So Depressed...I Could Just Cry!

[Christelyn]

I was looking at an old photograph of me and my kids at my son's first birthday party. I'd have to scan a pic, but trust me, my hair was well passed APL and on my way to MBL. You can kind of tell in my avatar.

Four years later and the back of my hair BARELY reaches APL, and that's if I stretch it there. Basically, I'm full shoulder length with some long parts in the back. And you know how it happened? A jealous, cross-eyed hairstylist who braided my hair and, rather than braid my hair to the end, SHE CUT IT. Of course, I didn't realize this until 2 months later when i took the braids out for my hubby's 35th b-day party back in 2006--which is when I decided to sack hairstylists altogether and figure things out on my own. Setback or no, it would now be MY DOING. My hair's fate would be in my hands and I wasn't going to give that much power to another person, even if it meant it would take a minute (or a few years) for me to get my hair back.

But anyway, I'm just depressed because at one time, I had the length I've been striving to get back--the length most members on here covet. I had it, and lost it by the hands of a hateful stylist.

I'm determined to get my hair back to where it was, but I don't want to have to wear wigs, weaves or braids the whole time. Its like, I want to do it with just my hair, you know?

 

[I Am So Blessed]

awwwwww, dont be depressed, you will get there again in no time!

dam stylists, thats why ill never trust one, especialy if they want to give me a trim.


if i lost my progress to a SHS (scissor happy stylist), she would get a serious beat down, im talking about fist straight to the mouth, on the spot. would not control my temper at that moment.

i hate hearing stories like these. smdh

 

[MahoganyJazz]

I fully understand your pain. My hair was cut by a braider last month. She cut 5-6 inch chunks out in random places by being negligent. I cried the night I figured out what had happened. Thankfully it wasn't as big of a set back as I expected, but still I had to get my hair cut into layers just to mask the damage.

I felt really crappy until I realized that my mother lost all of her MBL hair a few years ago from bad psoriasis on her scalp. It has stunted her growth, and she's happy to have the little afro she has.

Take this time to baby your hair, and take better care of it than you did before. It'll grow back, stronger and healthier before from this set back. I believe that with all of my heart!

 

[likewtr4chklit]

((((HUGS))) Like you said it's in your hands. And you have all the info you need literally at your finger tips. Wigs and weaves aren't the only way. But I do agree protective styles and the right styling tools/techniques are the best way. Get encouraged, stay encouraged!!!

 

[I Am So Blessed]

if you baby your hair, im sure youll be at apl within a few months! you said you full SL right, (counts in head)<--ok half inch each month, ok ok. yes thats right, a few months thats all.

 

[Esq.2B]

I'm confused. Are you depressed over an incident that happened in 2006?

 

[Christelyn]

Thanks for the encouragement, girls. I'm just having a moment, I'm sure it will pass. It just depressed me to look back and see all that hair I had, and to have a stylist take all that hard work away is and continues to be devastating. That's why I'll never, ever, ever, put my complete trust in ANY stylist. I can be BALD ALL BY MYSELF.

 

[Christelyn]

I'm confused. Are you depressed over an incident that happened in 2006?

The incident resulted in me loosing about 4-5 inches of hair by a braider who cut it. I'm still trying to get my hair back where it was, but haven't made it yet. I've had setback and trims, setbacks and cuts, etc. Still chasing the dragon. KWIM?

 

[BlaqBella]

I have too (left stylists alone) alot longer ago than it seems like most women here have. I haven't been to one since the mid-early 90's. Yes it feels good to know everything has been my choice. Since finding the forum in 08' i'm about 3in. from apl and i know why i'm not already there( too many trims/bandwagons) so i'm cool. And i choose to wear MY HAIR. I get the urge from time to time for extensions of some sort but have yet to go through w/ putting any in (which i would do myself).

 

[Christelyn]

I have too (left stylists alone) alot longer ago than it seems like most women here have. I haven't been to one since the mid-early 90's. Yes it feels good to know everything has been my choice. Since finding the forum in 08' i'm about 3in. from apl and i know why i'm not already there( too many trims/bandwagons) so i'm cool. And i choose to wear MY HAIR. I get the urge from time to time for extensions of some sort but have yet to go through w/ putting any in (which i would do myself).

That's it exactly! At least your mistakes are yours, not imposed upon you by another person!

 

[Day36]

I'm sorry girly. I dont have much to add but *hugs*

 

[My Friend]

I was up having my own pity party too I'm now eating chocolate , I'll eat another piece on your behalf . It always makes me feel better, hopefully you will too

 

[Esq.2B]

The incident resulted in me loosing about 4-5 inches of hair by a braider who cut it. I'm still trying to get my hair back where it was, but haven't made it yet. I've had setback and trims, setbacks and cuts, etc. Still chasing the dragon. KWIM?

