Men - do they know when your hair is fake?

[HairQueen]

Hiya

I have been seeing this guy (for a very short time) and today he asked me this question: "how long is your hair - and I don't mean the one you bought?"

I explained to him that my real hair is down past my shoulders - he was very surprised and didn't seem convinced.

I wear a curly half weave as a protective style and thought it looked natural (at least to unsuspecting men) but obviously not lol!!!

What comment's have you had from men when u wear ur fake hair as a protective style?

Also, for those of you with past shoulder hair - do you even get comments from men that obviously assume they think its fake when it actually your own hair? Does that bother you that people assume as a black woman it must be fake because its long?

HQ

 

[Extremus]

Unless the weave is extremely shiny (wig-looking) or has two very obvious textures, than I don't think men know. I don't think they can further detect a weave based on how it moves, texture, etc like us.

It does kind of bother me, but I can't blame them. I mean, it's not like 90% of the black women around our way wear weaves *shrugs*

 

[AtlantaJJ]

I haven't had one ask me directly but if they did I would ask him "does it look good"? "do you like it on me"? and if the answer is yes then case closed....To me, it's like do you like my shoes, or the way I dress. It's a matter of personal choice and style, and either they are with me or they are not and can get ta steppin...

 

[ebonylocs]

i don't think many men can tell unless they get really up close and personal. If they see an (unmixed looking) BW with long hair, they assume weave until shown otherwise. A couple of months ago I was on a date, and the guy asked me "How long is your hair?" I grabbed the ends of my hair and said, "Like this."

 

[Evazhair]

Some do some don't. Especially the ones who hate fake hair. Some of the others really want to believe that the weave is the woman's real hair and will be disappointed when they find out. Some don't care any way. There is no general men's opinion on this subject

ETA never worn fake hair just in case anyone wonders....

 

[HairQueen]

i don't think many men can tell unless they get really up close and personal. If they see an (unmixed looking) BW with long hair, they assume weave until shown otherwise. A couple of months ago I was on a date, and the guy asked me "How long is your hair?" I grabbed the ends of my hair and said, "Like this."

 

[Casarela]

my BF..is the type that dont know at all...even with braids w/ loose ends hell think its real.loooooooooool. My moms been wearing a wig as a protective style for 2 weeks...she has several wigs so some days she wears whatever she feels like and my bf was telling me how he like my mom short do... I told him dude 3 days ago she had her wig off and you saw her thick SL hair and you really think my mom cut her hair... the reaction on his face was speechless..He just doesnt understand it at all.

 

[chavascandy]

I believe that guys cannot usually tell if your hair is fake or not unless, it has that 'Weaviest' look. By 'Weaviest' I mean when the hair usually looks BIGGER than your head or like a MOP sitting on top of your head.

Most of the time if you are in a BSS trying on a wig and you have to convince yourself that the wig doesn't look to bad....chances are it does look fake and you realize it. If a wig or weave looks to shiney, crispy, full, huge, strange colored,long, or to perfect......chances or then YOUR MAN WILL KNOW ITS A WIG.

But for the most part....when i wear my real hair most plp assume that i am wigging it because I always do 99% of the time....so the never know the difference unless, I let the run their hands through my hair. I have to trust you to do that though....LOL

 

[Creatividual]

When it's a good match and everything blends well, I don't think they can tell. I have a BSL length quick weave and people always thought that it was my real hair when I wore it. Hair is an accessory now like shoes or handbags. All those celebrities that men drool over who "that's all their hair", the cat is outta the bag. Jessica Simpson wears and sells hair pieces, Beyonce wears lace fronts,(I could go on) so the gig is up. If they are that adamant about being with a woman who doesn't wear fake hair, then they can be with a woman that doesn't. Haha. As a professional in the fashion industry, I'm all for expressing yourself and having fun with different looks and styles that flatter you. I mean, why not? You only live once!

 

[Creatividual]

It's just funny how some times social norms change. My mom was telling me how back in the 50's n 60's it was very common practice for women to wear wigs and there was no issue with "fake" hair. You think those do's the Supremes used to rock the hell out of was their hair? Puh-a-lease! Those were the baddest wigs on the market back then.

Men just like hair that flatters a woman. Any "fake" hair that looks unnatural and doesn't flatter you, they are more than likely not going to like it.

 

[chavascandy]

It's just funny how some times social norms change. My mom was telling me how back in the 50's n 60's it was very common practice for women to wear wigs and there was no issue with "fake" hair. You think those do's the Supremes used to rock the hell out of was their hair? Puh-a-lease! Those were the baddest wigs on the market back then.

Men just like hair that flatters a woman. Any "fake" hair that looks unnatural and doesn't flatter you, they are more than likely not going to like it.

