2012 Relaxed Hair Buddy Thread

[niqu92]

im sitting under the dryer doing my first self rollerset im so nervoooouus cause i usually go to the salon and do it so i hope it turns out well lol
i spent the past 2wks doing braidouts and i realized that i just need to stick to rollersets because braidouts, although they look good, made my hair dry and it was breaking like cRAZY with rollersets my hair is soft, moisturized, and its low manipulation for the whole week

 

[TeeSGee]

I finally got really good results from airdrying yesterday. so since it's warming up, i think i'll start co-washing then airdry instead of rollersetting.

Can u ladies Nix08, @sunnieb, @divachyk plz recommend a really moisturizing co-wash conditioner and list ur steps plz. still not sure how to go about doing it. thank u

 

[Nix08]

@TeeSGee
I get in the shower (I do not detangle first)..Wet my hair thoroughly, apply my first lather of conditioner (I use a discontinued line for my first lather (so nevermind that)) but sometimes I use Millcreek Biotin conditioner (when I want protein) rinse then apply oil if I'm doing an oil rinse (I recommend you try it...I love it) then apply AOHSR or AOWC and let that sit while I cleanse myself then rinse from head to toe. Squeeze the water out of my hair wrap in a microfiber towel and get dressed. Add my cream leave in (beauty without cruelty) and a couple drops of oil (Gleau oil blend) and that's it....I finger comb/detangle as my hair is air drying. However at 10/11 weeks post I use my rake comb to stretch out my new growth and proceed to finger detangle
ETA: being sure to smooth my hair as I go.

 

[sunnieb]

TeeSGee - welcome to the wonderful world of cowashing!

I think the most moisturizing conditioner I use is a toss up between HE Hydrolicius and HE Touchably Smooth with Hydrolicius slightly in the lead.

To cowash, here's what I do:

Totally wet my hair until every inch is sopping wet. Gently squeeze ends to get rid of excess.

Slather on conditioner. I'm very heavy handed.

Put on plastic cap and finish shower duties.

Rinse with lukewarm water while gently combing with shower comb. Running water helps me get the tangles out.

Lightly blot with towel and set hair for airdrying.

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[TeeSGee]

@TeeSGee
I get in the shower (I do not detangle first)..Wet my hair thoroughly, apply my first lather of conditioner (I use a discontinued line for my first lather (so nevermind that)) but sometimes I use Millcreek Biotin conditioner (when I want protein) rinse then apply oil if I'm doing an oil rinse (I recommend you try it...I love it) then apply AOHSR or AOWC and let that sit while I cleanse myself then rinse from head to toe. Squeeze the water out of my hair wrap in a microfiber towel and get dressed. Add my cream leave in (beauty without cruelty) and a couple drops of oil (Gleau oil blend) and that's it....I finger comb/detangle as my hair is air drying. However at 10/11 weeks post I use my rake comb to stretch out my new growth and proceed to finger detangle
ETA: being sure to smooth my hair as I go.

@TeeSGee - welcome to the wonderful world of cowashing!

I think the most moisturizing conditioner I use is a toss up between HE Hydrolicius and HE Touchably Smooth with Hydrolicius slightly in the lead.

To cowash, here's what I do:

Totally wet my hair until every inch is sopping wet. Gently squeeze ends to get rid of excess.

Slather on conditioner. I'm very heavy handed.

Put on plastic cap and finish shower duties.

Rinse with lukewarm water while gently combing with shower comb. Running water helps me get the tangles out.

Lightly blot with towel and set hair for airdrying.

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Nix08 and sunnieb Thank u for such a thorough explanation. This was very helpful. i i'll start cowashing this wknd and my do it 3x/wkly.
Do u guys DC before cowash as well? I'll check out oil rinsing as well, seems like it would be yummy on the hair, any specific oil recommended for this.

 

[Lanea87]

I want in, hope its not too late! I need a/some buddy (buddies)....

How many weeks post are you right now? 10 weeks 4 days

How long are you stretching? My aim is 26 weeks, I realized that my hair was stronger and healthier when I did 6 months stretching.

Any other info? I stopped doing the 6 months and went to the 3-4 months and my hair was thinning over time. It was either the timming or the Mizani being too strong because I use to use the DE at the salon. But anywho I am in Sengalese Twist at the moment and those have been in for 6 weeks so far and I am trying to make it to 10 weeks.

 

[sunnieb]

Nix08 and sunnieb Thank u for such a thorough explanation. This was very helpful. i i'll start cowashing this wknd and my do it 3x/wkly.
Do u guys DC before cowash as well? I'll check out oil rinsing as well, seems like it would be yummy on the hair, any specific oil recommended for this.

Nope, I have cowash days and dc days. One of the things I love about cowashing is how it slides in my schedule with no effort.

