Anyone CURRENTLY uncertain about what direction you're going with your hair?

[SignatureBeauty]

It was easy for me when I was BLISSFULLY ignorant about healthy haircare.

Probably because I also had long hair then.

Healthy haircare is difficult.

LOL!! I truly understand, when I found this forum in 2003 it was then I decided to chop my hair off and go natural, nothing was wrong with my relaxed hair, now every since I keep Big Chopping then relax, since 2003, This year it has to stop, it has been 7 years and I have had Short hair. If I ever relax my hair again it will stay that way, if I texlax, it will stay that way, No More Big Chopping

 

[LoveisYou]

LOL!! I truly understand, when I found this forum in 2003 it was then I decided to chop my hair off and go natural, nothing was wrong with my relaxed hair, now every since I keep Big Chopping then relax, since 2003, This year it has to stop, it has been 7 years and I have had Short hair. If I ever relax my hair again it will stay that way, if I texlax, it will stay that way, No More Big Chopping

same here, I keep on cutting off my hair

 

[Lola Laughs]

i will wear my hair out as often as i damn please...

Amen @ the bolded. The only thing I have been uncertain about is really commiting to protective styling. I love to wear my hair out, I realize this may mean less retention, but I've come to peace with that.

 

[SignatureBeauty]

same here, I keep on cutting off my hair

We all could have had waist length hair by now LOL!! Sometimes it gets confusing because we want to be natural and embrace our god given hair, then we want ease, then sometimes we want that straight hair, flowing, or to keep up with the current styles of Today.

 

[Smiley79]

Today marks 1 year since my last relaxer and I don't know if I want to continue transitioning. My hair looks a HAM most of the time these days and detangling and rollersetting is getting soooo hard!! But then I see videos like longhairdontcare or other gorgeous natural heads and I think I want to continue transitioning. Just this morning, DH told me he misses the way my hair used to look. He says on me, straight long hair looks better than "poofy" semi-strait hair....

So I too am on the fence about what to do next. I will be going to the salon on Saturday and see what happens...

Girl, you have me rollin' over here. I feel the same way. I think I may just do long term stretching until I can commit to one thing becuase this is just ridiculous. I'm ready to start enjoying my hair instead of worrying every second what my mater plan is going to be.

 

[Smiley79]

Thanks so much OP for starting this thread. I'm going through this right now. I'm very wishy washy with my hair, this is my second go around of being natural and I'm kind of bored with my natural hair, but at the same time I'm not a huge fan of relaxed hair, lol. I think I may just weave for awhile.

Yes, i feel the same.

 

[hair4romheaven]

Almost 10 mths post not sure if I want to be natural or transition to fully texlaxed. Wondering if fully texlaxed will be the best of both worlds since I am mostly 4beezie.

 

[butterfly3582]

Me Me Me

I had a relaxer in Oct 09. I started wearing wigs for growth so I have not relaxed. So I am like am I going to tranisition to natural, due year strestches or transition to texlax

IDK. But i have decided that I will wait until the end of the year to decide.

I have a good reggie down and I have FINALLY learn how to detangle my hair with minimum breakage. My hair is braided 4 weeks than I wear a bun for 1 week and braid it again. My hair seems to be thriven but I have to figure something out.

 

[butterfly3582]

Almost 10 mths post not sure if I want to be natural or transition to fully texlaxed. Wondering if fully texlaxed will be the best of both worlds since I am mostly 4beezie.

This is exactly what I have been bondering.

 

[SimplyBlessed]

I'm a natural and even though I like it sometimes I get so frustrated because I'm not the best at styling my hair. Dealing w/ ssks is annoying as heck.

I'm in the same boat...not to mention i'm very hair lazy so I just end up throwing on a wig and sometimes neglecting my hair erplexed

 

[Fab_Nikki]

The only thing I'm uncertain about is which products to use. I'm very happy with the current status of my hair. I'm learning great techniques that keep is soft and moisturized. I'm learning what's good and bad for my hair. Finding a good (not necessarily HG, but just "good") product is kind of difficult for me.

This is the case I'm in also. I am 100% dedicated to transitioning to my natural hair. I'm just unsure of the various products I've tried, most are doing nothing much for my hair (except for Skala and Vo5 condish). I just want to have a tried and true reggie. Also my texture is buggin' me out because its mostly just wavey in the front but I have cute curls in the back. If I BC'd right now I have no idea what my head would look like.

 

[chasturner84]

Definitely me!! I love seeing healthy natural hair because I'm a sucker for curls, kinks, and big hair BUT I also love long healthy relaxed hair. I've never had either until last year; my hair is at its healthiest state ever since I found LHCF, started stretching, and developed a decent reggie. I'm even gaining the length that I've always wanted and the thickness due to unintentional underprocessing is fantastic...(I didn't know of texlaxing until LHCF). TODAY I'm thinking that I'll continue on the texlax path until I reach MBL and then I'll transition. I'll probably want to be natural and BC tomorrow. Who knows...

