Does anybody have husband/boyfriends that . . .

[lisatamika]

have hair that they are trying to care for in addition to their own? My husband has braidable hair (about nape of neck length) that I take care of in addition to my own.

I make him wash it at least once a week, braid it up, and keep it moisturized with Worlds of Curls oil sheen. He has no chemicals and his hair was very dry and hard to comb through until I started crackin' that whip

and making sure he takes better care of his hair.

Are any of you guys in this situation? I always tell him if he can't learn to take care of it, then he shouldn't have it. Am I wrong for not wanting to do his hair after I have to take care of my own?

 

[ms_kenesha]

My fiance is growing his hair back out, his hair was about 1 inch past collarbone length and then he got tired of taking care of it so he got it cut and now it's back to about 2 inches in length. He goes to a natural hair salon most of the time so I don't do his hair much anymore althoug I washed and twisted it when it was longer. I let him use my products and tell him what to do, but I only do his hair when I feel like it.

 

[cybra]

Girl, you are so right! My husband's mom is biracial, and he took his hair after her: 3a/b but extremely thick!!!! Well, he use to wear it really long, shoulder length but because of the curl, he didn't really do much with it but put it in a ponytail. He naturally has kind of oily skin, so his hair has always had a sheen to it, but it just wasn't healthy...do you know what I mean? Well, I use to do it every weekend, along with my two daughters' and my own. As you know BC (member of LHCF) has long hair and always has, but her sister's was always longer and much THICKER! Well, I would have to get up with the birds (no, it was my job to wake the birds up in those days) to get started on everybody's heads. I would wash, trim, and deep condition his head, then on to my daughters, then myself. Now keep in mind, with the girls, after they were conditioned, I had to either put their hair in cornrows, or some sort of style, which took a minute. Year after year this went on until one day I guess I had enough. My hubby went out to play football with friends and he came home with his curls everywhere, some stuck to his face because of the dry sweat and others just clumped together. He got a shower, wet it, and then had the nerve to call me to come wash it because he couldn't do anything with it. Well, I refused.

He tried washing it and then he pulled it back into a ponytail, like he use to but it just didn't look like when I did it. I would have it laying down, with big shiny waves going all the way back to his ponytail, which would be in big curls. He thought he'd hurt me by saying, "if you don't help me I'm going to cut it all off." Now, I truly loved his hair but I said, "Go ahead!" Well, he did...it was about 1/2 inch long after he was finished. He came into the livingroom and I could not believe how cute he looked.

His new hair was so dark, shiny, and pretty. I had to laugh and hug him because out of trying to spite me, he ended up with a good thing. This was something he could do himself, and he's been wearing it short every since. All I do now is suggest products and he'll get them and do his hair himself.

I guess I said all this to say, you're not wrong to want him to do his own "do"

 

[stacy]

On Sundays, I wash, condition, and roller set my own hair. I wsh, condition, sometimes press, and style my daughter's hair. Then, I wash, condition, and comb coil my husbands's hair.It takes up the whole day. My husband's hair is about three inches, but it's not very thick. The texture is soft and waves when wet. He'd like shoulder length hair and wants it twisted so that he can make a ponytail (like dred-locks w/o the committment). If we all went to a professional every week, it would cost $135.So, I just take the time to do it myself. The down side is that my husband and daughter can't wear a do-rag properly. HIs twists are all over the place Monday morning and her hair is everwhere, too.

 

[velvethalo]

My x-boyfriend had the most kinky, thick hair I have ever seen on anyone. It was bra strap length, (sounds funny for a guy

) very coarse, and beautiful. He or I washed his hair once a week with Dr. Bronner's Peppermint Soap- which stimulates the scalp. I used whatever conditioner I had on hand; usually something cheap and botanical like Saint Ives. I'd comb his hair out with a wide tooth comb, and then put a little shea butter in his hair when it was damp. Then I'd put it in 6 corn rows. His hair was never dry and it grew like a weed.

 

[asha]

I help my boyfriend out. He is white mind you but has very curly hair that frizzes easily. When I first met him his hair was always all over the place. He just did the shampoo in the shower everday (used conditioner only if there was some) and threw a hat on. He'd seen my hair in all different states from frizzy to silky straight to bouncing curls to twists, braids, etc. Anyways, he finally started asking me about all of my concoctions and routines etc. Not in a rude or doubting way but in an inquisitive (i want to learn) way. I explained co washes to him and why it is very important to use a conditioner. That alone has tamed his fly aways and frizzes. I also gave him my bottles of KMS curl up and Split Personality. They did not work on my 4a/b hair but worked great on him (3b/c).

I love sharing products with him because now he encourages my product buying (don't know if that is good or bad, but I love being a PJ, so I guess it's good for now) and will even purchase products for us to try, especially if he's heard me mention it (because of a review I've read on this board).

 

[buffalosoldier]

Yes my boyfriend has psoriasis so he is currently using up all of my jojoba oil. I massge it into his scalp and it really works. He also uses my coconut oil and some natures gate jojoba shampoo that I didnt like.
I enjoy taking care of his hair and him. He will also use all of my skin products, body lotions, expensive soaps, rembrandt toothpaste etc etc

 

[joemerald]

Ok not husband/boyfriend but my son who is 12yrs. I cannot do his hair everyweek. It is like between collar bone length and very thick and 4B so not very manageable. I have a new baby so I cannot take care of it properly and sometimes it goes for a month without attention. When I do do his hair it takes at least 3 hours to unbraid, hot oil treat, wash, condition and blowdry and rebraid in at least 18 cornrows. I need help any suggestions?

 

[skegeesmb]

My husband had started growing out his hair while we were dating. He has 3bc without any products that would curl up into these shiny curls. 6 months and 5 inches later, his hair was driving me nuts. I can't braid, or cornroll, or any of those cute little styles, and his hair wasn't long enough so that I could do something. So he started wearing a doorag and mushed his curls down.

I was so glad when he surprised me one day with a baldie. He's been wearing it short ever since.

 

[UmSumayyah]

Hmm. Well joe, I think 12 is old enough to start some serious haircare learning. I would carve out some time and really show him what to do, explain the whys and hows of every step, etc. then tell him it is all on him now. Learn to do your own hair or cut it short.

 

[joemerald]

I have tried the cutting short thing but he says no way. He likes it long. I have tried to get him to at least unbraid it but he just tangles it up. I know I should let him deal with it but it is hard for me so I know it will be even more difficult for him.

 

[Zoe]

My boyfriend has locs down his back.. Im soooooo glad that he does his own hair..

He MAY let me twist it every once in awhile..but he would rather do it himself..he hates to have a whole bunch of people in his head.. if his locs grow funny he would rather blame himself for not putting in enough time then to roll his eyes at me..

I couldn't agree with him more..
At first it was cute to grease his scalp and wash his hair..but please..his hair is longer than mines..I dont have the patience..

 

[Cleo]

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Zoe said:
I couldn't agree with him more..
At first it was cute to grease his scalp and wash his hair..but please..his hair is longer than mines..I dont have the patience..

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Zoe, you are a trip!

p.s. I love the boots in your avatar, they are fierce.