My hair is changing pattern

[Aireen]

Oh u chicks are too funny to.me.

^ Hm. This sentence is suspicious. Second thread that's making me think people are trolling to get us riled up by making weird threads or phrasing things in a certain way. I'll just be here observing.

 

[Urban]

No, my 4b hair is not unruly. It is exactly the way it is meant to be. I accept and love it exactly the way it is. I know my ancestors did too, until colonial mentality settled in. There's nothing on me that I don't thank God for everyday.

'Tis all.

 

[Vintageglam]

So what is your regimen? In this thread there is a pic of your 4b hair?

The texture of your pic looks very similar to the texture of the sew-in in your fotki...:scratchch In any case, why was your hair unruly before? Was it moisturized?

caramelty ok real talk you know we wanna know the reggie like melissa-bee said...I really wanna know what conditioner you using to give you those results. I can see how incorporating moisture can make such a huge difference especially if thats what was lacking.

caramelty
I would like an explanation of this versus the picture above. I don't care which head is yours but it's markedly different. Just curious.

As far as you the original post, it definitely has inflammatory elements. Can you not see that?

^ Hm. This sentence is suspicious. Second thread that's making me think people are trolling to get us riled up by making weird threads or phrasing things in a certain way. I'll just be here observing.

LHCF Ladies detective agency on the case !!!

Run OP run !!!

 

[Solitude]

No, my 4b hair is not unruly. It is exactly the way it is meant to be. I accept and love it exactly the way it is. I know my ancestors did too, until colonial mentality settled in. There's nothing on me that I don't thank God for everyday.

'Tis all.

I hate when people make statements like this. It was not easy to be a black person in America during the pre-civil rights era. They straightened their hair for survival. Since we didn't walk in their shoes or experience the level of segregation and discrimination that they did, I don't think it is fair to judge our ancestor's "mentality." But, that's just me.

This forum really has changed...

 

[Urban]

^^ Nope, not talking about Americans. Because even Africans went through similar changes pre-civil rights in Africa.

All I'm saying is that black people, whether African, American, Caribbean, English etc ... wouldn't have known any different pre colonial times. We would've just accepted ourselves the way we were. I choose that level of acceptance for myself.

 

[bajandoc86]

Solitude how has it changed? I am a newbie so I don't know any different.

 

[DDTexlaxed]

She's not done transitioning. I hope she's happy with her hair when or if she BCS. I don't take offense to her statement because maybe she never had any experience with natural hair. I think sometimes people get offended too fast. Not all naturals like to wear their naps either. Can't we all be friends?

 

[song_of_serenity]

So from your BC shown here, your hair grew THAT much AND changed texture?? Woow.

 

[Guitarhero]

I guess it would be akin to someone saying that they are glad they don't get as dark as another in the summer because it's not as "pretty."

 

[Geminigirl]

Lets be real here. Many Blacks have nappy hair. And in most cases nappy hair is unruly. We all know this to be true. So why is it supposed to be difficult for someone to acknowledge that? Especially since in most cases, it's true. You can STILL embrass your nappy hair, even if its truly unruly. So embrace it. Go ahead. No one is going to be mad at you if you acknowledge it's characteristics. No one is going to be upset at you for loving it. Posting threads about it. Learning how to manage it. And as a major point, that IS the reason why most are here, isn't it? To learn HOW to manage nappy hair. Curly wavy hair also but especially nappy hair. And (shrug). It is more difficult to manage. So we as a system of Black women are learning HOW to manage it by coming here.

Just because one faces the thruth about who they are, doesn't mean that person is being negative about who they are.I know White who are pale. And they don't like it. They acknowledge it, do something about it, but still have pride in who they are because it's just 1 characteristic about them and they are not overly sensitive about it.

Yet another major point is, I may not always agree with someone's feelings about their hair or relaxing or what not, but I don't belittle them or intimidate them into possibly being scared of posting just because I don't like how they handle or view their hair. Why would I do that? I feel thats a form of intimidation and side eye bullying. When I see someone allude certain opinions about their own hair's looseness, I don't automatically associate that with a lack of racial stance or pride. That to me , and in reality, is just taking it to far.

if you let people intimidate you into not posting, you are one of those people who needs to take a time out from the internet.

You see I am not liked on here, I am usually ignored or kill threads but idc lol. This is the internet. I post what I want how I want and if people don't like it oh well. At the end of the day it is just the internet, I be gosh darn if I let anyone intmidate me not only in real life, but on here. I figure there are ignore options people should use more often or learn to let things roll off and know that you have a real life outside of here.


