Growing Long Hair by myself!!!

[Chevelure618]

I think I know how you feel, but for me, I just love long hair on myself. I am 5'10.5" and so long hair looks lovely. I do it for me.

I think you need a boost. Blow dry and flat-iron your hair so it is at its longest, then walk around a mall or something. Savor the envious looks and ENJOY YOUR HAIR!

 

[tiffupretty]

The only people that are excited is the BSS owner that I go too! and its mostly because im dang near buying the whole store....but they actually listen...and i log in to this site and show them different products that im interested in and they are interested in making sure they have them in stock...they give me a discount too.....other than that my friends look at me and ask me why dont i just go to the shop...and cut it since im notorious for doing that or weaving it like i always do in the spring/summers...its not about what i USED to do...its about what i want and am doing right now...but thats ok...cuz as long as theres a internet connection...someone "feels me"

 

[CHECKMATE!]

I think I know how you feel, but for me, I just love long hair on myself. I am 5'10.5" and so long hair looks lovely. I do it for me.

I think you need a boost. Blow dry and flat-iron your hair so it is at its longest, then walk around a mall or something. Savor the envious looks and ENJOY YOUR HAIR!

Nice idea...I'm gonna' try that

 

[CHECKMATE!]

The only people that are excited is the BSS owner that I go too! and its mostly because im dang near buying the whole store....but they actually listen...and i log in to this site and show them different products that im interested in and they are interested in making sure they have them in stock...they give me a discount too.....other than that my friends look at me and ask me why dont i just go to the shop...and cut it since im notorious for doing that or weaving it like i always do in the spring/summers...its not about what i USED to do...its about what i want and am doing right now...but thats ok...cuz as long as theres a internet connection...someone "feels me"

indeed

 

[LivingDoll]

I know how you feel. I'm growing out a short haircut and although my hair is really healthy, nobody wants to hear anything about hair from me because it's not down my back. I keep my hair journey to myself because I don't even want to get the looks or stares from people who would roll their eyes if I talked about growing my hair out. People mistake my length for lack of health and it's so IGNORANT. long hair does not equal healthy hair and short hair does not equal damaged hair. I wish I had somebody close to me in person that shared my interest but I am grateful I found this forum and you ladies

I can totally relate to this entire post.

 

[LivingDoll]

The only people that are excited is the BSS owner that I go too! and its mostly because im dang near buying the whole store....but they actually listen...and i log in to this site and show them different products that im interested in and they are interested in making sure they have them in stock...they give me a discount too.....other than that my friends look at me and ask me why dont i just go to the shop...and cut it since im notorious for doing that or weaving it like i always do in the spring/summers...its not about what i USED to do...its about what i want and am doing right now...but thats ok...cuz as long as theres a internet connection...someone "feels me"

This is my experience too...I went in a BSS looking for Roux Porosity Control...they didn't have it but they had Mendex. When I found it at another store, I took it to them so that they could see it. The next time I went in the BSS they had it stocked on the shelf! I was impressed.

 

[DarkHair]

I come on here a lot. I try to get my sister to listen, but she is in her own world (scratching dandruff clean off her scalp, always dying her hair black, pulling her edges back, giving my 9 yr old niece relaxers, no deep conditioning, etc). My hair journey will have to be like my life living...lead by example.

ETA: I do get support from DH, just yesterday, 6 days post wash/4 weeks post relaxer, he thought I got my hair done. He helps to massage my MN or Bee Mine in. I even started putting Bee Mine on his face as he is going for the full beard look.

 

[CHECKMATE!]

I come on here a lot. I try to get my sister to listen, but she is in her own world (scratching dandruff clean off her scalp, always dying her hair black, pulling her edges back, giving my 9 yr old niece relaxers, no deep conditioning, etc). My hair journey will have to be like my life living...lead by example.

ETA: I do get support from DH, just yesterday, 6 days post wash/4 weeks post relaxer, he thought I got my hair done. He helps to massage my MN or Bee Mine in. I even started putting Bee Mine on his face as he is going for the full beard look.

You are singing to the choir with this...my sister is the same way...I stopped talking a year ago...I understand you totally!

 

[noemi]

I no longer go into detail unless I'm asked. I don't mind giving up the info.
People think because they never see it that I don't have it. Those that have seen it, ask questions.

 

[CHECKMATE!]