I'm in the shower anyway, so why not slather on some conditioner. I airdry while I go on about my business doing house stuff.

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[Nix08]

I have an oil blend of WGO, avocado, hemp, lemongrass, sunflower, olive, vitamin E and flax that I use during my DC and I just use the same oil for my oil rinse. When I get home I change out of my work clothes and will slap some conditioner in my hair while I go about making dinner etc. I then cowash as described above. So that's what I call my simple DC. I do a more in depth DC on weekends with steam. But all of my dc's are on dry hair.

 

[KhandiB]

Sunnib - um, I just checked out your fotki, and Im amazed at how you get your new growth to lay like that..

Do you just use your hands to part and smooth your ponytails for the pony rollerset?

Nope, I have cowash days and dc days. One of the things I love about cowashing is how it slides in my schedule with no effort.

I'm in the shower anyway, so why not slather on some conditioner. I airdry while I go on about my business doing house stuff.

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[Loving]

WHen do you guys start cowashing? At how many weeks post? I am thinking of incorporating this in my reggie.

 

[Nix08]

WHen do you guys start cowashing? At how many weeks post? I am thinking of incorporating this in my reggie.

I cowash starting the day after my relaxer...I cowash almost every day...it's addictive (I just love it)! This coming from a girl who use to dread washing her hair once a week or less

 

[Loving]

Nix08 How do you airdry? In braids, bantu knots or do you let it hang loose?

 

[Nix08]

Loving I let her hang loose

 

[sunnieb]

KhandiB - yep, I only use my fingers.
Since my hair is still wet, it's pretty easy to smooth it down like that. Also, my ponytails are tight than a mug! My newgrowth has no choice but to succumb!

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[TeeSGee]

Thanks again ladies for responding to my question, it was very helpful and i will definitely be incorporating Cowashing into my regi, starting this wknd, since i already did my shampoo and DC on tuesday.

 

[mandii]

I'm so ashamed.... but i get an "e" for effort.... rip to my new growth, but... viva la creamy crack!!!

1 day post relaxer
stretched for 8 weeks
I'll post pics when I get better lighting...

 

[KiWiStyle]

xu93texas,
I made it home! Without delay, I prepoo'd, clarified, hard protein treatment and now I'm relaxing under my steamer with my DC...I am in hair heaven. Especially knowing the next time I wash my hair, I won't have nappy roots!!! Thanks for calming me down, girl I was thinking "what have I done"?! Anyway I will use Paul Mitchell Leave-In"The Conditioner", air dry about 75% in low ponytail then add Jane Carter N&S and vatika frosting...DONE! Wear low bun until relaxer.

 

[xu93texas]

KiWiStyle,
I'm glad you're feeling better about your hair. Let me know how it turned out. I'm excited about getting my hair done next week as well. I co-washed yesterday and did a braidout. I love it! I plan to CW again tomorrow and do my final shampoo/protein treatment on Saturday evening and do a spiral rod set to wear until relaxer day.

 

[sunnieb]

11 weeks 4 days post today

I did a protein dc last night and set my hair to airdry as usual. Well, I knew my hair was still a bit damp when I went to bed, but I've always done that.

I knew something was wrong when I took my bonnet off and my hair just flopped out. It was wet! Not damp, WET! Ugh!

I don't know what happened, maybe because we have cooler weather today???

So, I'm at work wearing an unplanned wet bun. Looks fine, but I don't like going out with wet hair!





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[Nix08]

sunnieb it looks more than fine BUT didn't you giggle to yourself when your hair as you put it "flopped out" that's one of those... "You know your hair is getting long when moments"

 

[sunnieb]

Nix08 - I wasn't giggling this morning, but you are right! When I was NL, my hair never flopped!

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[Nix08]

Tonight's the night ladies...although I'm feeling VERY lazy to do my relaxer....

 

[KiWiStyle]

KiWiStyle,
I'm glad you're feeling better about your hair. Let me know how it turned out. I'm excited about getting my hair done next week as well. I co-washed yesterday and did a braidout. I love it! I plan to CW again tomorrow and do my final shampoo/protein treatment on Saturday evening and do a spiral rod set to wear until relaxer day.

xu93texas,

With my cw addiction, I might do another moisture cw before the weekend is up but definitely not after sunday. I want to learn to style my hair so bad, girl all I do is pin-ups and my itty-bitty bun...so boring. After my relaxer i'm going to try some new styles, I already have everything I need for a roller set. My new challenge: Master roller sets!! Rods after I reach APL!!

 

[xu93texas]

KiWiStyle,
I've been thinking about what to do with my hair after relaxing as well. I'll probably be rollersetting, wearing my phony ponytail and the bun. I've already started watching YT videos on rollersetting.

I didn't get a chance to cw Thursday, therefore I'll be doing it sometime today. We're going to Six Flags on Sunday and I'll shampoo/protein/DC afterwards.

