Can U Belive this

[Monigirl]

Thanks for posting this. Reading your post help me be better prepare myself if ever I decide to transition again and run into this kind of conflict. I will be ready to correct.

Oh my gosh! I can't believe what the black and white women did. It really angers me to know someone feels the need to educate you and anyone else standing around about how you should look and do to your hair. And the black women being older make me angry even more.

And the white lady must of either had a black husband or boyfriend and had black girlfriends or something to feel brave enough to touch or make the comment about your hair. The white women I know that are very vocal when it comes to black men, black hair or black anything are are always hanging around black people and feel welcomed to chat when the oppurtunity presents itself. Which makes allot of trouble!

 

[cupcakes]

stories like these make me want to go natural even more!
I AM WAITING FOR THE DAY SOMEONE SAYS SOMETHING LIKE THAT TO ME.. so i can open up a can of whoopass!!

 

[Hair Iam]

:endworld::endworld::thatsall:

 

[PureSilver]

Truly graceful! i'm proud of you girl. U really stood up for a lot of sistas.
I tell u though that old lady would have probably felt my fist(no disrespect to the older folks) if she had touched my hair without my permission and then have the nerve after i reprimand her to call my tresses dirty!!

 

[Je Ne Sais Quoi]

I can't believe that ***** was touching your hair and then said "it's dirty anyway" erplexed

 

[darkangel25]

WOW! Just wow. I can't believe both of those women. What is going on???!! As others stated you handled yourself well, I wouldn't have been as nice.

I'm sorry you had to deal with this.

 

[SignatureBeauty]

I can't believe that ***** was touching your hair and then said "it's dirty anyway" erplexed

That what I was saying, what would make her say that it is dirty anyway.

 

[SmartyPants]

That what I was saying, what would make her say that it is dirty anyway.

See... that's the point where the would have been taking me out of Wal-Mart in handcuffs on a manslaughter charge!

 

[DeepBluSea]

I am in awe at what some of you ladies relay on this forum about the encounters you have with people out in public...I cannot even imagine someone coming up to me and being that ignorant and disrespectful. Your response was dignified, on-point and very impactful...

ITA. The stuff people think they have the right to say is just unbelievable!

 

[KrimsonKween]

What I understand from talking to a friend of mine is that alot of older people do look at the younger generation as a hot mess. To them we are turning back to some type of slave day when you couldn't dress up nor have straight hair. My grandmother looks at me funny and says chil u need a perm, but that is because to her why would I want to do this to my hair when I can have nice straight hair. It's like the good hair bad hair thing or the light skin dark skin thing.

No disrepect to anyone of the other race but it's like that old saying white women have beauty that we try to achive. At first yea I was angry but I am a propety manager so I deal with alot of different people all day. I work with subsidized housing and somethings come with the territory trust I have been called worse. I feel this lady really did think I was letting the black race down by going back to that nappy head when to her relaxed flowing locks was what is right. Reading some of the comments on here I think I got off lucky. And someone said that white women tend to think they in so they just say what they want and we are fine with it. I feel if I had got all loud then it would have been she just acting like they always act.

 

[gradygirl]

Those two ladies were speaking utter foolishness!!!!!

Keep your head up sweety because you are a real class act.

 

[Cassandra1975]

uh oh... looks like we have to start a Cassandra1975 and aLilBirdie bail fund at a Charlotte area bank!

Bank of America...I think folks have access to that up and down the East Coast. People offer to start a bail fund for me at least once a week!

Between that ignorant manager of mine and generally ignorant folks everywhere...the older I get the less patience I have! I can see me being the Madea of my neighborhood (minus the guns) when I get older.

 

[MonPetite]

Uhm...O...M...GOSH.

First off, yes, that white lady would have gotten herself put into a nice wrist hold. The black lady would've been talking to air after about 30 seconds.

And I thought I was having "natural-meets-ignorance" issues this week. Oy!

 

[MD_Lady]

Well I was in Wal Mart picking up a t-shirt and this black lady came over and asked me was I natural I said yes. She begain with she was tired of us young folks trying to be something we are not. I kinda stared and smiled. She went on with all yall nappy headed children walking around trying to go back to the sixties and the flower child movement. I said no mam I just decieded I wanted my natural hair and I did not want to perm anymore. So she was getting loud and I was trying to not make the it any worse than it was.

Well a white lady came and started touching my hair well by now I was like what the frekin frak is going own. I grabed her arm and said please do not do that. She looks and says well its dirty anyway. Before I could say anything the black woman says you people are a disgrace to the mother land. By now I am upset and asked her how? She said walkin round got people thinking we just some nappy headed hoes with ur uncombed mess.

