Relaxed Hair Thread

[jcdlox]

Cute style missbugg21

afroette, I use to feel the same way and used brushes for the first 6 months of my HHJ. I now sleek and smooth with a fine tooth comb. I use a soft bristle tooth brush on nape / edges. I use BM Curly Butter or HV whipped gelly for smoothing nape / edges. No gel.

BM Curly Butter? HCT whipped gelly? What are the full names of these products and where do you get them? I'm looking for something to smooth my nape with for updo's

 

[divachyk]

KhandiB, I tried keeping up with the Jones' (figure of speech) and it go me nowhere. I am KISS also. That works best for my hair. I doesn't make for much fun but it works.

danysedai, my stylist uses regular and I tend to burn easy. To keep from burning, I base my scalp 24hrs ahead with Summit. Works like a champ. I found mine at the BSS. Relaxing with anything less than regular puts me at risk for under processing. My hair is relaxed with lye.

jcdlox, I hyperlinked the products and gave the full name. I like them both. I tend to use the curly butter on dry hair and whipped gelly on damp hair but I think both can work on both dry/damp hair. Bee Mine Bee Hold Curly Butter. HairVeda Whipped Gelly.

 

[cutiepiesensei]

ladies, how do you oil your scalp?? I try and try but it always gets all over my hair and makes it a greasy mess. I want to start applying a mega thick oil, MN, and castor oil mix on my scalp every other night but am not good at it. I even have an applicator bottle, but I'm not skilled with it. Does someone have a step by step process?

 

[LexiDior]

Do any of you ladies wash more than 3 times a week?? if so, whats your reggie?? My hair looks and feels better after its been washed so im starting to wash more, i dont want to damage anything or mess up anything.

 

[divachyk]

ladies, how do you oil your scalp?? I try and try but it always gets all over my hair and makes it a greasy mess. I want to start applying a mega thick oil, MN, and castor oil mix on my scalp every other night but am not good at it. I even have an applicator bottle, but I'm not skilled with it. Does someone have a step by step process?

I use an applicator bottle from Sally's. cutiepiesensei

 

[Guinan]

Hi Ladies. I am in major need of anyone's knowledge on dealing with scalp burns. Until yesterday, I didn't realize that the burn took away hair too

I was using vaseline but have since switched to JBCO and argon oil. I have no idea what could have caused this. The minutes my hair dresser applied it to that area it burned like crazy. I yelled for her to take it out but she kept combing it in. I am sooo upset about this that I am near tears. Because of this I really thinking about going back to natural.

My question is how do I treat it? and will my hair grow back? Thanks in advance.

 

[Loving]

@pelohello Neosporin shuld work. Just be gentle with it until it heals. When the scabs are dry, gently remove them. You shouldn't lose any hair if you try that approach.

 

[SuchMagnificent]

Im going to join divachyk with cutting off a couple inches..will probably go back to APL as well..I also posted this in the MBL thread..The left side is full MBL and the right side is not..lol...its see thru and thin..Normally, I would be having an anxiety attack just thinking about it, but since Ive been that length before and bounced back, Im not really concerned...The problem is I dont have a regular beautician and Im in the process of finding one now..I can manage my hair as far growth but when it comes to trims, relaxers and all around styling, I need help..
I attached a pic of my hair as of last month..most likely the last time it will like this.

 

[Evolving78]

Hi Ladies. I am in major need of anyone's knowledge on dealing with scalp burns. Until yesterday, I didn't realize that the burn took away hair too

I was using vaseline but have since switched to JBCO and argon oil. I have no idea what could have caused this. The minutes my hair dresser applied it to that area it burned like crazy. I yelled for her to take it out but she kept combing it in. I am sooo upset about this that I am near tears. Because of this I really thinking about going back to natural.

My question is how do I treat it? and will my hair grow back? Thanks in advance.

i used Neosporin and aloe vera gel. washing and conditioning helped with healing my scalp burns too. i did really lose any hair. i was extremely gentle in that area. hair was just stuck in those spots to my scalp. a week later i was all good.

 

[divachyk]

pelohello like it was said, neosporin works. I would like to think the hair will grow back.

SuchMagnificance, I feel you!

