2012 Relaxed Hair Buddy Thread

[baddison]

@Raspberry,
So does this mean we're not relaxer buddies anymore?:-(?


@xu93texas, @baddison

KiWiStyle, xu93texas, ...if you're still holding out...I am definitely holding out. Its getter tougher, but I made a vow not to relax until 18weeks post. That puts me at August 18th. So, I guess, we lost Raspberry...LOL!!!

But I'm still waiting to see your results Raspberry!!! And what technique did you use for self-relaxing??

 

[baddison]

I'm hanging in there ladies. It's getting rough though. I'm getting ready to do my weekly wash/DC. I'll be doing a black tea rinse as well. I've had some mild shedding. I'm almost done with my current batch of MN. I'm going to stop that for a while and go back to JBCO and something with sulfur.

My ng is insane!! I really do need to relax sooner than planned. I'll assess my hair at that time and hopefully the shedding will be under control. I'm going to hold out as long as possible, at least 16 weeks.

Yup - I totally hear you with the new growth. And it seems the warmer weather makes it grow even more - like weeds. But I'm gonna stay true to my August 18th date. I really have no choice....the weekends before and after that date are already all booked and planned. So really its the only available weekend I have to do my t/up. Hanging in there is all I can do 'til then. Weekly dc's, protective styling and barely touching my roots is the game plan that's been working.

 

[baddison]

Hi girls!

I'm not a newbie to the forum but I might as well be - I'm starting from scratch on my healthy hair journey and really trying to figure out what works best for me. I've had some hair depression over the past year - it started with me having a nice APL following a long sew-in period, to me now being NL after some major setbacks. And even at this length, I'm seeing way more breakage than I should.

I've been doing a lot of research on this thread and others and I'm really gonna try to see what works for me. I just clarified for like the first time ever. I had been using a moisturizing shampoo that didn't really clean my hair, so I think that's been leading to a lot of my dryness and breakage. I'm sitting under the drying now deep conditioning and plan to continue to consistently moisturize my hair 2x/day. I'm hoping for some major retention and growth over the next year.

Welcome back, Mona123 !! Congrats on your decision to start anew and get your HHJ back under control. Hoping to follow you along your journey and share your successes, too.

 

[Stillsaddity]

Im trying to make 12 weeks my norm for now but I still have to get up to that. My next pit stop is 9 weeks.

I made it 12 weeks this last time and that was my first stretch but I think I wanna push the limit!

 

[Cattypus1]

Hi girls!

I'm not a newbie to the forum but I might as well be - I'm starting from scratch on my healthy hair journey and really trying to figure out what works best for me. I've had some hair depression over the past year - it started with me having a nice APL following a long sew-in period, to me now being NL after some major setbacks. And even at this length, I'm seeing way more breakage than I should.

I've been doing a lot of research on this thread and others and I'm really gonna try to see what works for me. I just clarified for like the first time ever. I had been using a moisturizing shampoo that didn't really clean my hair, so I think that's been leading to a lot of my dryness and breakage. I'm sitting under the drying now deep conditioning and plan to continue to consistently moisturize my hair 2x/day. I'm hoping for some major retention and growth over the next year.

Good luck on your HHJ.

 

[Raspberry]

@KiWiStyle I'm gonna try to stop trippin about the underprocessing, thanks for your input

@xu93texas @baddison I posted my TU results in the relaxer reveal thread.

@Raspberry,
So does this mean we're not relaxer buddies anymore?:-(?

LOL I'm fine with being buddies still, I never planned on stretching longer than 12 weeks though and I knew you all were. It's the mutual advice that counts the most anyways.

 

[Jobwright]

My hair is soo soft and thick! you know castor oil is the main ingredient in QG AOHC. I was in a serious quest to keep dd's twists moisturized because she's in day camp everyday and out in the high heat and sun. I for the first time added this QB AOHC before the QB athiopika and the difference was overwhelming!! Her twists were shiny, thick and stayed moisturized for days so I said why not try this on my NG. I'm glad I did because not only will I not have to moisturize my NG until wash day, it's also stretched, My NG isn't nearly as packed as before.