Yes i agree, I love being on here but sometimes I want to talk to a real person and I just can't aget that no one is interested. No one most of them could care less so I have to try and keep it all to myself. I can talk about hair for hours but who wants to listen to that.

i hear ya...only my friend in DC is super interested.

 

[CHECKMATE!]

I no longer go into detail unless I'm asked. I don't mind giving up the info.
People think because they never see it that I don't have it. Those that have seen it, ask questions.

same here...I kinda wish some people did,so i can offer some needed advice....but as you mentioned when they do see my hair out,they tend to ask about the care of it

 

[thaidreams]

I understand where you are coming from, but I think that's why it is important to try and reach out to ladies on the forum that are in your area. Hair growing can be a very lonely journey and it is always a good thing to have someone to speak with about your frustrations and concerns.

 

[CHECKMATE!]

I understand where you are coming from, but I think that's why it is important to try and reach out to ladies on the forum that are in your area. Hair growing can be a very lonely journey and it is always a good thing to have someone to speak with about your frustrations and concerns.

Great point,which reminds me...there is a meetup this weekend

 

[Amerie123]

I know how you feel. I'm growing out a short haircut and although my hair is really healthy, nobody wants to hear anything about hair from me because it's not down my back. I keep my hair journey to myself because I don't even want to get the looks or stares from people who would roll their eyes if I talked about growing my hair out. People mistake my length for lack of health and it's so IGNORANT. long hair does not equal healthy hair and short hair does not equal damaged hair. I wish I had somebody close to me in person that shared my interest but I am grateful I found this forum and you ladies

girl, I know exactly what you mean, and i can completely relate. And my thing is, when i tell someone I'm tryna get BSL (or point at how long i want it, since they don't know what BSL means), I get the, "yeah, its all in your head" look. So, I try not to talk about it much. Even though my hair is very healthy and relatively thick. Ppl come to me for advice, but, i don't think they take my length serious. But its hard to believe that the ones with hair down their back don't get listened to from ppl IRL.

I understand where you are coming from, but I think that's why it is important to try and reach out to ladies on the forum that are in your area. Hair growing can be a very lonely journey and it is always a good thing to have someone to speak with about your frustrations and concerns.

This is why I'm definitely looking forward to our meet up the following weekend.

OP: A lot of us understand what u feel. I mean, even my sis who i know she want long hair, and she know mine is always healthy and a lil longer than hers, but she is not really into it like i am. No one is, and I was just telling my homegirl that this is why i come on here, cuz it's so cool to know that i am not the only one who feels this way. Thats why yall are my girls!!!!

 

[Evolving78]

yes, but my cousin bc'd recently so now i hav a real life hair buddy. everybody else in my life let other people worry about their hair and they are kinda style challenged. they don't get into products and care. this is why i can't wait for my hair to get longer, so i can show people how it is done naturally!

 

[Tamrin]

I feel the same way. My only support is my SO. Most of the women I know don't care. I introduced it to my Sis, but I don't think she fully gets it. She gets hair growth but not retention thing. Everyone wants the quick grow fast way but don't care about the care it needs. For now I hide my hair and do what I need to.

 

[Tinkerbell19]

I totally agree! I had long hair until Sept and because I got it cut so that I can start over and grow it out evenly long. Most of my friends all still have long hair so of course they say "well why did you cut it just to grow it". So I really love this site because I am able to discuss topics with other people that know exactly where I am coming from

 

[Evolving78]

maybe we should start a You Are Not Alone Challenge?

maybe we can come in and post about different things that is going on with us in real life and the effect our hair has on us and the people around us, you know just vent?
we can post our growth too as well and if someone needs encouragement we can give it to that person. does this sound like a good idea?

 

[Mis007]

I love the fact that I have this site to answer all my hair queries and we are all singing from the same sheet. I know many of my friends will not be interested and I don't think i want to talk hair all day every day, so the balance is good ​

 

[CurliDiva]

ME....my family thinks I'm crazy for wearing wig when I have "hair".

When I explain that I want MID-BACK length natural hair....I get get blank stares .......like "what are you going to do with all that 'nappy" long hair"?

 

[delray712000]

I know how you feel. I'm growing out a short haircut and although my hair is really healthy, nobody wants to hear anything about hair from me because it's not down my back. I keep my hair journey to myself because I don't even want to get the looks or stares from people who would roll their eyes if I talked about growing my hair out. People mistake my length for lack of health and it's so IGNORANT. long hair does not equal healthy hair and short hair does not equal damaged hair. I wish I had somebody close to me in person that shared my interest but I am grateful I found this forum and you ladies

I feel the same way. because I am at bottom of the neck and people don't think that is significant enough in order for them to join me on a journey, or even support me. right now i have my hair in little platts as a protective style until december. I look a hot mess but i knew if i wanted my natural hair to grow long and had to jump in with both feet.