 

[LadyBklyn]

Do child relaxers really break hair off or is that a myth?

Cause it was the lowest costing relaxer and I had a $20 on me no card no nothing

"sofn'free n' pretty" olive and sunflower oil no-lye relaxer

I PERSONALLY think its a myth! I've been relaxed since I was 14 and ALWAYS used a kiddie relaxer. Never had any problems either. My hair has never fallen out (Thank you Lord) thinned out, or break off. Even when I didn't know know how to care or appreciate my hair it did just fine. I personally like just for me, and Africa's best kids relaxer. Besides I was told in beauty school that a kiddie relaxer is slightly less strong than an adult relaxer. Either way, if your not sure just add some oil. I do that Everytime anyway because Im slow at applying it. And just make sure you do a light protein treatment followed by a deep condition. You shouldnt being Experiencing any breakage at all! I've been thinking bout trying an adult relaxer like Mizani butter blends cause I always hair great things about it..... But nah I'm good. Like my Momma always said if it ain't broke, don't fix it! Kiddie relaxers always done right by me!

 

[Mische]

SuchMagnificance I've always been a "fan" of your hair. I'm sure it will look just as beautiful after your snip. Make sure to post pics!

 

[healthyhair2]

I relaxed my hair straight again in May, after having a texturizer that did not do much in October 2011. My hair is color- treated as well. I was not so thrilled with my texture anymore and got tired of dealing with it. Now, I am babying my relaxed hair to nurse it back to health. I lost alot when I relaxed. My hairdresser here (I'm in N. Carolina for awhile)said it was shedding alot and showed me the HANDFUL of hair that came out! She did a fantastic job of trimming and rollersetting my hair. The relaxer I have now is Influance Mild(Lye relaxers are best for me).Couldn't find my Syntonics relaxer here and she'd NEVER heard of it. All the products used on my hair at the salon were Influance also. Here's what I have been doing since that May 24th relaxer--which was a Virgin (whole head) process.

I waited until I was 1 week post, clarified and did an Aphogee 2 step treatment. After rinsing the Balancing Moisturizer, I used Influance Moisture Lock and sealed with Grapeseed oil. I
airdry after every wash or Co-wash .

My hairdresser recommended that I use hardcore protein treatments to slow down my shedding.
I didn't want to spend the money on large bottles of Aphogee 2 step because, I am not so impressed with the performance of the product. It doesn't work as well for me as it did when I was a teenager and neither does Nexxus Emergencee for that matter! So, I took a trip to the beauty supply and settled on Optimum Salon Care. I got the Hair Cleanser, Intensive Reconstructor and Deep Conditioner. I use this system 1x a week.

I Co-wash 1-2x a week with Jherri Redding Moisturizing Condish, Salon Grafix Conditioning Cleanser,Pure and Basic natural Moisturizing or Reconstructing Condish or Vital Plus Herbal Organics Condish. Sometimes, I combine 2, depending on how my hair feels.

My alternate shampoos are Allways non-drying formula and Chi Nourish Intense Silk Bath

My alternate DC's are Motions CPR Protein Reconstructor, Kanechom Ceramides,CON Moisture Extreme and Broaer Wheat Germ Mask.

 

[healthyhair2]

Ok, so I know this got long, but I am on a roll here!

Leave-ins that I use are Motions CPR Triple Action,Surge Moistur-aide and Influance Moisture Lock.

I have incorporated garlic tea rinses, Ceramide oils and protective styling. For extra moisture I use DE Nutriment Rx.

If I have tangles or my new growth needs to be softened up, I use CB Smooth Detangling
spray.

I only do my hair in the shower and never comb it wet!!! Moisturize and seal is my new motto.
A French twist is my daily hairstyle and I use a silky scarf at night. In the next 3 wks, I will begin using my MN mix. HTH

 

[SuchaLady]

I notice growth from my last length check, I think I swear I need to get over myself with this hair foolishness. This is a hair board but this is just hair. Sorry.

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[Lilmama1011]

I notice growth from my last length check, I think I swear I need to get over myself with this hair foolishness. This is a hair board but this is just hair. Sorry.

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When was your last length check?

