Anyone CURRENTLY uncertain about what direction you're going with your hair?

[Smiley79]

Just feel like ranting...I'm taking care of my hair and am happy with my hair progress and health. But since my flop 9 months into my transition attempt, earlier this year, I have been like a lost little sheep, lol. I dont know what I want to do next. Try to transition again, continue relaxing, become a long term stretcher? decision, decisions... Just curious if anyone else is going through that right now.

 

[BellaLunie]

Girl I'm in the same boat! I've been seeing so many beautiful natural heads and I'm thinking about transitioning for the first time. I'm about 10 weeks post and my new growth is ridiculous! I've decided to play it by ear. I'm not going to count the weeks or anything just continuing dcing 2x weekly and protective styling.

 

[lamaria211]

im with you guys i did my bc in 4/2010 and now im pretty much at a stand still on what i want my hair to look like, i havent had natural hair since i was 14years old and im not even sure what its gonna look like once i get past this TWA. but im optomistic and with the help of other transitioners before me i think i might be alright: i think WE will be alright! great thread btw

 

[melissa-bee]

Not really, it just needs to grow!

 

[ms.blue]

I'm a natural and even though I like it sometimes I get so frustrated because I'm not the best at styling my hair. Dealing w/ ssks is annoying as heck. I did a bkt hoping this will reduce the amount knots I get and the amount of heat I use. I also don't like not seeing any length unless I use heat. I think I'm just frustrated b/c I see my hair everyday and I need to hide my hair for like s month or two. That is my mini rant.

 

[Ese88]

me. i am transitioning but i must admit sometimes i feel like relaxing.
Im starting to gain length & i feel like if i chop it all off it will take years to get it back.(im a slow grower). I also want to be sure that it's really what i want to do because im feeling apprehensive about all these stories about ssk's & shrinkage.
On the other hand my relaxed hair is not as full as i would like it to be & i thought going natural would help that.

 

[*CherryPie*]

I'm in that BIG boat with y'all.

I've been transitioning in my mind for a year now. After only 2-3 months I relax again. I've been acting so wishy washy lately.

When I see beautiful natural hair, I wanna transition.
When I see beautiful relaxed hair, I wanna stay relaxed and continue to MBL.

I've loved natural hair wayyy before I found LHCF, and always wanted natural hair. But I just can't transition. When my hair becomes difficult (two textures), I talk myself into relaxing.

I don't know if it's that, or my fear of possibly having to let go of my long hair for a while.

IDK.

 

[Imani]

I'm uncertain about some things. I'm 9 months post. However, I'm not uncertain about being natural. When I think about sitting in that chair with my scalp on fire and walking out the door with flat, lifeless hair stuck to my scalp, naw son!! And I look at my little trouble spot, and see that its actually trying to grow out instead of snapping off So no, not uncertain about continuing to go natural and transition.

I am uncertain about how I want to wear my hair. Whether I want to continue flat ironing all the time. If I want to take a chance with weaves or braids or something for the summer and beyond. And I'm also uncertain about my hair goals, some days I look in the mirror at a fresh flat iron job and I'm like man, short hair is cute on me, I just need a few more inches and I'm good. Then, I'm like, I bet I'd be fly with some armpit length hair, so I can have more style options; but then its a question of what am I willing to do to acheive it. I don't have hair thats just gonna get long without hard work and some extreme measures. I'd probably have to give up my beloved heat and protective style ALL the time, which I hate.

 

[belldandy]

no, I am just frustrated and impatient waiting for growth

 

[Meritamen]

I'm stuck with what I should do with my hair next. I had pretty much everything done to my hair that I can think of. Can't decide if I should continue relaxing my hair or texlax on my next salon visit. :S

 

[maxineshaw]

The only thing I'm uncertain about is which products to use. I'm very happy with the current status of my hair. I'm learning great techniques that keep is soft and moisturized. I'm learning what's good and bad for my hair. Finding a good (not necessarily HG, but just "good") product is kind of difficult for me.

 

[drappedup]

Sort of...I'm transitioning and I don't really miss relaxers, I've more or less gotten used to not getting them (last 1 was in November), however I do get the urge to flat iron my hair or even go as far as getting add on hair sewed in again (which is what caused my hair to be completely RUINED by end of 2009 >.<). I just miss having longer hair, and I really just like straighter hair on me, and so having natural frizz and curl is just not for me a good deal of the time, especially when having to updo for work. So sometimes I doubt everything and wonder WTF am I even doing? Oh, and of course length....it's hard to feel as if maybe I'm wasting time waiting for length when I can just go and fake it with sewed tracks.

 

[MzK]

Not really, it just needs to grow!

