Relaxed Hair Thread

[Babygrowth]

shortdub78

If I wasn't cowashing every 2 days as an experiment I would just m/s 2-3x per week and heavy seal each time. In the braids. Rebraid only on shampoo wash day.

 

[Evolving78]

shortdub78 If I wasn't cowashing every 2 days as an experiment I would just m/s 2-3x per week and heavy seal each time. In the braids. Rebraid only on shampoo wash day.

I wash my hair twice a week, so would I just wash, moisturize, heavy seal, and don't take down until Wed? Then do the same, but take down once to re moisturize, etc...?

 

[Evolving78]

I wash my hair twice a week, so would I just wash, moisturize, heavy seal, and don't take down until Wed? Then do the same, but take down once to re moisturize, etc...?

right now I am just bunning, using a satin scrunchie or a clip. If I go out to dinner or something, I will put my wig on. That's why I'm looking for some black satin scrunchies. I have a couple of colored ones. My ends don't dry out with those. I usually use spin pins, but I want my ends totally covered.

 

[divachyk]

I'm in a hair rut. I trimmed my hair again today, I also trimmed it last week and a few weeks before that I've noticed that I have mid- shaft splits among other types of splits and it's driving me insane. I don't know what the culprit is which is the worse part. I've cut about 2 inches off so far and had to stop my scissor happy self from cutting my hair to SL out of aggravation.

flyygirlll2, I'm sorry about this. I understand the frustration all too well because that's my hair exactly. I comb gently, use seamless combs yet I'm still battling. Using ceramides didn't help either. I believe my cuticles are just weak from chemicals and it's caught up with me. I've trimmed and chopped but more popped up. Quite discouraging.

Komaza advised using protein after a hair cut to seal the cuticle. They also advised dusting with every relaxer to keep the ends healthy. Lastly, they advised trimming and protein will correct this over time. *shrugs*

My ends seem healthier now that I'm wearing wigs. I'm certain it's the less manipulation and environment exposure that's helping.

 

[Evolving78]

Wanted to show you ladies a pic of the type of breakage I experience when I have too much product in my hair or when it's dry. This is when I tug at my hair to remove shed hairs from the ends. My hair isn't straightened either. Is this bad?

 

[ItsMeLilLucky]

shortdub, that is a total bummer. Why do hair have to be such divas sometimes?

 

[Evolving78]

shortdub, that is a total bummer. Why do hair have to be such divas sometimes?

I'm being a diva? Lol are you saying my breakage isn't that bad and I'm tripping? Please help me understand!

 

[ItsMeLilLucky]

I'm being a diva? Lol are you saying my breakage isn't that bad and I'm tripping? Please help me understand!

shortdub78 No, no, no, you are not being a diva, my apologies for the miscommunication. I was saying why do hair have to be a diva (cause breakage, etc). For example, my scalp likes air and my hair doesn't like to be manipulated that's why I call it a diva lol. I didn't mean you were a diva for the breakage.

 

[Evolving78]

shortdub78 No, no, no, you are not being a diva, my apologies for the miscommunication. I was saying why do hair have to be a diva (cause breakage, etc). For example, my scalp likes air and my hair doesn't like to be manipulated that's why I call it a diva lol. I didn't mean you were a diva for the breakage.

I understand! Lol

 

[Saludable84]

flyygirlll2, I'm sorry about this. I understand the frustration all too well because that's my hair exactly. I comb gently, use seamless combs yet I'm still battling. Using ceramides didn't help either. I believe my cuticles are just weak from chemicals and it's caught up with me. I've trimmed and chopped but more popped up. Quite discouraging. Komaza advised using protein after a hair cut to seal the cuticle. They also advised dusting with every relaxer to keep the ends healthy. Lastly, they advised trimming and protein will correct this over time. *shrugs* My ends seem healthier now that I'm wearing wigs. I'm certain it's the less manipulation and environment exposure that's helping.

How you wet detangle can have a bit to do with it as well.

 

[flyygirlll2]

flyygirlll2, I'm sorry about this. I understand the frustration all too well because that's my hair exactly. I comb gently, use seamless combs yet I'm still battling. Using ceramides didn't help either. I believe my cuticles are just weak from chemicals and it's caught up with me. I've trimmed and chopped but more popped up. Quite discouraging. Komaza advised using protein after a hair cut to seal the cuticle. They also advised dusting with every relaxer to keep the ends healthy. Lastly, they advised trimming and protein will correct this over time. *shrugs* My ends seem healthier now that I'm wearing wigs. I'm certain it's the less manipulation and environment exposure that's helping.