I can agree!

 

[bluevalentine]

i think most men who are familiar with me know that its my real hair, because i didn't drastically go from necklength to almost brastrap overnite, its been a gradual process.
i do remember my uncle asking me one time if i was wearing a weave, but i think that's because he hadn't seen me in a while....who knows...

 

[CurlyMoo]

Although they have developed a crafty nature, men can be some of the dumbest creatures on the face of this earth. Unless they touch your hair, they can't tell and if they do, it means they are gay and might ask to borrow it from you. Unless the weave is placed haphazardly and tracks are showing, then most men are fishing when they ask questions about your hair. Most men do not like weave and when it comes to Black women they can be highly suspicious when it reaches past the shoulders. IMO, all inquiries should be met with a cold stare and ordering the most expensive meal on the menu! THE END! Hmp!

 

[TwistedRoots]

^^ Completely agree.

 

[Ediese]

I always let them know that it's not real. I love to see the surprised look on their face when they see my real hair. For some reason, they think that I wear weave because I'm bald. lmao

 

[bellebebe]

My "SO" does lol and he knows why I wear weave. Amazingly, some men don't lol.

 

[HairQueen]

I believe that guys cannot usually tell if your hair is fake or not unless, it has that 'Weaviest' look. By 'Weaviest' I mean when the hair usually looks BIGGER than your head or like a MOP sitting on top of your head.

Most of the time if you are in a BSS trying on a wig and you have to convince yourself that the wig doesn't look to bad....chances are it does look fake and you realize it. If a wig or weave looks to shiney, crispy, full, huge, strange colored,long, or to perfect......chances or then YOUR MAN WILL KNOW ITS A WIG.

But for the most part....when i wear my real hair most plp assume that i am wigging it because I always do 99% of the time....so the never know the difference unless, I let the run their hands through my hair. I have to trust you to do that though....LOL

I've never been one to take the hair out the packet and place it straight on my head. I always cut it shorter, thin it out, dip it in vinegar, condition it AND wear the front of my real out and curl it to match.

I know it doesn't bother some women but I hate wearing fake hair so I was a bit embarrassed when he made that comment - kind of like I had been caught out lol!!

A male friend of mine thinks it is my hair and he always asks me "is that really your real hair? its so nice." I just find it hard to say no its not my hair - especially when I know that underneath my hair is almost the same length as the weave....

 

[glamazon386]

Some do.... But most of the time it has to be really obvious for them to tell. Unless a woman showed them how to spot weaves/wigs. Most of my guy friends didnt know until I told them. SO thought the bob weave I had recently was all my hair until I took it out. Silly...

 

[yuriko]

My hair has rotated between APL and BSL for the past few years, so its not that long. However most black guys still think it is fake. I met this guy with my real hair, and later when I had on a Ear length curly weave, he was asking "what does your real hair look like?" and am like "dude, you seen my real hair before" if a man does not run his fingers through your hair, he will assume its fake or else its a super short hair style

 

[gabulldawg]

My "SO" sees me regularly and KNOWS that I have an arsenol wigs, and he STILL will ask me if a wig is my real hair. I pride myself in blending and finding hair that is similar to mine, though. I also am a firm believer in the baby powder to mask the shine.

 

[cupcakes]

yea this happened to me twice this week. a guy friend of mine and a girl both swore up and down that i was wearing a weave. I t bothered me a little because I want people to be able to tell my hair is real.. but I guess thats a compliment

 

[HairQueen]

My hair has rotated between APL and BSL for the past few years, so its not that long. However most black guys still think it is fake. I met this guy with my real hair, and later when I had on a Ear length curly weave, he was asking "what does your real hair look like?" and am like "dude, you seen my real hair before" if a man does not run his fingers through your hair, he will assume its fake or else its a super short hair style

Betwwn APL and BSL is considered very long by most black folks.

 

[HoneyA]

Most men could care less but when it looks good they can't really help but to comment. I remember way back in the middle of 2007 I think, I had my hair freshly done and this guy thought it was a weave. He hinted that I had bought it and I said no, I grew it out of my scalp. He didn't look convinced...I didn't care...so in the end I guess they are like most people who think if it's well past your shoulders, shiny and thick, it must be fake.

 

[Mynappturalme]

I don't think most men know. I wear my hair in a fake pony everyday and my SO still asks is that the fake hair or your hair?

Two weeks ago, I flat ironed my hair and bumped the ends just to see the length, when he saw me, he did a double take and said is that all of your hair? I said yes. He said no, I mean your real hair, is that your real hair? I said yes, this is my real hair. He said no, I mean do you have a weave in your head.

At first he was starting to get on my nerves, and then I thought about it, I don't think that he has seen my real hair flat ironed in over a year, I've been wearing my pony tail for almost two years now. I laughed and told him no this is not a weave!