 

[Golden75]

Yup in the boat. A long term stretch turned into maybe I'll transition- coming up on 11 months. Don't know if I want to be natural, relax, texlax, BKT. My mind changes everyday. Now I just braid it, put on a hw go to the day job, then put on a hat for the night job. Just bored with this routine. But until I figure it out, this is what it will be. I realized I have a lot of breakage from stretching, so seems like relaxing is out. And my transitioning hair looks a HAM when I try to bun it.

 

[SignatureBeauty]

I have made up my mind, I am gonna lightly relax my hair with Mizani Butter Blends, and just stretch, that way I will still have my curls, and my hair will remain soft all day, I am not turning back and will not regret anything. I will be Happy! I will be Happy I Say!! Lol!

 

[Shananyganz]

I might be answering the question all wrong, but....

I know which direction I am going in, so that isn’t the issue...I decided early last year I would transition to natural; I BC'ed in June 2009 and have been growing my hair out every since via protective styling. Right now I have my hair out to breath and will be braiding this weekend. Every time I take it out, it is CLEAR that it has grown and is healthy and is now at a length where I can experiment with hairstyles. BUT, my thing is...I keep focusing on my end goal instead of just ENJOYING where I am. I love my hair...but I often catch myself on this "well...when my hair gets to X length I'll be able to do Y and Z style".

I'm frustrating myself and really taking the fun out of learning my natural hair and what it can do NOW because I am so busy looking to what it WILL do. I think it is okay to have goals in mind for your hair, but dude...I don't think I should be THIS focused on what my hair WILL do…eventually…someday. I look at my hair and I KNOW "I love it!!" I look a little harder and then I say...”but it'd look better bigger”... whomp!!! Seriously...will it EVER be big enough!?

It’s questions like that that make me wonder if I am doing well with my hair…I feel it should be growing soooooo much faster and the thing about it is I am right at average and I have retained all that I grew (minus a few S&D’s). Like I said, I can see the growth, but I got these rose tinted lenses focused on a BAA and beyond clouding my vision.

Needless to say, impatience is my nemesis and direct cause for confusion and frustration.

~S~

 

[kizzylonghair]

I did a protein treatment - Nexuss Emergencee/DC 3 weeks ago, porosity control/DC 2 weeks and then I relaxed a week ago, Its wash day Thursday...What do I do with it??????????????????????????????????????????????????????

 

[exoticmommie]

I just want longer hair.

I am relaxed, but I haven't been wearing my hair straight or using heat.

I feel so ungrateful though, when I recently straightened, I was surprised at how much progress I have made in the past few months (maybe because I am working out). But even then I wasn't satisfied.

I am pretty certain though that I want to get to WL. I will probably be uncertain after that though. Like what next?

 

[Imani]

i can finally truthfully say that i'm not-this is it-i have solid goals now, and this'll be the last time i "grow" it out.

i'm aiming for full BLUNT APL.
i'm using heat every step of the way.
i'm trimming as often as it takes.
i will not layer again.
i will not be afraid of the scissors-my hair will maintain a cute shape.
i will continue coloring.
i will wear my hair out as often as i damn please.

*ends mini rant*

I am so feeling you on the bolded. I went thru periods where I gave up heat and wore protective styles 24/7 and was walking around looking a homely hot mess. I know some folks can rock a cute bun or updo or something, but most of the time I just thought I looked a mess. And then my progress wasn't really any better. So I was like fug it and started wearing my hair out and heating it up again.

I went thru a time when I would not cut my hair and it eventually just was not flattering to my face, so I definitely will be keeping a cute shape to my hair.

 

[hair4romheaven]

This is exactly what I have been bondering.

I am also not going to make any decisions until Dec....My birthday. By then I will be 16mnths post.

 

[Smiley79]

WOW, y'all wouldn't believe that when I was typing this thread, I seriously thought I was only going to get a handful of replies from those going through this feeling. I am floored by how many of your comments are identical to how I feel now. We are a family here for real, LOL!

Soooo, now that we got this whole "uncertain" thing off our chests, what do we do now?erplexed


:scratchch

 

[locabouthair]

I am so feeling you on the bolded. I went thru periods where I gave up heat and wore protective styles 24/7 and was walking around looking a homely hot mess. I know some folks can rock a cute bun or updo or something, but most of the time I just thought I looked a mess. And then my progress wasn't really any better. So I was like fug it and started wearing my hair out and heating it up again.

I went thru a time when I would not cut my hair and it eventually just was not flattering to my face, so I definitely will be keeping a cute shape to my hair.