I second that.....oh, and finding the PERFECT regimen.
That's my issue right now....erplexed

 

[Imani]

Sort of...I'm transitioning and I don't really miss relaxers, I've more or less gotten used to not getting them (last 1 was in November), however I do get the urge to flat iron my hair or even go as far as getting add on hair sewed in again (which is what caused my hair to be completely RUINED by end of 2009 >.<). I just miss having longer hair, and I really just like straighter hair on me, and so having natural frizz and curl is just not for me a good deal of the time, especially when having to updo for work. So sometimes I doubt everything and wonder WTF am I even doing? Oh, and of course length....it's hard to feel as if maybe I'm wasting time waiting for length when I can just go and fake it with sewed tracks.

How did the sew in mess up your hair? See this is what I'm afraid of. I'm like, maybe I need to take a break from heat. But then its like and do what? Some people are like their hair grew all luscious and long from wearing weaves and braids all the time then others are like weaves and braids tore there hair up. erplexed

 

[halee_J]

I am actually. I am on a long term stretch right now, and I finally learned how to manage both textures. A few days ago I was thinking, why not be natural again?(for the third time LOL). My impass is straightening. I feel my scalp is happier natural, but I like straight hair 90% of the time. I live in a humid climate so mastering the flat ironing has been a task.

Overall though, I just want more length. So i'm going to try making it to 6 months, then a year and see how it goes from there. One things for sure, I won't be doing a BC if I do transition again.

 

[drappedup]

How did the sew in mess up your hair? See this is what I'm afraid of. I'm like, maybe I need to take a break from heat. But then its like and do what? Some people are like their hair grew all luscious and long from wearing weaves and braids all the time then others are like weaves and braids tore there hair up. erplexed

I think in my case it has a lot to do with my stylist. erplexed I was getting about 1 track sewed in halfway down the back of my head, and that whole section of my hair just started breaking off BIG TIME, and each visit I'd ask if I could see my hair length BEFORE she started putting in the track, so I could see my natural length, and she just always happened to forget or be busy or distracted, etc., and then the very last time I went to her I had a bad feeling about my hair (I had noticed a difference at home when combing my hair and trying to put it up in a bun, back half of my real hair was short as can be and couldn't even be gathered into a pony anymore ), and so I told her I NEEDED to see my hair naturally this time. And I was super adamant about it because she kept trying to avoid it and instead suggest I let her braid it up into a full weave. I wasn't having it, I could tell she was reluctant, and finally when I saw my hair..... the whole back was about missing. I had started getting tracks to GROW my hair, but ironically enough I had ended up with much shorter hair in the back than when I started. I was so upset I decided that was the last straw with not only relaxers and sew in hair (for me), but DEFINITELY with that stylist since she had proven herself to NOT be out for my personal hair benefit but to make money on my visits.

So yeah, I think a big part of what happened to me was my stylist not genuinely wanting to help me hair-wise. I've found that to be the case with most stylists, though. I've lost faith in them, tbh.

 

[Imani]

I think in my case it has a lot to do with my stylist. erplexed I was getting about 1 track sewed in halfway down the back of my head, and that whole section of my hair just started breaking off BIG TIME, and each visit I'd ask if I could see my hair length BEFORE she started putting in the track, so I could see my natural length, and she just always happened to forget or be busy or distracted, etc., and then the very last time I went to her I had a bad feeling about my hair (I had noticed a difference at home when combing my hair and trying to put it up in a bun, back half of my real hair was short as can be and couldn't even be gathered into a pony anymore ), and so I told her I NEEDED to see my hair naturally this time. And I was super adamant about it because she kept trying to avoid it and instead suggest I let her braid it up into a full weave. I wasn't having it, I could tell she was reluctant, and finally when I saw my hair..... the whole back was about missing. I had started getting tracks to GROW my hair, but ironically enough I had ended up with much shorter hair in the back than when I started. I was so upset I decided that was the last straw with not only relaxers and sew in hair (for me), but DEFINITELY with that stylist since she had proven herself to NOT be out for my personal hair benefit but to make money on my visits.

So yeah, I think a big part of what happened to me was my stylist not genuinely wanting to help me hair-wise. I've found that to be the case with most stylists, though. I've lost faith in them, tbh.

Aw man, I'm sorry that happened to you Its some evil stylists out there. I'm a very softspoken quiet person and had to learn the hard way that you gotta put your foot down and stand up to these crazy stylists when u know something is wrong.

 

[Rocky91]

i can finally truthfully say that i'm not-this is it-i have solid goals now, and this'll be the last time i "grow" it out.

i'm aiming for full BLUNT APL.
i'm using heat every step of the way.
i'm trimming as often as it takes.
i will not layer again.
i will not be afraid of the scissors-my hair will maintain a cute shape.
i will continue coloring.
i will wear my hair out as often as i damn please.