 

[*ElleB]

I have one hair buddy IRL. Otherwise, I keep my hair talk to myself unless I'm asked. Other than that, people can just see my growth!

 

[ebonylocs]

I love the fact that I have this site to answer all my hair queries and we are all singing from the same sheet. I know many of my friends will not be interested and I don't think i want to talk hair all day every day, so the balance is good ​

That's my feeling on it too. I like that I can come on to LHCF and get all the info, etc that I need, or at least, try to find it. However, i have no desire to discuss or focus on hair with people in my everyday life. Have to keep my life balanced and everything in its place.

 

[NuBraveHeart]

this is true. i have always wanted longer hair and i just really started trying to get it. if i recall, i just think that most of the women i know with type 4 textures just make comments to "be happy with nothing", that "even thinking about having long hair is for our white and asian sistas or the 3cs", or that it would take "more work than it's worth". ah well, i'm not worried about them. i'd rather be lonely in my journey and destination for long healthy hair than be in the in-crowd of growth limitation by negative/defeatist thought and dyed, fried and gelled to the side, "all hail to crispy burnt-up air!".

screw that. let them eat cake.

 

[sydney100]

I feel a little lucky that me and my sister started our healthy hair care journey together, so we spend a ton of money and time talking about hair products and what works and what doesnt. Other than that when I tell someone about cowashing they look at me like I'm crazy. At least my sister understands.

 

[Sly]

Every once and awhile one of my friends will ask me about hair...but their eyes quickly glaze over when I start going into the details they really need to know. My mom listens and my guys friends pretend to (one of them told me that my hair must be really strong and I thought he was making a nappy black hair comment- but he said it because I am always giving my hair "full meals" lol).

But I don't think that anyone will really get it until my hair is actually long. Either way, most people just don't really care.

same here . they want to know what pill to pop or product to buy. I'm like, "naw, you got to manage that new growth, detangle starting from the bottom up, don't forget your Porosity control, co-wash, deep condition weekly and. . ." usually I've lost my audience . . .

so I am very happy here

 

[Solitude]

same here . they want to know what pill to pop or product to buy. I'm like, "naw, you got to manage that new growth, detangle starting from the bottom up, don't forget your Porosity control, co-wash, deep condition weekly and. . ." usually I've lost my audience . . .

so I am very happy here

This is so true. I do air-drying, co-washing, roller-sets, bunning, saran wrap treatments, pre-poos & so on & so on, just trying to get my regi down, limit heat and chemicals, etc.

My friend was like, "I wish you would stop changing what you're doing so I can find out what works."

 

[CurlyMoo]

we share the same feelings,for real! ...I stopped discussing my hair unless people ask,and even when they do,im limited in my responses because it usually turns into some sort of debate/disagreement over what good/bad for growing hair

Yes, a few friends of mine asked me about my regimen. Both told me to change my regimen and stop washing so often. WHY IN THE HECK WOULD I CHANGE SOMETHING THAT'S WORKING??? Neither is a hair idol of mine. I don't mention it anymore or respond to questions. Best to change the subject and watch them drool when my hair get's closer to my goal length. I can't wait to see the stupid looks on their faces when I reach MBL and wear it straight. That's going to be priceless. Hmp, Ok, off to moisturize!

 

[CurlyMoo]

I think I know how you feel, but for me, I just love long hair on myself. I am 5'10.5" and so long hair looks lovely. I do it for me.

I think you need a boost. Blow dry and flat-iron your hair so it is at its longest, then walk around a mall or something. Savor the envious looks and ENJOY YOUR HAIR!

Swang that hair as you window shop!

 

[katblack]

Do you sometimes feel that your hair growth process is a lonely journey? I've been feeling that lately...seems like even though I have you ladies to share my progress with,it's not as personal in real life...either people don't understand my hair goals or think I'm just obsessed with long hair...both are kinda true...but it would be nice if most of my friends were on the same page as me...Does any else share the same sentiment?

I know what you mean, though I am looking to have a friend in my life that I talk about hair all day long with. I wish I could do the same with my mom, but she thinks I'm a complete nutz-so:crazy: