowned me ya'll, and her tone was not nice. I don't wan't to talk to her or let her do my hair because of her attitude. Granted, she has been doing my hair since I was 13 (I am 21 now 22 in June of this year), and she got skills, but that still shouldn't make her comfy enough to dis me the way she did.
I suppose she thinks she can talk to me any kinda way since she is my mom's friend from high school.

I just feel I at least owe it to her to call her and politely tell her I will not need her to do my hair. But I don't even want to do that 'cause she was so darn mean to me

I called one of my friends from high school who is also a stylist and she was a good comforter to talk to about this, and I think I will be going to her from now on becuase she got MAAAD skills and she is cheaper ( not to mention she wants me to grow my hair as long as possible )

But I don't ever want to go to my original stylist after 9 years, 'cause I feel that her service is no longer needed.

I don't want to go back tonight either (she is doing someone else's hair as I type), so I just wanted to know what ya'll thought.

Ok, I know exactly how you feel this has happen to me on several occasions--YOU ARE RIGHT! But never ever go back to her--I could write a book on all my experiences with hair stylists they make you feel like you owe them something, these are the people we are paying for a service and giving them extra tips(afterwards) for what rudness!! Please don't go back!

Thank God for LHCF!!! thank you guys

 

[hottopic]

I would stop going to her. It's sounds like she has beef with your family and is taking it out on you.

 

[Chyna Red]

You are definitely not in the wrong. Had it been me, I would've had a few choice words for her and rescheduled with another stylist right in the shop. (provided I saw their work and was okay with it) Trying to show off in front of other customers instead of trying to keep her clients. Serves her right that she lost your business.

 

[SandySea]

Sounds like this stylist's skills have gone to her head and cut some important circuits. I wouldn't bother going back because you don't have to pay to be mistreated.

 

[CinnaMocha]

She was blatantly disrespectful to you and regardless of how long you and her have had a working relationship and who you two mutually know that does not give her the right to pull that type of a stunt. Should you go back or call her and explain, that is all up to you. However, if I were in your shoes, I would not. She doesn't deserve your sense of decency (for wanting to contact her and explain).

I am sure you work too hard to pay someone for that type of behavior...and since you feel her services are no longer needed sever ties and move on. Maybe she'll learn not to do that to her faithful customers.

 

[CinnaMocha]

Oh my.....you handled the situation properly and with class
Tell your mom what happened before she gets in her version.

The 21 yr old me would have been intimidated and just left. The 34 yr old me NOW would have flipped the script and shamed HER in front of her clients

My sentiment exact!

 

[godzooki]

As the others said, drop her and keep walkin. My old hairdresser did the same thing. It got so bad she did it at every appt. and like an idiot I took it becuase I had been going to her for 10 yrs...It's as if once you become a regular customer they feel they can use and abuse you because they know you won't go anywhere else. Well, after her last abuse of me and chewing me out because I wanted to try a different perm and not allow her to chop my hair again I calmly said ok and that was it. Never went back, never called and explained why. She called a couple of times after that, including a few months ago (and I dumped her 3 yrs ago!!) to see how I was doing and was interested in comming in any time soon. Ha-lo! Thankfully, I was never home to actually speak to her and only got messages... I'm glad I dumped her. I lost her but gained 10 inches which I'm sure she'd choke on if she saw!

 

[beyondcute]

I just read the second part and you deserve better. Id tell your mom too and tell your friends too so they wont go there. Trust me when peopel start getting fed up she will start calling her old clients. And then you tell her "Have a nice weekend BYE!"