The only place I've encountered splits has been my nape, I've never had this issue with the rest of my hair like this. I use seamless combs and for the most part I finger detangle. Le sigh. I did do a protein treatment on wash day before I trimmed. I will use Organix Anti-Breakage Coconut Milk and a heavy butter on my ends. At this point I'm just going to trim away the damage little by little. I might just look into getting a wig and call it a day cause I'm just too frustrated with my hair.

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[Babygrowth]

I wash my hair twice a week, so would I just wash, moisturize, heavy seal, and don't take down until Wed? Then do the same, but take down once to re moisturize, etc...?

Yes. Like if you wash Sunday and Wednesday I would take down every Wednesday but on Sunday do everything in braids.

 

[divachyk]

The only place I've encountered splits has been my nape, I've never had this issue with the rest of my hair like this. I use seamless combs and for the most part I finger detangle. Le sigh. I did do a protein treatment on wash day before I trimmed. I will use Organix Anti-Breakage Coconut Milk and a heavy butter on my ends. At this point I'm just going to trim away the damage little by little. I might just look into getting a wig and call it a day cause I'm just too frustrated with my hair.

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flyygirlll2, I needed a break from my hair. As I do my braids take down, my ends aren't looking nearly as bad as what they use to be. On the surface, it's definitely seeming like it's helping. I never had this issue either so I'm thinking it's something other than technique Salduable84. Would you agree split ends should have presented itself before now if I was improperly wet detangling? I'm not saying I'm a perfect detangler, I'm just thinking it's something different seeing how splits is a 2014 problem. I could be wrong though.

I wash my hair twice a week, so would I just wash, moisturize, heavy seal, and don't take down until Wed? Then do the same, but take down once to re moisturize, etc...?

Yes. Like if you wash Sunday and Wednesday I would take down every Wednesday but on Sunday do everything in braids.

shortdub78 Babygrowth, y'all can tell me to get out grown folks business if need be because I know I'm seeing my way in convo that doesn't pertain to me. But, are y'all talking about washing and leaving braids without detangling on the 2nd wash day?

 

[Saludable84]

divachyk I just ask because that was my issue a while back. I was not detangling properly and it took a while for the splits up shaft to show. So if they are midway up, depending on the length (and you have long hair) it could take a while to present itself.

My issue was improper detangling, COwashing and air drying. So it took a while for it to grow out. Close to about a year.

Just a thought.

The natural maven, who I rarely read these days, had an article on it.

 

[Saludable84]

divachyk

Just get to the solution of the problem now. I leant a lot from you. You've been thriving well since the Komaza analysis and the wigging so I would like to see you solve these problems now so they don't bum you out later.

 

[ItsMeLilLucky]

Saludable84 may I ask why you hardly read the Natural Maven

 

[ItsMeLilLucky]

Saludable84 May I ask why you hardly read the Natural Maven?

 

[flyygirlll2]

DivaChyck hmmmm I'm not sure since I mainly detangle while in the shower loaded with conditioner. I try my best to detangle as gently as possible and not rush through. I went back to air drying this last wash and it was a mess. I guess I'll just go back to roller setting like I've done years back without issues. I was just looking to cut down on manipulation to see if that's the cause but air drying is a no go for my hair right now. I just bought the Tammy wig in the correct color this time lol so I can just leave my hair alone and see if that helps. This is a big deal for me cause I'm not a wig/ weave person but I need a break from my hair.

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[Saludable84]

Saludable84 may I ask why you hardly read the Natural Maven

I used to like her a lot and found her very informative but after a while she seemed so condescending. I really like her blog, still do, but I try not to read her comments sections. The way you respond to comments determines if I will read your blog or not and I didn't care for how she spoke to people sometimes.

 

[ItsMeLilLucky]

Saludable84 True.

 

[divachyk]

Saludable84, ahhhh thanks homie and likewise -- you've helped me also!