Why are you waiting to get to APL before doing rod sets?? I use to do them when I had my hair cut into an EL bob last July. The style would last at least 4 days. I'll be rotating between rods and magnetic rollers.

 

[KiWiStyle]

xu93texas,
I've done the yt video thing too but for some reason I was only brave enough to do a ponytail roller set, oh, I tried to roller set my entire head once but it didn't turn out so well so I lost hope.

I'm waiting to do rods at SL so that I can have length and they'll hang some, not just sitting on top of my head like a TWA, lol.

I did an oil treatment on my scalp last night (forgot to heat) with EVOO, JBCO, coconut peppermint and grape seed oils, turned my head upside down (read this in an article) for 2-4 minutes, GHE'd and now my head is really tingling. I think it's a good sign things are working up there because I got the blood really circulating. I'm going to implement this into my regimen at least 3-4 days a week. I'll be trying that and I bought new hair/nails pills because I ran out of Nioxins. Ulta isn't stocking them anymore and I don't want to order them from Amazon so i'm try Phyto Phytophanere Dietary supplements for a while. I also bought Nioxin Scalp Treatment #4 (at Marshall's ;-)) and want to try this on my front edges, I've had it for a while but I wanted to wait until my next stretch. My father and maternal grandmother both have the receding hairline so if it's hereditary i'd like to nip that in the bud if possible because this seems to be one of my troubled areas.

Have fun at six flags, I can't wait until six flags open here. Last year we didn't do much for fun at all but things will be different this summer...FUN IN THE SUN!

 

[sunnieb]

11 weeks 6 days post today.....

I cowashed with HE Hydrolicious tonight and my hair felt divine in the shower, but not so much once I was out. I don't know, maybe I'm over my hair this week. I was frustrated with detangling even though it wasn't that bad.

I'm so ready for a fresh relaxer!!!!!

 

[Lanea87]

How long are you stretching? My aim is 26 weeks, I realized that my hair was stronger and healthier when I did 6 months stretching..........(And not bothering it, like being in a sew-in or braids)

Any other info? I stopped doing the 6 months and went to the 3-4 months and my hair was thinning over time. It was either the timming or the Mizani being too strong because I use to use the DE at the salon and my hair was fine. But anywho I am in Sengalese Twist at the moment and those have been in for 6 weeks so far and I am trying to make it to 10 weeks.

@xu93texas,
I want to learn to style my hair so bad, girl all I do is pin-ups and my itty-bitty bun...so boring.

I am 11 weeks post today!

I am so undecided at the moment and I really need you ladies help. Sooo I started my HHJ back in like 2008 and I was going hard with great progress. But after a while I wasnt getting to my STG because someone kept cutting it (not the same person). I kinda got discouraged and backed off my hair and moved on too another hobby which didnt help my hair either. And during that time I also started being a DIY girl (good for my pockets but I guess bad for my hair), as far as relaxers because that was the only thing I went to the shop for.

I am not far from BSL now but I feel that my hair is all thin and I refuse to wear it down for that reason. Mind you even though I have alway been relaxed I never wore my hair down besides the day I went to the salon to get the relaxer and maybe a day or two after.

I wanna be able to wear my hair down too, heck! I dont really know if it was the Mizani or the lack of me caring about my hair any more bc of not hitting my upcoming STG (dont get me wrong I was still washing and stuff on a routine, but I wasnt going my DC and treatments). I feel that I am a relaxed head for no reason because no one ever sees it down IDK whether to keep trying or go on over to the other side Another thing even after I relax my hair is never just really straight, I mean I can only get it straight at the salon. When I am in the shower I sweat bc the water is too hot I am guessing, but thats how I like it (cant be taking no cool showers). I stay in Texas so its always hot here, hell we pushing 85 F....anywho after taking shower and unwrapping its a limp wet mess. I dont know what to do anymore....I am just sad!

 

[KiWiStyle]

I am 14w 4d post today and I can't take it anymore:-(. My NG is very dense and tangles without doing a thing to my hair. I had planned to CW today but after hand detangling on Friday and putting Darcy's transitioning Creme on my NG, I've decided no more manipulation until after relaxing, which btw, seems ages away but in reality, it's only 5 days away. My scalp is tender and itches sometimes, it's been 4 days since I shampoo'd and my scalp is begging for some water. I don't want to touch or look at my hair and if I could get away with it, I would hide my hair until Friday.

 

[claudzie]

Now that my braids are out I can feel my new growth in full force!! Arrgh can't wait to relax. Counting down now....

 

[sunnieb]

I'm 12 weeks post!!

I moisturized this morning and put my hair in a bun and that's where it has remained all day. I think I can make it to 15 weeks. I think I can. I think I can. I think I can.

I think all of my buddies have relaxed so I'll just post randomly until somebody "adopts" me.