Please post the dumbest thing hairdressers have said to you here

[SexySin985]

I had a stylist tell me that I was to come back to her every two weeks for a $35 wash and set and to come back every 8 weeks for a $65 relaxer. She said, and I quote "I have magic fingers and I can make your hair grow very long by the end of the year" That money hungry beyotch!

 

[BK Bombshell]

Okay, I was getting my first weave and I had a lot of questions.

Me: I work out a lot and I swim. Can I wash it everyday or every other day?

Her: No, Black people wash their hair too much, that's why it falls out.

Me: But I need to run some water over my hair to get the salt off my scalp and the chlorine out my hair.

Her: No you don't. My other clients with weaves get their hair washed every other week when I do it and some of them only wash their hair once a month when they get their hair redone and that's enough. You can go up to about 3 months without washing your hair. If you need to wash your hair every other day, you should stop working out.

Me: WTF (While gathering my things and heading for the door)

 

[LizLeila]

"I didnt burn you." (after a relaxer as pus is dripping down my forehead.)

"The relaxer burned you because your scalp is too dry. I noticed it when I was putting it in."

"You NEED cellophane, Mami. It is a conditioner. If you dont use the cellophane, your hair is going to break." What this trick actually did was put a semi permanent color on my hair, NOT a cellophane. Btw, I told her NO COLOR, NO CELLOPHANE and yet she did it anyway.

"Your hair is too long."

 

[kittrelle]

I am 100% natural and went to a so-called "natural salon". FIRST off the lady tried to comb through my hair when it was DRY and then she said " I KNOW you don't have the nerve to be tender-headed with all this 'mess' on your head!!" Why oh why didn't I just walk out...erplexed Oh yeah. Her shop is closed now. Too bad, she had a decent braider there, though.

 

[MissYocairis]

He stated, "I went to a hair show and the stylist there said a relaxer should be pulled all the way through the hair every 6 months. "

Ain't nobody told him that, he was LYIN' like a moffo!

 

[MissYocairis]

"No, it's when you see the bulb at the end that it's bad and you should worry. If you don't see a bulb then that's good." WTH!

I am utterly appalled!

 

[KhandiB]

You Don’t Need A Super Relaxer :-|
I wont cut it too short :-|
That will be 18.00 for a cut and style :-|
Trust Me

 

[shiningstar84]

I had a stylist tell me that I was to come back to her every two weeks for a $35 wash and set and to come back every 8 weeks for a $65 relaxer. She said, and I quote "I have magic fingers and I can make your hair grow very long by the end of the year" That money hungry beyotch!

i have a friend that fell for this foolishness. after 2 years her hair was the same length she started with, but the front part of her hair grew out nicely, and her ends were even. i think that lady on oprah's debt diet has this regime. ::insert eye roll smiley here::

 

[pyxis777]

You look like you've been wetting your hair too much, your hair is damaged. (Refering to my uneven, not split ends, and the fact that I had been using a moisturizer on my hair) Sadly I believed her, and stopped using the moisturizer until I found LHCF.

I think overall, most stylist do not recognize truely split ends from uneven ends.

Me: <observing that some parts of my hair weren't reverting back after a press>
Sylist: That's just what happens after you've been pressing for awhile.

One stylist used SEABREEZE on my head immediately after relaxing and nutralizing to "prevent scabs" (I had the worst scabs when going to her)


The worst part about this whole thing, is that we, as black women are DESPERATE for healthy hair whether it be long or short. We have been told so much mess, and had so much done to our hair that it's a miracle we still have hair. It's sad that we suffer the most from totally preventable hair loss

 

[*ElleB]

Off topic: I know people say this and I read that black hair care book where the writer emphasizes this. But I don't get it -- the hair grows so it's not dead, to me. I don't know any dead things that grow. Why do people say the hair is dead? It's still soaking up nutrients and growing like alive things do.

I know in the hair care book, the writer said if the hair was alive, we could feel when we cut it ..which doesn't make sense because things can be alive and not have nervous systems to feel .

Englighten me please. I secretly consider the hair dead when it reaches the "resting phase" (last stage of growth) and then falls out.

When hair pushes out of your scalp it is dead...I hope I clarified that. Up until that point, I guess, as a matter of speaking you can say it is "alive" until it pushes out of the scalp....

HTH

 

[ultrasuede]

I went to a hairdresser for a simple French Twist. She was a friend of a friend who would beg me to come to her shop everytime I saw her. Finally I broke down and went. Big mistake. First she washed my hair with Pantene shampoo and attempted to blow my hair dry. Her technique was way off because instead of becoming smooth my hair became frizzy and puffy. She then calls over to another stylist who comes over and comments that she knows how to handle her own hair, and starts combing through her hair while giving my so called stylist tips on what might work on my hair. Finally she grabs a large handful of gel and slathers it through my hair. By this time I was fed up because I knew she didn't know what she was doing and just told her to put it in a French braid. When I got home I stepped into the shower and washed that mess right out of my hair.