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[Eisani]

 

[Geminigirl]

awww they are so cute!

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[Geminigirl]

No, my 4b hair is not unruly. It is exactly the way it is meant to be. I accept and love it exactly the way it is. I know my ancestors did too, until colonial mentality settled in. There's nothing on me that I don't thank God for everyday.

'Tis all.

thank ya. My hair is not unruly, only hair I would say is unruly is hair that isn't cared for from type one to type four. If it's not brushed or all over your head then we are getting into the unruly phase.

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[Geminigirl]

Solitude how has it changed? I am a newbie so I don't know any different.

I know some things I have noticed is the holier than thou, bashing of others living different lifestyles. There is segregation and division where ther should be uplifting and togetherness is that a word lol. Anyways I heard the board was catty before I got here so that was nothing. But I notice people who try and passively take shots at he ones they don't like. It is a nice board if you don't make it your life. People used to debate intelligently now they take low shots often times. This board has def changed. Another thing is people used to be very helpful when you asked questions, I noticed us unpopulars, or those not in the clique, and even newbies don't get as much help when asking for it.


Eta- this is my take solitude can speak on what she meant.

But I do want to say I hope no one let's this board intimidate them into not posting. It is never that serious.
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[**SaSSy**]

Okey dokey.

I'm going to take a shot in the dark with this one, then I will be exiting this thread.

When someone says that they thought their hair was going to be nappy & unruly, then displays a pic of loose textured hair & talks about how excited they are that their hair isn't as nappy & unruly as they thought it would be, can we really act like we don't understand why some people would throw side eye to that comment?

As we know, without me having to explain in depth, there are many negative connotations associated with the natural state of black hair. Nappy & unruly happen to fit perfectly within the negative connotations.

We can talk about how people use nappy casually, how it doesn't mean anything serious, yada yada... but can we keep it real and acknowledge how it comes off for like 5 seconds?

I don't care how anybody feels about their hair. I could care less who wanna be "nappy" & embrace "nappiness" and hug it, invite it to dinner, all that jazz, but let me ask this question: How are the other people reading this thread with hair that is more tightly coiled & considered "less managable" supposed to feel? Are they supposed to say, "Yay, you dodged the nappy bullet!!!"

One final thought: The manageability of your hair is not determined by the tightness or "nappiness" of it. A 4b can manage her hair just as easy as a 3c. It is all about knowing what you are doing & how to handle your hair. It takes time for all of us, but we figure it out and it isn't a taxing thing. With the right tools & knowledge, all types of hair can be managed & "tamed".

Y'all have a good night.

BraunSugar Amen.

OP, I think you should've kept your inner thoughts of being "curly and wavy and not as nappy or unruly as I thought" to yourself. Especially on a predominately black hair forum. How are the others of ladies suppose to feel? There should be a thread on etiquette.

 

[ladyviper]

I think that people are a bit fed up with the bull#$%
threads and posts that don't contribute to any intelligent conversations. I myself am fed up with:
1. What's my hairtype?
2. My hair appears to be Cuban!
3. I'm mixed or any mixed thread
4. You name it.. this thread perhaps??

So I understand that the climate has changed a bit. But I wouldn't call it bashing. I would call it venting the fustrations caused by a person that sometimes seems to post just to get a rise out of people. I do agree that some people sometimes take their responses too far. But I do understand where they come from..

I know some things I have noticed is the holier than thou, bashing of others living different lifestyles. There is segregation and division where ther should be uplifting and togetherness is that a word lol. Anyways I heard the board was catty before I got here so that was nothing. But I notice people who try and passively take shots at he ones they don't like. It is a nice board if you don't make it your life. People used to debate intelligently now they take low shots often times. This board has def changed. Another thing is people used to be very helpful when you asked questions, I noticed us unpopulars, or those not in the clique, and even newbies don't get as much help when asking for it.


Eta- this is my take solitude can speak on what she meant.

But I do want to say I hope no one let's this board intimidate them into not posting. It is never that serious.
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[Damaged but not out]

Solitude how has it changed? I am a newbie so I don't know any different.

bajandoc86its best you just watch and learn, things can( and do) get ugly in these threads( especially on sundays)

 

[Damaged but not out]

I know some things I have noticed is the holier than thou, bashing of others living different lifestyles. There is segregation and division where ther should be uplifting and togetherness is that a word lol. Anyways I heard the board was catty before I got here so that was nothing. But I notice people who try and passively take shots at he ones they don't like. It is a nice board if you don't make it your life. People used to debate intelligently now they take low shots often times. This board has def changed. Another thing is people used to be very helpful when you asked questions, I noticed us unpopulars, or those not in the clique, and even newbies don't get as much help when asking for it.