*ends mini rant*

 

[SignatureBeauty]

I have always been wishy washy with my hair going back and forth with being natural & texlaxed, I am always confused LOL! I just see beautiful hair Relaxed or Natural, I just get so bored with the Twa, I wished I would have Transitioned instead.

 

[Smiley79]

I'm in that BIG boat with y'all.

I've been transitioning in my mind for a year now. After only 2-3 months I relax again. I've been acting so wishy washy lately.

When I see beautiful natural hair, I wanna transition.
When I see beautiful relaxed hair, I wanna stay relaxed and continue to MBL.

I've loved natural hair wayyy before I found LHCF, and always wanted natural hair. But I just can't transition. When my hair becomes difficult (two textures), I talk myself into relaxing.

I don't know if it's that, or my fear of possibly having to let go of my long hair for a while.

IDK.

I have found my hair twin. I couln't have said it any better. I'm just floating. But I like what the earlier poster said about not counting days and months...just taking it one day at a time. I have been but I still hate not having a definite plan. Oh well.

 

[onejamifan]

Just feel like ranting...I'm taking care of my hair and am happy with my hair progress and health. But since my flop 9 months into my transition attempt, earlier this year, I have been like a lost little sheep, lol. I dont know what I want to do next. Try to transition again, continue relaxing, become a long term stretcher? decision, decisions... Just curious if anyone else is going through that right now.

Today marks 1 year since my last relaxer and I don't know if I want to continue transitioning. My hair looks a HAM most of the time these days and detangling and rollersetting is getting soooo hard!! But then I see videos like longhairdontcare or other gorgeous natural heads and I think I want to continue transitioning. Just this morning, DH told me he misses the way my hair used to look. He says on me, straight long hair looks better than "poofy" semi-strait hair....

So I too am on the fence about what to do next. I will be going to the salon on Saturday and see what happens...

 

[MissLawyerLady]

Glad I'm not the only one!

I'm unsure about everything- except that I'm not going back to my stylist anymore. I've gone to her for 10 years and in my last 3 visits she has jacked my hair up so bad. I got 3 inches cut off this week by a white stylist at Regis, who let me see exactly how much she was cutting and did a great job. I will be returning to her for trims.

I'm preparing to be a DIY'er with the relaxers for a while, unless I can find another stylist. I'm really scared to trust anyone with my hair now though. I've also been considering transitioning. Just undecided...and back to between APL and BSL. I was so close to full BSL too . Oh well, it looks much healthier now.

 

[Miss_C]

I just can't seem to make any decisions. Do I want to keep getting sew ins or wear half wigs with braids? Do I want to just work with my natural hair? Heat or no heat? BKT?
I can't braid for nothing, so the one braidout I did came out looking like crap on me.
The only things I know about my hair right now are that I am completely ambivalent about relaxing right now, but I really REALLY want my childhood length back
( I was relaxed WL until 10th grade because of a stylist setback and since I insisted on wearing my hair out everyday without ever learning to do it, my hair became stuck at unhealthy SL). I felt like I was the only one, thanks for this thread.

 

[beans4reezy]

Smilely you must be reading my mind! I am 62 weeks post at the moment, and when I see how wonderfully full my hair is I just don't know if I want to relax again. Then again, I haven't been natural since childhood, so I am afraid I would get an F with the upkeep. I am still back and forth. I wont know which direction I am headed in until after I take these braids out...I have a couple more months to think....

 

[SignatureBeauty]

This hair thing is so complicated LOL!! It use to be so easy. It is good to know we are not alone.

 

[pringe]

I'm uncertain every DAM day! i think for now I'm just gonna keep doing exactly what I am before I do something drastic and make a rush decision i might regret later.

 

[TokyoReina]

I've never been as confused about my hair as I am now. I called myself transitioning...now 15 weeks post and I call myself transitioning. And then I ask myself why I want to transition...and I don't even know since I had no real problem with being relaxed. erplexed I'd probably want it straight a majority of the time anyway.

So now I'm sitting here, with my hair in twists under a wig cap just so I can stop messing with it for a second, wondering what the heck is going on.

 

[*CherryPie*]

It was easy for me when I was BLISSFULLY ignorant about healthy haircare.

Probably because I also had long hair then.

Healthy haircare is difficult.

This hair thing is so complicated LOL!! It use to be so easy. It is good to know we are not alone.

 

[boundlessbeauty]

I'm frustrated because I haven't figured my hair out yet. I'm impatient in terms of growth, mad at myself because of setbacks....ok i'm going to stop before i get mad.

 

[LoveisYou]

Thanks so much OP for starting this thread. I'm going through this right now. I'm very wishy washy with my hair, this is my second go around of being natural and I'm kind of bored with my natural hair, but at the same time I'm not a huge fan of relaxed hair, lol. I think I may just weave for awhile.