I'm stretching right now but I look fully natural. I wore my hair in an updo and my neighbor told me yesterday when was I gonna do something with my hair she told me to make sure I do something with it before I go to work tomorrow. I knew my hair wasnt looking that great but I wasnt expecting that comment lol. So I definitely feel you. I was trying to stretch longer but at this point I can't see my part so maybe it's time lol.

A few months ago I wasnt sure I wasnt to try and self relax or find someone to do it for me, so I basically did nothing but wear my wig and I got tangles galore, which lead to breakage at the demarcation point.

 

[hair4romheaven]

WOW, y'all wouldn't believe that when I was typing this thread, I seriously thought I was only going to get a handful of replies from those going through this feeling. I am floored by how many of your comments are identical to how I feel now. We are a family here for real, LOL!

Soooo, now that we got this whole "uncertain" thing off our chests, what do we do now?erplexed


:scratchch

Be patient, get a weave or braids so we are not fussing with our hair. At least that way we don't make any impulse decisions.

 

[Smiley79]

Yup, I've been doing my half wigs and taking care of my hair on my own. But I'm such a control freak, I always like a plan and want to be in control of what's going on and my hair is the one thing right now that I'm sort of freestylin'. Oh well, it felt good to vent. lol.

 

[doll-baby]

I understand where u are coming from. I BC'ed in Feb, now I have a twa and I'm not sure if I want to stay natural or try lye relaxers.

 

[Golden75]

WOW, y'all wouldn't believe that when I was typing this thread, I seriously thought I was only going to get a handful of replies from those going through this feeling. I am floored by how many of your comments are identical to how I feel now. We are a family here for real, LOL!

Soooo, now that we got this whole "uncertain" thing off our chests, what do we do now?erplexed


:scratchch

No clue. My saga will continue until I just make a decision. Just going to take one day at a time. Last night I was dead set on a relaxer, today not so much.

 

[Meritamen]

I think I going to throw my wig on to help me forget about my hair... I'm still going to take care of it but just so that I don't see it all the time. I really can't decide what I should do after looking at so many healthy heads of natural, texlaxed, and relaxed hair I feel torn. I'm too dang lazy to flat iron my hair but I like having my hair straight but I also found out through doing braid outs that I really like my hair curly too. It's driving me crazy.
Every time I see a woman with nice relaxed hair on youtube or LHCF I feel like I want to keep relaxing my NG but than I see the texlax ladies and I feel like I want to transition. What's a girl to do?

 

[twinkletoes17]

I'm nearly 9 months into my transition and this close (-) to relaxing! It's sooooo frustrating! I keep seeing old pictures of my hair when it was relaxed. It was beautiful! I feel like I'm going to regret this. I don't know whether to continue learning about this brillo pad I call hair, or relax again. I'm trying so hard not to. I'm going to trim my hair this weekend and see if that eases some things.

 

[onejamifan]

WOW, y'all wouldn't believe that when I was typing this thread, I seriously thought I was only going to get a handful of replies from those going through this feeling. I am floored by how many of your comments are identical to how I feel now. We are a family here for real, LOL!

Soooo, now that we got this whole "uncertain" thing off our chests, what do we do now?erplexed


:scratchch

I am going to the salon with my 5lb tub of relaxer in case I decide to relax. That's what I'm doing next.

I like my hair curly and everyone in my life likes my hair curly, but I LOVE my hair straight. I realized that my problem is not having the time and correct techniques to keep my ng straight. I plan on starting my work out regimen again in a couple of weeks and I can only imagine how the sweat will get my ng to kink up in no time flat. Hair is such an important part of a person's image that when your hair looks jacked up, no matter what you're wearing, you'll still look jacked up I am tired of feeling like I don't look put together because my hair is never quite right.

 

[loulou82]

I go through bouts of indecision but I've made up my mind that once I reach MBL I'm pressing bi-weekly and getting trim regularly to keep the shape.

 

[loulou82]

I might be answering the question all wrong, but....

I know which direction I am going in, so that isn’t the issue...I decided early last year I would transition to natural; I BC'ed in June 2009 and have been growing my hair out every since via protective styling. Right now I have my hair out to breath and will be braiding this weekend. Every time I take it out, it is CLEAR that it has grown and is healthy and is now at a length where I can experiment with hairstyles. BUT, my thing is...I keep focusing on my end goal instead of just ENJOYING where I am. I love my hair...but I often catch myself on this "well...when my hair gets to X length I'll be able to do Y and Z style".

I so feel you on this. My hair thoughts are always on the future... when I get to SL, when I get to APL, when I get to BSL... I still don't quite enjoy my length even though it's the longest it has ever been. I'm protective styling right now hope I can reach satisfaction with the progress I've made soon.