Eta- this is my take solitude can speak on what she meant.

But I do want to say I hope no one let's this board intimidate them into not posting. It is never that serious.
Droid typing leads to typos for me

she's so fresh and new, leave her, her innocence...til the fall madness

please.

 

[HAIRapy]

caramelty
I would like an explanation of this versus the picture above. I don't care which head is yours but it's markedly different. Just curious.

As far as you the original post, it definitely has inflammatory elements. Can you not see that?

It looks like the looser pic in this thread is wet hair and the other thread's pic is her dry hair.... I could be wrong though.

 

[lala89]

My texture changes also. Whenever I put a relaxer in it, it gets straighter.

congrats on your good hair op.

 

[Napp]

im sorry OP but you have been a member since 2004. i would think you would know better not to post something like this and expect no backlash

 

[Platinum]

Hold up. Is this one of those threads created when the OP is a college student doing "research" for an a grade?

 

[Coco*Colada]

Geminigirl I have noticed similar occurences. I rarely have time to post (I mostly lurk) but I posted just recently in an rt pregnancy and childbirth thread about being horribly sick (hyperemesis morning sickness) and I got no replies, suggestions to help, kiss my a** ,nope nada . A couple posts later someone posted about hers and got *gasp* all sorts of suggestions. I got a good laugh from it and didnt let it bother me. The cliqueness is most def here tho. Not everyone is who and what they claim to be though so dont let it get you down. I mean we are online. It is ridiculous to have online cliques. The same ones who are trying so hard to keep others from being included or welcomed are getting bashed and clowned on other boards . What goes around comes around.

I know some things I have noticed is the holier than thou, bashing of others living different lifestyles. There is segregation and division where ther should be uplifting and togetherness is that a word lol. Anyways I heard the board was catty before I got here so that was nothing. But I notice people who try and passively take shots at he ones they don't like. It is a nice board if you don't make it your life. People used to debate intelligently now they take low shots often times. This board has def changed. Another thing is people used to be very helpful when you asked questions, I noticed us unpopulars, or those not in the clique, and even newbies don't get as much help when asking for it.


Eta- this is my take solitude can speak on what she meant.

But I do want to say I hope no one let's this board intimidate them into not posting. It is never that serious.
Droid typing leads to typos for me

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[BraunSugar]

Lets be real here. Many Blacks have nappy hair. And in most cases nappy hair is unruly. We all know this to be true. So why is it supposed to be difficult for someone to acknowledge that? Especially since in most cases, it's true. You can STILL embrass your nappy hair, even if its truly unruly. So embrace it. Go ahead. No one is going to be mad at you if you acknowledge it's characteristics. No one is going to be upset at you for loving it. Posting threads about it. Learning how to manage it. And as a major point, that IS the reason why most are here, isn't it? To learn HOW to manage nappy hair. Curly wavy hair also but especially nappy hair. And (shrug). It is more difficult to manage. So we as a system of Black women are learning HOW to manage it by coming here.

Just because one faces the thruth about who they are, doesn't mean that person is being negative about who they are.I know White who are pale. And they don't like it. They acknowledge it, do something about it, but still have pride in who they are because it's just 1 characteristic about them and they are not overly sensitive about it.

Yet another major point is, I may not always agree with someone's feelings about their hair or relaxing or what not, but I don't belittle them or intimidate them into possibly being scared of posting just because I don't like how they handle or view their hair. Why would I do that? I feel thats a form of intimidation and side eye bullying. When I see someone allude certain opinions about their own hair's looseness, I don't automatically associate that with a lack of racial stance or pride. That to me , and in reality, is just taking it to far.

This is the point I made. When you learn how to manage your hair, it should not be "unruly". If it is, then you must not fully understand your hair or get how to handle it.

As far as the "truth" about who somebody is, I think people make the mistake of thinking they can speak for an entire group of people because they belong to a certain group & believe that their experience or the experience of people they know, which encompasses a very small percentage of the whole, is the experience of the entire group. How can someone else speak for my truth?

So yes it is "difficult" for me to acknowledge that 'nappy' hair is unruly, when my 'nappy' hair takes me 20ish minutes to wash, condition, & detangle, & less than 5 to throw some gel in it, shake, and be on my merry little way. I know that my hair is not unruly so what am I acknowledging?