 

[scorpian]

that you don't need to neutralize your hair after a relaxer
using a PH balanced conditioner instead will work fine

 

[nr_redgal]

My last stylist told me that airdrying was bad for black hair and that we are supposed to dry with some type of heat. I no longer go to this stylist for this and other reasons.

 

[Kurlee]

"your hair grows faster if you cut it"
"don't put anything in ur hair when you flat iron or it will get burnt"

 

[Southernbella.]

"Your hair can take a lot of heat since it's thick!" Translation...the heat damage won't show up for awhile, so you'll think it's still healthy, but it won't be.

"You need a trim after every relaxer" Translation...That extra $15 comes in handy.

 

[LizLeila]

"Your hair can take a lot of heat since it's thick!" Translation...the heat damage won't show up for awhile, so you'll think it's still healthy, but it won't be.

"You need a trim after every relaxer" Translation...That extra $15 comes in handy.

Lauren, you and your baby are BEAUTIFUL! What gorgeous hair too.

 

[sky_blu]

Geez! Are there any good stylist out there that are interested in growing healthy hair??

 

[sistawithsumthin]

She pretty much came short of cussing me out since I had just taken my daughter's hair down after braids. I told her that I had to put it into braids because of the scabs in her scalp from her relaxer to give it time to heal.

She says that I need to bring her at least every 4 weeks to prevent the sores!

When I took her to the dermatologist she has sebhorric dermatitis.

We both now have healthy heads of hair relaxer free and money in our pockets!

 

[frankie]

The stupidest thing I've heard as of late..."Your hair is so thick!"...as if it's a bad thing. I said..."THANK YOU!!!"

 

[plove]

Okay, I was getting my first weave and I had a lot of questions.

Me: I work out a lot and I swim. Can I wash it everyday or every other day?

Her: No, Black people wash their hair too much, that's why it falls out.

Me: But I need to run some water over my hair to get the salt off my scalp and the chlorine out my hair.

Her: No you don't. My other clients with weaves get their hair washed every other week when I do it and some of them only wash their hair once a month when they get their hair redone and that's enough. You can go up to about 3 months without washing your hair. If you need to wash your hair every other day, you should stop working out.

Me: WTF (While gathering my things and heading for the door)

lol i'm sorry but too funny, while gathering my things and heading for the door. lol

 

[plove]

Geez! Are there any good stylist out there that are interested in growing healthy hair??

NO, they will not make no money

 

[czyfaith77]

I asked my then hairdresser not to comb the relaxer from root to tip (over-lapping) as he had done during my previous relaxer touch-up.

He stated, "I went to a hair show and the stylist there said a relaxer should be pulled all the way through the hair every 6 months. "

They must be teaching this to all of the stylist because I heard this one too from a stylist too.

 

[SparklingFlame]

that you don't need to neutralize your hair after a relaxer
using a PH balanced conditioner instead will work fine

I'll bet all her clients come out of her solon looking like this:

 

[Divine_Order]

I'll bet all her clients come out of her solon looking like this:

 

[pretty-girl#1]

I had a gay guy tell me that the main reason women loose hair is b/c of too much moisture after a relaxer. He said that the moisture makes your hair snap and that you need to avoid is especially after you relax. He even said it made the hair come out from the roots! WTF???? He encouraged protein usage, but discouraged moisture. Good thing I had found this board because I got his *** straite! He still believed in his no moisture theory, but was fully aware that I was buying that argument!

 

[SocialWorker29]

@ pic
This thread is funny and scary at the same time.

I once asked a stylist if she could give me a no-lye perm and she was like "what for? all perms are the same."

 

[cocoberry10]

Where do I begin? I am about to vent. I have truly been traumatized by hairdressers, and I'm not going to lie; if I didn't find this website and "virtually" meet you ladies, I would have remained a tormented soul.

I have sisters, and my hair is the tightest (nappiest, whatever you want to call it). When we were younger, hairdressers (except for my first hairdresser, who was old and eventually retired) ALWAYS, ALWAYS, ALWAYS complained about how difficult my hair was to do in comparison with my sisters. It gave me the worst complex about my hair and my beauty as a Black woman for so long! My younger sister's hair is naturally curly, and my older sisters is naturally curly/wavy, but both have really soft textured hair that easily relaxes or blows out if natural. I suffered so bad y'all because of this, and I can't even write the demons I had about my hair for years and years. Also, because of this, their hair was always longer than mine. Again, this caused a great deal of issues. Thankfully, our mother never made me feel ashamed of my hair being nappier than my sisters when she did it. I used to always tell her "why did God give me bad hair?" She and my father hated to hear this, and did everything they could to reassure me that my hair was beautiful too, but I just couldn't believe it.