We are proud people and we keep ourselves up. That why that man died that Marley guy disgrace what you young fols will do to a race of strong proud epole. My children keep they hair combed and cleaned and pressed like folds is suppose to do. I said mam I am proud of who I am and what my people stood and fought for. I am sorry that you feel that your hair in its orginal state is not worthy of the love and attention you give your relaxed hair. I don't blame you for all of the hatred that you have within yourself I blame a system that you have not takent the time to get to know which is a generation that is very proud of whom and where we come from. But I will say this and leave I thank you for your struggles becuase if it was not for the struggles of those before me I would not be able to be the kween that I am today. When I walked away I told her kwaheri which means good bye in Swahilli. She just stood there with the white woman just shaking her head.
Can U bleive that.

What in the WORLD?!? Of all the ways we see "young folks" presenting themselves in public- Cursing, running around half-naked, wearing teeny tiny t-shirts and shorts with provacative slogans on them, getting WAY too physical with significant others, and the list goes on and on and ON. You're just trying to buy a shirt in Wal-Mart while wearing your God-given NATURAL hair! The fact that someone could get so much negative attention for doing something as natural and healthy as wearing chemical-free hair leaves me speechless. Thank goodness for the smiley faces...

By the way, don't sweat what that white lady said. She just felt like a fool because you checked her about putting her hands on you WITHOUT YOUR permission!! Do yo' thang KrimsonKween!!!

 

[Faith]

Jesus would have had to take the wheel from me.

I would have cussed out the Black woman & told her how dare she call me a nappy headed *** and in front of a white person no less. I ain't gotta do nothing but stay black and die, so she can GTFOH with telling me I need to relax my hair.

THEN, I would have snatched that white lady's hand and told her, "Don't you ever in your mayonnaise & cheese sandwich eating life touch my hair." And if she said it's dirty anyway, I would have told her "Well ****, if I'm in the haircare aisle looking for shampoo, then obviously I'm washing it if that's any business of yours. Besides you smell like you need to wash your damn mouth."

[SIGH]
Girl, you have some self-control. Do you meditate?

HAHAHA! Good Lawd you funny
Another reason why I won't step into Walmart...

OP, you are something else...wow. I would have gone APEHI!T on their a$$es.

 

[Faith]

"Don't you ever in your mayonnaise & cheese sandwich eating life touch my hair."

Ummm, I eat sandwichs with mayo on it and/or cheese. What are you all trying to say?!

 

[nakialovesshoes]

Lady I applaud your tact b/c I don't know what I would've done. I'm assuming this happened in the Carolinas b/c that's what your location alludes to. I'm from there, too & now that I think about it I could see this same thing happening in the small town that I was born in. So very sad....

 

[DragonPearl]

KrimsonKween, you handled that situation very well. I am proud of you.

 

[Afro-Indi]

Well I was in Wal Mart picking up a t-shirt and this black lady came over and asked me was I natural I said yes. She begain with she was tired of us young folks trying to be something we are not. I kinda stared and smiled. She went on with all yall nappy headed children walking around trying to go back to the sixties and the flower child movement. I said no mam I just decieded I wanted my natural hair and I did not want to perm anymore. So she was getting loud and I was trying to not make the it any worse than it was.

Well a white lady came and started touching my hair well by now I was like what the frekin frak is going own. I grabed her arm and said please do not do that. She looks and says well its dirty anyway. Before I could say anything the black woman says you people are a disgrace to the mother land. By now I am upset and asked her how? She said walkin round got people thinking we just some nappy headed hoes with ur uncombed mess.

We are proud people and we keep ourselves up. That why that man died that Marley guy disgrace what you young fols will do to a race of strong proud epole. My children keep they hair combed and cleaned and pressed like folds is suppose to do. I said mam I am proud of who I am and what my people stood and fought for. I am sorry that you feel that your hair in its orginal state is not worthy of the love and attention you give your relaxed hair. I don't blame you for all of the hatred that you have within yourself I blame a system that you have not takent the time to get to know which is a generation that is very proud of whom and where we come from. But I will say this and leave I thank you for your struggles becuase if it was not for the struggles of those before me I would not be able to be the kween that I am today. When I walked away I told her kwaheri which means good bye in Swahilli. She just stood there with the white woman just shaking her head.
Can U bleive that.

DAMN, I wish you were lying!!!