Now that I'm in wigs, my ends are rarely an issue when I'm going about my take down and re-braid. I still S&D as I go about my process but the amount of splits are like way, way low. *knock on wood* I've been tension blow drying vs. straight air drying so that is also helping, I'm sure. I changed up a number of things so really, it's hard to say what was the turning point --

stretching my relaxer
more protein
S&D more often
protective styling / low manipulation
etc

 

[divachyk]

DivaChyck hmmmm I'm not sure since I mainly detangle while in the shower loaded with conditioner. I try my best to detangle as gently as possible and not rush through. I went back to air drying this last wash and it was a mess. I guess I'll just go back to roller setting like I've done years back without issues. I was just looking to cut down on manipulation to see if that's the cause but air drying is a no go for my hair right now. I just bought the Tammy wig in the correct color this time lol so I can just leave my hair alone and see if that helps. This is a big deal for me cause I'm not a wig/ weave person but I need a break from my hair.

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I'm loving Tammy. I wear her like every day flyygirlll2. I'm sure you'll love her too. My hair is loving tension blow drying. Regular air drying was hit or miss. Your hair should respond favorably to roller setting.

I've worn wigs before and have even done braids with extensions. I've never wore wigs to work but now that I am, I'm loving it. So many compliments.

 

[Evolving78]

flyygirlll2, I needed a break from my hair. As I do my braids take down, my ends aren't looking nearly as bad as what they use to be. On the surface, it's definitely seeming like it's helping. I never had this issue either so I'm thinking it's something other than technique Salduable84. Would you agree split ends should have presented itself before now if I was improperly wet detangling? I'm not saying I'm a perfect detangler, I'm just thinking it's something different seeing how splits is a 2014 problem. I could be wrong though. shortdub78 Babygrowth, y'all can tell me to get out grown folks business if need be because I know I'm seeing my way in convo that doesn't pertain to me. But, are y'all talking about washing and leaving braids without detangling on the 2nd wash day?

I mean take down and m&s daily?

 

[Babygrowth]

divachyk shortdub78 the 2nd wash day I leave the braids in.

 

[Saludable84]

Saludable84, ahhhh thanks homie and likewise -- you've helped me also! Now that I'm in wigs, my ends are rarely an issue when I'm going about my take down and re-braid. I still S&D as I go about my process but the amount of splits are like way, way low. *knock on wood* I've been tension blow drying vs. straight air drying so that is also helping, I'm sure. I changed up a number of things so really, it's hard to say what was the turning point -- stretching my relaxer more protein S&D more often protective styling / low manipulation etc

More than likely it's a bit of everything.

 

[divachyk]

Saludable84, I def agree.

Babygrowth, I'm so impressed that your hair doesn't loc or matte at the line of demarcation.

shortdub78, I take my braids down every few days, finger detangle/de-shed, moisturize and rebraid.

 

[missyrayne19]

Soooo I was going to post a picture comparing the flat ironed section of my hair to the non-flat ironed/non-stretched/just simple air drying side of my hair but I can't. Turns out I deleted it on accident and didn't even realize it 'til now smh lol

 

[flyygirlll2]

I'm loving Tammy. I wear her like every day flyygirlll2. I'm sure you'll love her too. My hair is loving tension blow drying. Regular air drying was hit or miss. Your hair should respond favorably to roller setting. I've worn wigs before and have even done braids with extensions. I've never wore wigs to work but now that I am, I'm loving it. So many compliments.

I did use tension blow dry about a month ago but I used the Denman brush which could have caused the splits too now that I'm thinking about it. I also did flat iron more this year and I'm not one to use direct heat hardly. Sorry I'm thinking out loud but this year has been a difficult one for me and my hair is showing it now ( well at least in my eyes cause others think it looks fine).

I'm really thinking about getting the Komaza Analysis now. I'm at an unhappy place with my hair and it shouldn't be that way.

 

[divachyk]

flyygirlll2, we are harder on ourselves than others. Are you able to visit mom a few times to let her get your hair back on track? I don't mind you thinking out loud. I've had a run in with split ends before but it was definitely mechanical damage -- denman and tangle teezer. It took a good year to resolve that damage. I trimmed and chopped and trimmed and chopped until all splits were gone.

 

[ItsMeLilLucky]

flyygirlll2 I'm sad that it was a rough year for you and your hair suffered. I'm here with you and for you. All we can do is take it one day at a time. At least you recognized your hair is suffering. And this is one of the best places to think out loud. These ladies have some knowledge AND encouraging words. This isn't Allstate, but you're in good hands