He came over to me and felt my hair and said hmmm, you and those hair forums.

(He doesn't believe that all black women can grow their hair long, he thinks it has to be genetic, When I told him that my dad has hair-dreds down to his feet now, when we met, it was past his knees. He told me that I maybe able to grow it long then, but some people just can't and it's not gonna happen. They have to wear weaves it they want to wear it long. That's when I introduced him to LHCF to prove him wrong!!)

 

[PhiLee]

Although they have developed a crafty nature, men can be some of the dumbest creatures on the face of this earth. Unless they touch your hair, they can't tell and if they do, it means they are gay and might ask to borrow it from you. Unless the weave is placed haphazardly and tracks are showing, then most men are fishing when they ask questions about your hair. Most men do not like weave and when it comes to Black women they can be highly suspicious when it reaches past the shoulders. IMO, all inquiries should be met with a cold stare and ordering the most expensive meal on the menu! THE END! Hmp!

Wow...lots of strong statements here.

I can usually tell if a woman is wearing a weave. I guess I don't figure that gender has much to do with that...most men I know are pretty savvy when it comes to such things. They generally either notice and don't mind or notice and do. No biggie either way.

 

[PuffyBrown]

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Although they have developed a crafty nature, men can be some of the dumbest creatures on the face of this earth. Unless they touch your hair, they can't tell and if they do, it means they are gay and might ask to borrow it from you. Unless the weave is placed haphazardly and tracks are showing, then most men are fishing when they ask questions about your hair. Most men do not like weave and when it comes to Black women they can be highly suspicious when it reaches past the shoulders. IMO, all inquiries should be met with a cold stare and ordering the most expensive meal on the menu! THE END! Hmp!

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This is a really good question. I think for the most part, men ask so that they will know how to make their next move on you.I think they have to get a grasp on how to treat you (in a nice way "I hope"erplexed). ie...can I grab her head for a good night kiss (if he gets one); or do I need to find another way? Its all about the next move...IMHO...
I remember wearing a weave in the 80's. I had barely past shoulder length hair underneath the weave. I remember getting the weave removed and people were in shock that my real hair. I was thining that WTH? Then again at that lenght, I had the longest hair in my unit; sad but true. Many of the other women had poor hair care practices so I think they were suprised. I think there are more people than "men" who have a question on this issue.

 

[Prose Princess]

I'm gonna go ahead and say no. Cuz the only time a guy ever asked me if my hair was my real hair was back when I DIDN'T wear any weave at all, and now that I wear weave all the time, every man I encounter assumes my hair is real. Men are clueless.

 

[joib]

I don't wear wigs. I wish I could, but with a big head and thick hair it just wouldn't look right. I do wear braids often and I add hair always. I find that men are amazed that when I do wear my own hair that it is ACTUALLY MY HAIR. They just no without me having to answer the question-yes, it's my real hair. I had to attend a class trip to the prison for the academy and when I walked past a group of black inmates, the big argument was whether my hair was real or not. Most of them said it was real. You would think they had something better to talk about be it this is a MAXIMUM 4 PRISON. In general I think most men know and don't care either way. I had some men, that I have gone out with, tell me that they hate women that wear fake hairohwell:. That's when I change the subject, finish dinner, and never call them again. I am sorry, I can't have a man telling me what I can and can't do with/to my hair. One day I just might rock a cute wig.

 

[FemmeCreole]

most guys didn't realize my weave was fake.... the one in my avatar and the curly one I had not too long ago

 

[vestaluv1]

Hiya

What comment's have you had from men when u wear ur fake hair as a protective style?

Also, for those of you with past shoulder hair - do you even get comments from men that obviously assume they think its fake when it actually your own hair? Does that bother you that people assume as a black woman it must be fake because its long?

HQ

When I'm wearing wigs or weaves, I do get a lot of... "is that your real hair?" And then I tell them straight up, "no". Then I wait for the next question... "How long is your real hair?" Then I gesture, putting my hand past my shoulders/just under my armpit and say "about there".
Then (with girls and guys alike BTW), I get the inevitable third question... "so why do you wear fake hair then?". Then I explain.

A couple of days ago, I got MY hair done and as I got out of my car, my BF's friend asks me... "what, is that your real hair?"
I replied,"yes", laughing because he looked confused, but my hair is only just about grazing APL after my last trim. Ain't like I'm BSL, MBL or anything (BSL is my goal length BTW).
"It's beautiful" he says looking at my roots ... looking for tracks or somethin'.

It doesn't annoy me at all, but I find it strange that SL or APL is considered so long by some men/women for a black woman. So much so that if you do have this length hair, they think you've probably got some fake hair up in there.