People might have this notion in their head that it should be hard for me because I stopped relaxing my hair and now it is supposed to be a nightmare, but anybody who feels that way either doesn't know any better, doesn't care to know any better, or doesn't have the patience to learn.

When someone decides not to accept a negative association about who they are, they are not overly sensitive or even sensitive in the slightest. It is someone taking someone else's "truth", or definition of who they are, and replacing it with the real one. The one they know.

As far as hair looseness equating with racial pride, none of the posts within this thread have mentioned that the OP was less black or wanting to be black because of her hair texture. She's been here a while & I doubt she will stop posting on account of this little thread. No one asked her not to. She paid to post the same as the rest of us.

While you and I may not see eye to eye on the matter, I thank you for responding to my post. I will over all agree to disagree.

 

[Geminigirl]

I think that people are a bit fed up with the bull#$%
threads and posts that don't contribute to any intelligent conversations. I myself am fed up with:
1. What's my hairtype?
2. My hair appears to be Cuban!
3. I'm mixed or any mixed thread
4. You name it.. this thread perhaps??

So I understand that the climate has changed a bit. But I wouldn't call it bashing. I would call it venting the fustrations caused by a person that sometimes seems to post just to get a rise out of people. I do agree that some people sometimes take their responses too far. But I do understand where they come from..

I dig it, I am talking about not just things here, but other forums as well. I def see bashing of single moms (which I proudly am btw) just the things people type in off topic or the et boards about how others choose to live their lives I can understand venting but some of it goes too far, especially since it's like oh don't say nappy hair cause some of us have nappy hair, but let's down talk single moms, baby mamas, unwed couples, dark skin people when we are on here as well. I really hate the term bby mama baby daddy and dnt refer to myself as such, but when used on this boaro it is often followed with a snicker. Now it doesn't bother me, but I am sure it bothers some, but I guess it is ok because there are so many richy rich folks and we are just so beneath them. Idrc it was just an observation like I said I let this board roll right off.

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[Geminigirl]

she's so fresh and new, leave her, her innocence...til the fall madness

please.

Lol ok I'll leave her be. Just read old threads and then take in the scenery now. I'm still learning myself.

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[Geminigirl]

Geminigirl I have noticed similar occurences. I rarely have time to post (I mostly lurk) but I posted just recently in an rt pregnancy and childbirth thread about being horribly sick (hyperemesis morning sickness) and I got no replies, suggestions to help, kiss my a** ,nope nada . A couple posts later someone posted about hers and got *gasp* all sorts of suggestions. I got a good laugh from it and didnt let it bother me. The cliqueness is most def here tho. Not everyone is who and what they claim to be though so dont let it get you down. I mean we are online. It is ridiculous to have online cliques. The same ones who are trying so hard to keep others from being included or welcomed are getting bashed and clowned on other boards . What goes around comes around.



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yes, I guess I notice it more because I def would get more love on here until I started keeping it too real. I woulo post a pic of my hair and get tons of thanks, now I barely see any when I do check on the pc, but someone who wears their hair the same way every pic is thanked a thousand times. I agree it is amusing, but it won't stop me from posting. I paid my money like everyone else.

I guess what you needed to do was go in the other person's thread and get your info from in there cause otherwise....lol.

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[tHENATuRALhAiRpRoJEcT]

So all along I thought my hair was gonna be so nappy and unruly. Wearing this sew in I have created such a wonderful relationship with my hair. The hair is becoming more wavy and tight coiled in other areas in excited can't wait till next year when I'm able to rock my hair natural.

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cuz you BLACK BIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIII!!!

J/K OP, i'm just seeing your post...I'm slowly catching up

 

[ladyviper]

I agree Geminigirl..one's lifestyle/appearance is no reason to bash someone... had no idea that that was happening btw!

I dig it, I am talking about in off topic. I def see bashing of single moms (which I proudly am btw) just the things people type in off topic or the et boards about how others choose to live their lives I can understand venting but some of it goes too far, especially since it's like oh don't say nappy hair cause some of us have nappy hair, but let's down talk single moms, baby mamas, unwed couples, dark skin people when we are one here as well. Idrc it was just an observation like I said I let this board roll right off.

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[Geminigirl]

oh and about others getting bashed elsewhere, you are right and I am still trying to catch up. I def will once I take my vacay.

People put on fronts to fit in. It is just not normal to me. I take everything with a grain of salt cause you don't know what's real and fake on here. I assume those ones that really go out of their way to down others are the ones hiding the most.

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