What does QB AOHC stand for and where do you get it from?

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[Cattypus1]

I am 14 weeks post, shooting for the end of July to relax and I totally need a relaxer buddy...anybody out there wanna buddy-up?

 

[Honey Bee]

I want a buddy but I don't stretch or relax on a schedule. My hair is too fine to stretch, I can't get past 8-9 weeks without damage. And I don't really believe in a schedule cuz my hair grows at different rates. Sometimes I can go nine weeks, other times I can't go further than six. I'm planning on touching up next week, though, if anybody is on my same no-schedule schedule, lol.

 

[Cattypus1]

My hair is soo soft and thick! you know castor oil is the main ingredient in QG AOHC. I was in a serious quest to keep dd's twists moisturized because she's in day camp everyday and out in the high heat and sun. I for the first time added this QB AOHC before the QB athiopika and the difference was overwhelming!! Her twists were shiny, thick and stayed moisturized for days so I said why not try this on my NG. I'm glad I did because not only will I not have to moisturize my NG until wash day, it's also stretched, My NG isn't nearly as packed as before.

What does QB AOHC stand for and where do you get it from?

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I had never heard of it so I had to look it up...Qhemet Biologics Amla & Olive Oil Heavy Cream. I sure you can find it on the Internet...try Amazon, they have everything. I've never used it. Is it recommended? For what?

 

[WhippedButterCreme]

Cattypus1 Wanna relaxer buddy up? Someone who can go 14 weeks post is someone I need to be listening to.

 

[KiWiStyle]

My hair is soo soft and thick! you know castor oil is the main ingredient in QG AOHC. I was in a serious quest to keep dd's twists moisturized because she's in day camp everyday and out in the high heat and sun. I for the first time added this QB AOHC before the QB athiopika and the difference was overwhelming!! Her twists were shiny, thick and stayed moisturized for days so I said why not try this on my NG. I'm glad I did because not only will I not have to moisturize my NG until wash day, it's also stretched, My NG isn't nearly as packed as before.

What does QB AOHC stand for and where do you get it from?

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QB AOHC = Qhemet Biologics Amla & Olive Heavy Cream. You can buy it online and limited authorized retailers.

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[KiWiStyle]

I had never heard of it so I had to look it up...Qhemet Biologics Amla & Olive Oil Heavy Cream. I sure you can find it on the Internet...try Amazon, they have everything. I've never used it. Is it recommended? For what?

See the above. ^^^^^

It's an all natural hair line, her products are great and used by a lot of members here. The AOHC is the thicker version of the Burdock Root Butter Cream. Her products are packed with lots of great, the AOHC's first ingredient is castor oil. This stuff has my NG feeling amazing!

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[xu93texas]

KiWiStyle,

Update...
I hope I can make it 16 weeks. I had a rough detangling session last night. I lost more hair than I can recall in a long time. My hair was a tangled mess. I did a black tea rinse before applying DC and got under the dryer for at least 30 minutes. I applied my leave ins and began to detangle. It was a mess! I threw away my MN mix b/c I think it's causing the increase in shedding. I'm also not going to use anymore "natural conditioners on my relaxed hair". For some reason my hair tangles when using silicone free conditioners. erplexed

I'm keeping my ng moisturized with a spray that contains glycerin and I'm also using DB transitioning creme. I don't have a problem with keeping my ng moisturized, it's wash day (shedding/detangling) that irks me.

So I'm going to see what happens on Saturday when I wash/DC again. If I have another wash day like last night, I'm relaxing @ 14 weeks. It's not worth me losing hair trying to stretch a few more weeks. I'm just saying...

 

[xu93texas]

@KiWiStyle, @xu93texas, ...if you're still holding out...I am definitely holding out. Its getter tougher, but I made a vow not to relax until 18weeks post. That puts me at August 18th. So, I guess, we lost @Raspberry...LOL!!!