Ohhh okay, I get it. I thought I was misunderstanding your post or there was a typo. I hate that you had to experience that . I've suffered a few setbacks at the hands of stylists too, but thank goodness I've recovered. I know how you feel though. Well, just look to the future. We can't do anything about what's done but take it as a lesson learned which I'm sure you have. It's hair, it'll grow back eventually even if it takes a while. Though, I understand your frustration .


Do you have a plan of action, to get your hair back to where it was?

 

[Christelyn]

Ohhh okay, I get it. I thought I was misunderstanding your post or there was a typo. I hate that you had to experience that . I've suffered a few setbacks at the hands of stylists too, but thank goodness I've recovered. I know how you feel though. Well, just look to the future. We can't do anything about what's done but take it as a lesson learned which I'm sure you have. It's hair, it'll grow back eventually even if it takes a while. Though, I understand your frustration .


Do you have a plan of action, to get your hair back to where it was?

Yes. I'm going to try a couple of things. For the next two months or so, I'm wearing my hair in protective styles only, using (little to) no heat, no matter how much of a HAM I look like. I'll do a length check at the end of April and if I have good results, I'll keep with the above method. My hair is fine and likes to hug itself so I have to be careful of the curly styles when my hair is unstraightened. Then in June I'm going on vacation so I will probably do braids for a couple months just so I can swim with impunity in the summer with my kids. So...maybe the holidays I'll see APL again. If not, I'll just have to buckle down and wear braids for a couple years, which is how I started to get all that length in the first place. But first, I want to give it an honest effort w/o the use of fake hair.

 

[LadyPaniolo]

I, too, have been hacked off by a stylist. She chopped my hair down to a ridiculous level, out of jealousy. In fact, the majority of times my hair was messed up badly, it was done *deliberately* by a stylist. I made the decision a few years ago to NEVER allow anyone else into my hair. Braids can be done in your own head. I wore C&G braids for 1.5-2 years and I did them myself.

DIY is the way to go for me. Sure, a style may look more professional when a stylist does it, but the cost is way too high in terms of :dollar: AND in terms of a potential setback.

 

[ThickHair]

It has been over 3 years and your hair hasn't grown back yet? I guess I am not getting it. Your hair should be well past what it was before.

ETA: OK reading is fundamental, I should have read the whole thread before posting. Good luck on your hair journey.

 

[KrystalClear]

I was looking at an old photograph of me and my kids at my son's first birthday party. I'd have to scan a pic, but trust me, my hair was well passed APL and on my way to MBL. You can kind of tell in my avatar.

Four years later and the back of my hair BARELY reaches APL, and that's if I stretch it there. Basically, I'm full shoulder length with some long parts in the back. And you know how it happened? A jealous, cross-eyed hairstylist who braided my hair and, rather than braid my hair to the end, SHE CUT IT. Of course, I didn't realize this until 2 months later when i took the braids out for my hubby's 35th b-day party back in 2006--which is when I decided to sack hairstylists altogether and figure things out on my own. Setback or no, it would now be MY DOING. My hair's fate would be in my hands and I wasn't going to give that much power to another person, even if it meant it would take a minute (or a few years) for me to get my hair back.

But anyway, I'm just depressed because at one time, I had the length I've been striving to get back--the length most members on here covet. I had it, and lost it by the hands of a hateful stylist.

I'm determined to get my hair back to where it was, but I don't want to have to wear wigs, weaves or braids the whole time. Its like, I want to do it with just my hair, you know?

Aww, I know that can be depressing! But I'm sure here at LHCF you will feel the support and encouragement to get your hair back to the length in no time! I never ever go to salons, I don't trust them either!

 

[ms.blue]

I'm sorry this happened to and it doesn't matter it happened you are still going to remember it b/c it was a traumatized momment. My sister still complains her first weave taking out her hair and that was in '07. When I get my hair braided, i'll tell them don't cut my hair and I don't care if it's not going to neat. I know you will get that length in no time.

 

[DaR3alM3]

with the knowledge you gain here you'll have that hair back soon. I'll just need you to pop in that salon and say hi when you do. Make sure you get your swang on.

 

[Esq.2B]

Yes. I'm going to try a couple of things. For the next two months or so, I'm wearing my hair in protective styles only, using (little to) no heat, no matter how much of a HAM I look like. I'll do a length check at the end of April and if I have good results, I'll keep with the above method. My hair is fine and likes to hug itself so I have to be careful of the curly styles when my hair is unstraightened. Then in June I'm going on vacation so I will probably do braids for a couple months just so I can swim with impunity in the summer with my kids. So...maybe the holidays I'll see APL again. If not, I'll just have to buckle down and wear braids for a couple years, which is how I started to get all that length in the first place. But first, I want to give it an honest effort w/o the use of fake hair.

Okay, and make sure to take some swimmer's shampoo w/ you to remove those caustic chemicals after you swim (assuming you'll be in chlorine). Also, don't forget to wash and DC while you're in the braids. And to keep your hair moisturized. You'll have your length back in no time.