Another hairdresser told me that without relaxer, my hair would never grow, because it was so unmanageable. She also told me that I needed to relax every 4 weeks, and I don't have hair like my sisters. Thankfully, I have gotten away from those hairdressers, many who I now realize were the ones pulling out my hair. I have more stories, but I don't even want to speak about them, b/c they still cause pain just thinking about them.

To this day, I am always afraid to go to new hairdressers (which I will actually be doing on Saturday). I haven't been to a hairdresser in a year, b/c I'm so petrified of them screwing up. It looks like I've gotten a lot of growth, and I really don't want someone to come in and screw it up.

Before I close ladies, I just want to tell you all two last things. First, thank you for giving advice, listening to venting and just helping me learn so much about my hair. It has helped me externally, but more importantly, it has helped me in other ways you couldn't even imagine.

Second, for those of you with daughters, especially if you have more than one and they have different hair textures. PLEASE, PLEASE, PLEASE teach them about their hair. Tell them their hair is beautiful. My mom made me touch my hair so I could feel for myself how soft it was. A hairdresser (crazy) tried to put a relaxer in my hair when I was 8 without my mom's permission, because she hated my hair so much. Thankfully, my mom came back to pick us up and stopped her. I know that's extreme, but some of these hairdressers and other people are planting seeds of self-hate in your children, and it's so important that you stop that! No one's hair is bad, unless they don't know how to do it. Later on, a hairdresser who loved my hair taught me that my hair is a tight curl, fine-textured and very soft, but tightens up/coils/shrinks a lot. I have really learned to love my hair, whether I wear it natural or relaxed!

 

[cocoberry10]

 

[LizLeila]

Where do I begin? I am about to vent. I have truly been traumatized by hairdressers, and I'm not going to lie; if I didn't find this website and "virtually" meet you ladies, I would have remained a tormented soul.

I have sisters, and my hair is the tightest (nappiest, whatever you want to call it). When we were younger, hairdressers (except for my first hairdresser, who was old and eventually retired) ALWAYS, ALWAYS, ALWAYS complained about how difficult my hair was to do in comparison with my sisters. It gave me the worst complex about my hair and my beauty as a Black woman for so long! My younger sister's hair is naturally curly, and my older sisters is naturally curly/wavy, but both have really soft textured hair that easily relaxes or blows out if natural. I suffered so bad y'all because of this, and I can't even write the demons I had about my hair for years and years. Also, because of this, their hair was always longer than mine. Again, this caused a great deal of issues. Thankfully, our mother never made me feel ashamed of my hair being nappier than my sisters when she did it. I used to always tell her "why did God give me bad hair?" She and my father hated to hear this, and did everything they could to reassure me that my hair was beautiful too, but I just couldn't believe it.

Another hairdresser told me that without relaxer, my hair would never grow, because it was so unmanageable. She also told me that I needed to relax every 4 weeks, and I don't have hair like my sisters. Thankfully, I have gotten away from those hairdressers, many who I now realize were the ones pulling out my hair. I have more stories, but I don't even want to speak about them, b/c they still cause pain just thinking about them.

To this day, I am always afraid to go to new hairdressers (which I will actually be doing on Saturday). I haven't been to a hairdresser in a year, b/c I'm so petrified of them screwing up. It looks like I've gotten a lot of growth, and I really don't want someone to come in and screw it up.

Before I close ladies, I just want to tell you all two last things. First, thank you for giving advice, listening to venting and just helping me learn so much about my hair. It has helped me externally, but more importantly, it has helped me in other ways you couldn't even imagine.

Second, for those of you with daughters, especially if you have more than one and they have different hair textures. PLEASE, PLEASE, PLEASE teach them about their hair. Tell them their hair is beautiful. My mom made me touch my hair so I could feel for myself how soft it was. A hairdresser (crazy) tried to put a relaxer in my hair when I was 8 without my mom's permission, because she hated my hair so much. Thankfully, my mom came back to pick us up and stopped her. I know that's extreme, but some of these hairdressers and other people are planting seeds of self-hate in your children, and it's so important that you stop that! No one's hair is bad, unless they don't know how to do it. Later on, a hairdresser who loved my hair taught me that my hair is a tight curl, fine-textured and very soft, but tightens up/coils/shrinks a lot. I have really learned to love my hair, whether I wear it natural or relaxed!

I think this is one of the most beautiful posts I have read on this site!

Kudos to your parents and to you.

 

[simpleDIVA]

"hi mami I need to relax the ends" and my stupid behind listend to her