But I'm still waiting to see your results Raspberry!!! And what technique did you use for self-relaxing??

baddison,
See my post above ^^^I can't afford another wash day like I had last night. Unfortunately, I won't be relaxing at 17/18 weeks with you. I really wanted to stretch longer, but my hair isn't cooperating.

I'm still cheering you on!

 

[xu93texas]

@KiWiStyle I'm gonna try to stop trippin about the underprocessing, thanks for your input

@xu93texas @baddison I posted my TU results in the relaxer reveal thread.



LOL I'm fine with being buddies still, I never planned on stretching longer than 12 weeks though and I knew you all were. It's the mutual advice that counts the most anyways.

Raspberry,
We're still buddies! I won't be too far behind you. It depends on my next wash/DC session.

I can't wait to see your pics! Thanks for posting them.

 

[KiWiStyle]

KiWiStyle,

Update...
I hope I can make it 16 weeks. I had a rough detangling session last night. I lost more hair than I can recall in a long time. My hair was a tangled mess. I did a black tea rinse before applying DC and got under the dryer for at least 30 minutes. I applied my leave ins and began to detangle. It was a mess! I threw away my MN mix b/c I think it's causing the increase in shedding. I'm also not going to use anymore "natural conditioners on my relaxed hair". For some reason my hair tangles when using silicone free conditioners. erplexed

I'm keeping my ng moisturized with a spray that contains glycerin and I'm also using DB transitioning creme. I don't have a problem with keeping my ng moisturized, it's wash day (shedding/detangling) that irks me.

So I'm going to see what happens on Saturday when I wash/DC again. If I have another wash day like last night, I'm relaxing @ 14 weeks. It's not worth me losing hair trying to stretch a few more weeks. I'm just saying...

xu93texas,

Oh, my:-(. I am sending you good wash day vibes~~~~. That means you will be relaxing next week. Are you pre-wash detangling? Washing, DC and detangling in sections? Do you think relaxing will stop the shedding? I can't wait for wash day to see if clearing my scalp of the NG helped with my shedding. I did another black tea rinse last weekend and it did nothing for my shedding which indicated to me it's the MN.

I used the DB transitioning creme before this stretch and I must say, my NG moisture is far superior now using QB AOHC than with DC. I actually feel like if I can curb the shedding, I can stretch for much longer, though I won't ;-).

Whatever you decide, I'm sure it'll be the best choice for you. I'm really hoping your next wash day goes very well. Try pre-pooing overnight with coconut oil and finger detangle before hand to see if that'll make a difference.

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[Cattypus1]

Cattypus1 Wanna relaxer buddy up? Someone who can go 14 weeks post is someone I need to be listening to.

Absolutely! Let's do it...not sure about the listening, I'm a work in progress. My hair is the longest it's ever been but I think it's mostly by accident. I never even thought about stretching before joining LCHF. What's your goal?

 

[Cattypus1]

See the above. ^^^^^

It's an all natural hair line, her products are great and used by a lot of members here. The AOHC is the thicker version of the Burdock Root Butter Cream. Her products are packed with lots of great, the AOHC's first ingredient is castor oil. This stuff has my NG feeling amazing!

Sent from my iPhone using LHCF

Thanks, I'll have to check it out...I'm a major PJ! I'll buy anything that'll make my hair feel good.

 

[xu93texas]

KiWiStyle,

Thanks for your concern. As far as my pre-poo/wash/DC/detangling routine, that hasn't changed at all. I've been doing the same thing for over a year now. I'm not sure if the relaxer will stop the shedding. It'll just make my hair more manageable. I went through my journal and read through my notes and the only thing that's different during this stretch is the products I'm using and the fact that I jumpstarted my ng with MN. So I threw away the MN and I'll be going back to the products I used during my last stretch. I hope this results in a better wash/DC day.