 

[NYAmicas]

Were you visiting the Twilight Zone?.... because that's just insane. You have the irrational irate woman mad about you wearing natural hair (wth? who gets pissed off about a stranger's hair like that) and then the wandering village idiot touching people's hair and insulting at the same time. Sounds like they tag-teamed you but you set them straight.

 

[Platinum]

Unfortunately, I have to admit that I CAN believe this sort of thing happened. This woman (Black) has been brainwashed by society. For her to confront you like that and make a scene is totally unacceptable. The sad part about all of this is that she isn't the only one that has such a negative and ignorant view about Black Beauty. Believe me, I would have had flashbacks of my college days and would have been quick to educate her. Loudly, so I can embarass her in the same manner that she tried to do to me. I would have been polite in the beginning but if she continued to open her mouth and let ignorant words come out; I would have gotten down right nasty with her. Maybe she was teased and put down for having "bad hair" which is one of the reasons why she tries so hard for forget how God created us. Before I would have walked off, I would have told her that "There's no excuse for your ignorance. You need a reality check. Now, if you want to be educated on many phases of Black History, Black Beauty, etc, let me know. I'm more than happy to teach you".

As for Miss Daisy (white lady), I would have told her the same thing I told a lady in church one time.* "Lady don't put your hands in my hair. I don't know where they've been. I don't if you've been digging (Y'all know what I mean) or if you're one of those nasty heffas that don't wash their hands after they use the bathroom". When she would have said that my hair's dirty, I would have told her "It wasn't until you put your nasty *** hands in it".

Back to the Black lady, I wonder if she approaches those young, unwed teenage mothers, the hoochies, and the pants sagging brothers with the unkempt hair. I bet she doesn't say a word to them. Now, if she wanted to confront someone about their appearance, why isn't she talking to them? Is it possible that I may have just described her children and/or grandchildren?

*The church incident... I was in church with my parents and was a lady behind me that had a quick "holy-ghost" moment. During this, she managed to hit me on the head. I turned around, smoothing my hair down as I'm giving her a mean look. She stopped jumping and shouting; then, proceeded to start smoothing my hair down (very heavy handed I might add). That's when I grabbed her hand and said what I said. She said something after I turned back around. My mom scolded me for that after church. Sorry, I must have had a little hell in me or PMS. I normally would act like that in church.

Anyway, sorry for the rambling. This subject has me fired up. You handled it like a true Kween!

 

[dinaaike]

Well I was in Wal Mart picking up a t-shirt and this black lady came over and asked me was I natural I said yes. She begain with she was tired of us young folks trying to be something we are not. I kinda stared and smiled. She went on with all yall nappy headed children walking around trying to go back to the sixties and the flower child movement. I said no mam I just decieded I wanted my natural hair and I did not want to perm anymore. So she was getting loud and I was trying to not make the it any worse than it was.

Well a white lady came and started touching my hair well by now I was like what the frekin frak is going own. I grabed her arm and said please do not do that. She looks and says well its dirty anyway. Before I could say anything the black woman says you people are a disgrace to the mother land. By now I am upset and asked her how? She said walkin round got people thinking we just some nappy headed hoes with ur uncombed mess.

We are proud people and we keep ourselves up. That why that man died that Marley guy disgrace what you young fols will do to a race of strong proud epole. My children keep they hair combed and cleaned and pressed like folds is suppose to do. I said mam I am proud of who I am and what my people stood and fought for. I am sorry that you feel that your hair in its orginal state is not worthy of the love and attention you give your relaxed hair. I don't blame you for all of the hatred that you have within yourself I blame a system that you have not takent the time to get to know which is a generation that is very proud of whom and where we come from. But I will say this and leave I thank you for your struggles becuase if it was not for the struggles of those before me I would not be able to be the kween that I am today. When I walked away I told her kwaheri which means good bye in Swahilli. She just stood there with the white woman just shaking her head.
Can U bleive that.

I'm in shock! That was...that was...wow .

To be honest though, I got all excited about your reply. Woo-woo! You show her how a kween conducts herself! Go you! Talk about strength and pride! Show her how it's done girl!

And just who in Africa had access to relaxers all those years ago? Disgrace to the motherland...puh-lease!

 

[metalkitty]

Wow, that's pretty crazy that someone would go THAT far out of their way to put someone else down. And a grown woman at that. I have to congratulate you for handling that bs so gracefully, I wouldn't be able to. I'd probably walk away or end up throttling the lady who touched teh hair and had the nerve to say it was dirty. I guess it's safe to say the masses are a*&^*.... But kudos to you, lady!