 

[KiWiStyle]

KiWiStyle,

Thanks for your concern. As far as my pre-poo/wash/DC/detangling routine, that hasn't changed at all. I've been doing the same thing for over a year now. I'm not sure if the relaxer will stop the shedding. It'll just make my hair more manageable. I went through my journal and read through my notes and the only thing that's different during this stretch is the products I'm using and the fact that I jumpstarted my ng with MN. So I threw away the MN and I'll be going back to the products I used during my last stretch. I hope this results in a better wash/DC day.

xu93texas,

Fingers crossed for a successful wash day. Both of us have a sudden bout of shedding and the only single thing the two of us share in common is the MN...go figureerplexed

 

[Ms. Tiki]

Nix08 and divachyk I still have not relaxed. I'm at 13.5 weeks

 

[Nix08]

Ms. Tiki When do you think you'll relax? You'll get a lovely length surprise I'm sure when you do your TU

 

[Ms. Tiki]

Nix08 Naw, remember I just flat ironed and trimmed. I have no idea. I'm going to be in different types of braids for at least another month.

 

[divachyk]

Go Ms. Tiki - everything going well on your stretch thus far?

 

[Ms. Tiki]

divachyk I've had major shedding lately but other than that no issues. Granted, I have been super lazy with my hair. I've been in french braids and now I'm going into cornrows

 

[Raspberry]

@xu93texas Sorry to hear about your detangling woes, I know how frustrating that is . After some experimenting I found that after week 10, dry detangling works best for me. I started finger detangling after I tension blow dried on cool/warm in sections and applying lots of product. Sounds out of order but stretching the hair some before manipulation tends to work well on tightly coiled/kinky natural hair and works out for my NG as well.

@KiWiStyle See, yall are tempting me with Qhemet products again. I swear whenever I'm about to hit "Pay Now" with her she happens to be out of stock of whatever I want at the moment lol: I definitely want to try one of her butters during my stretch though.

 

[KiWiStyle]

@xu93texas Sorry to hear about your detangling woes, I know how frustrating that is . After some experimenting I found that after week 10, dry detangling works best for me. I started finger detangling after I tension blow dried on cool/warm in sections and applying lots of product. Sounds out of order but stretching the hair some before manipulation tends to work well on tightly coiled/kinky natural hair and works out for my NG as well.

@KiWiStyle See, yall are tempting me with Qhemet products again. I swear whenever I'm about to hit "Pay Now" with her she happens to be out of stock of whatever I want at the moment lol: I definitely want to try one of her butters during my stretch though.

Raspberry,
Yeah, she can't keep up with demand. There is a thread here, I think it's labeled "Qhemet Biologics" and the owner is apart of the discussion daily, I think her name is Napta or something similar. You might want to check it out and ask her any questions you may hav , she is good with answering questions and letting people know of availability in their areas.

 

[Cattypus1]

Nix08 and divachyk I still have not relaxed. I'm at 13.5 weeks

That's awesome Ms. Tiki, I'm starting week 15 today myself. I fall half way off the wagon every other day...LOL...I'm trying to make it to the end of July. My daughter thinks its hilarious! She is encouraging me to get steam treatments to soften my wild as hell NG. Anybody else try steam? What were your results? Would you do it again? I think I'm going to try it.

 

[baddison]

@KiWiStyle,

Thanks for your concern. As far as my pre-poo/wash/DC/detangling routine, that hasn't changed at all. I've been doing the same thing for over a year now. I'm not sure if the relaxer will stop the shedding. It'll just make my hair more manageable. I went through my journal and read through my notes and the only thing that's different during this stretch is the products I'm using and the fact that I jumpstarted my ng with MN. So I threw away the MN and I'll be going back to the products I used during my last stretch. I hope this results in a better wash/DC day.

xu93texas : wow ....sorry you had such a rough time. Did you wash/DC/detangle in braids/twists/sections? That is the only thing that saves my hair after I have reached this far into a strecth. As a matter of fact, I have to do EVERY SINGLE THING in sections. If I simply touch my hair at this stage...it has to be touched in sections. Otherwise tons of breakage and shedding, too. So far its been terrific. I can say with fervent honestly that I lose about 7 shed hairs each morning, when I groom. That shoud give you an idea of how much I am NOT visiting my NG at all....LOL! August 18th can't get here soon enough.

Here's to hoping for a better wash day for you as you approach your relaxer.