 

[A_Christian]

Well I was in Wal Mart picking up a t-shirt and this black lady came over and asked me was I natural I said yes. She begain with she was tired of us young folks trying to be something we are not. I kinda stared and smiled. She went on with all yall nappy headed children walking around trying to go back to the sixties and the flower child movement. I said no mam I just decieded I wanted my natural hair and I did not want to perm anymore. So she was getting loud and I was trying to not make the it any worse than it was.

Well a white lady came and started touching my hair well by now I was like what the frekin frak is going own. I grabed her arm and said please do not do that. She looks and says well its dirty anyway. Before I could say anything the black woman says you people are a disgrace to the mother land. By now I am upset and asked her how? She said walkin round got people thinking we just some nappy headed hoes with ur uncombed mess.

We are proud people and we keep ourselves up. That why that man died that Marley guy disgrace what you young fols will do to a race of strong proud epole. My children keep they hair combed and cleaned and pressed like folds is suppose to do. I said mam I am proud of who I am and what my people stood and fought for. I am sorry that you feel that your hair in its orginal state is not worthy of the love and attention you give your relaxed hair. I don't blame you for all of the hatred that you have within yourself I blame a system that you have not takent the time to get to know which is a generation that is very proud of whom and where we come from. But I will say this and leave I thank you for your struggles becuase if it was not for the struggles of those before me I would not be able to be the kween that I am today. When I walked away I told her kwaheri which means good bye in Swahilli. She just stood there with the white woman just shaking her head.
Can U bleive that.

Wow, that is absolutely ridiculous. You handled the situation very well.

 

[DivaD04]

As for Miss Daisy (white lady), I would have told her the same thing I told a lady in church one time.* "Lady don't put your hands in my hair. I don't know where they've been. I don't if you've been digging (Y'all know what I mean) or if you're one of those nasty heffas that don't wash their hands after they use the bathroom". When she would have said that my hair's dirty, I would have told her "It wasn't until you put your nasty *** hands in it".

Back to the Black lady, I wonder if she approaches those young, unwed teenage mothers, the hoochies, and the pants sagging brothers with the unkempt hair. I bet she doesn't say a word to them. Now, if she wanted to confront someone about their appearance, why isn't she talking to them? Is it possible that I may have just described her children and/or grandchildren?
!

ur whole post is but... whoa let that have been my mama if she was alive...her patience woul have gotten thrown out the window as well after that white lady stuck her funky fingers in my mom's hair she would have felt fire to the eye and a tap'n to that ***...and dared someone to say something about it... but that just says not everyone can have that much patience...folks are crazy these days and it only takes one person to wake up on the wrong side of the bed and another to cross him.
so our natural hair has to be "dirty" wow!!!

 

[Mestiza]

It's difficult to get through to a jackass.

What's worse is that you had to deal with two of them.

You handled them well.

 

[trendybosschicebz]

Oh HELL no, there would definately have been a clean up on the hair aisle.
Both of those ladies were really out of line.

 

[BklynHeart]

She was obviously PERFORMING for Missy.

Yup, that's MRS. RUKUS!

 

[ladylibra]

Well I was in Wal Mart picking up a t-shirt and this black lady came over and asked me was I natural I said yes. She begain with she was tired of us young folks trying to be something we are not. I kinda stared and smiled. She went on with all yall nappy headed children walking around trying to go back to the sixties and the flower child movement. I said no mam I just decieded I wanted my natural hair and I did not want to perm anymore. So she was getting loud and I was trying to not make the it any worse than it was.

Well a white lady came and started touching my hair well by now I was like what the frekin frak is going own. I grabed her arm and said please do not do that. She looks and says well its dirty anyway. Before I could say anything the black woman says you people are a disgrace to the mother land. By now I am upset and asked her how? She said walkin round got people thinking we just some nappy headed hoes with ur uncombed mess.

We are proud people and we keep ourselves up. That why that man died that Marley guy disgrace what you young fols will do to a race of strong proud epole. My children keep they hair combed and cleaned and pressed like folds is suppose to do. I said mam I am proud of who I am and what my people stood and fought for. I am sorry that you feel that your hair in its orginal state is not worthy of the love and attention you give your relaxed hair. I don't blame you for all of the hatred that you have within yourself I blame a system that you have not takent the time to get to know which is a generation that is very proud of whom and where we come from. But I will say this and leave I thank you for your struggles becuase if it was not for the struggles of those before me I would not be able to be the kween that I am today. When I walked away I told her kwaheri which means good bye in Swahilli. She just stood there with the white woman just shaking her head.
Can U bleive that.

who the hell does she think she is????? people are bold these days

 

[ms_xcarlett]

OMG!@ post


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