 

[SuchMagnificent]

I'm gonna try and save as much as possible..looking into a "V " cut

 

[sunnieb]

Here's a pic of my post-chop back to APL hair:



I cut more than I originally thought, but I'm fine with it. I really want length, but I want healthy ends more.

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[Nix08]

Looks great sunnieb

 

[sunnieb]

Thanks Nix08!

I enjoyed my BSL hair while it lasted!

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[danysedai]

I'm wearing my hair in a braidout, I like it

A question ladies. I want layers again (had them done in January 2011 so they are grown now). I have 2 options:

Option 1. - Last year I had layers cut by this hair stylist in my city and I loved it. This is the same stylist who did my relaxer in January that didn't take. I texted her after that to tell her that the relaxer didn't take at all and she never texted me back so I assumed she was upset with me or smthg. Now, I want layers again, mainly in the front. I texted her and she says that she's out of town but can see me next week.

Option 2.- I went to a hair salon (white) in my city and there is a black hair stylist there. I had a hair consult with her on Tuesday and I liked her, she seemed to understand what I wanted ( I showed her pictures of the layers hairstylist 1 cut last year) but she said she would cut from 2 to 4 inches in the back and layer the front. I said I didn't want the back cut just the front and she accepted that. The issue is that she wore a weave (which is not a deal breaker of course as I have seen plenty of ladies here who protective style with weaves and they have nice hair underneath) but she was touching my hair and saying she wished she had hair like mine because hers was very fine and broken and her edges were "wack". She seemed to understand the type of cut I wanted but IDK, if her hair was torn up, can I trust her with mine?

I'm thinking about calling and cancelling the appointment I made with stylist #2 and waiting until next week.

 

[Nix08]

danysedai that's quite the conundrum...I'm not sure I would be comfortable with either. I wouldn't limit myself to only stylist of colour though for a cut.

Here's a little bump for you for other responses

 

[SuchMagnificent]

The verdict: my hair is overprocessed..sitting under the dryer at this new salon now..the stylist seems to know what she's talking about..hopefully its not too bad...I will keep you guys posted

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[Cattypus1]

shortdub78, I think I could try that, upping to a medium, I'm a bit scared because I used to use the medium strength affirm before meeting my (now deceased) stylist and it burned. That is why I was thinking of trying other relaxer (Mizani lye) but I'm not sure yet.

I wash the week before and do a protein treatment. But I don't clarify a few days before, so I could try that. I use the Affirm Gentle Assurance scalp protector to base my scalp when I relax. I do not use oils that much, but I use ORS smooth and hold pudding to put my hair in a bun the week before I relax so maybe clarifying would help. I use Affirm so I do use a reconstructor before I neutralize so I could also try your suggestion of neutralize first, reconstruct second.

Cattypus1
thanks for reminding me about lye no lye.
I odn't think my hair is overprocessed.It is very underprocessed meaning most of the kinks are still there. Click on the picture to see. Do you see that little curl on my nape? those are all over now on my newgrowth.

I see what you mean...you have a LOT of hair. It's beautiful. Good luck.

 

[afroette]

I want black hair, not this weird dark brown in light look!

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[sckri23]

ladies, how do you oil your scalp?? I try and try but it always gets all over my hair and makes it a greasy mess. I want to start applying a mega thick oil, MN, and castor oil mix on my scalp every other night but am not good at it. I even have an applicator bottle, but I'm not skilled with it. Does someone have a step by step process?

I use the DG growth oil/AB herbal oil in the DG bottle. Im heavy handed with oil so let it drip out by itself.

I rub it in with my fingers and massage my roots, then I brush into my hair. Its still kinda wet when im done but it absorbs during the night and comes out silky soft.

 

[divachyk]

Looks great sunnieb

SuchMagnificance, how's your hair. I see you on that pole girl. Teach me a few thangs.

 

[mschristine]

Hello ladies! I'm a long time lurker coming into the light, lol. I'm NL relaxed and I've been on my journey for about a year and a half now. I have already posted in the relaxed buddy thread and I joined the SL challenge because I would love to be SL by the end of the year. I'm relaxing in Monday after 10 weeks because i have a lot of new growth and I need a fresh cut. The back of my hair is going trough something and it's so thin. So it's getting chopped. I'm switching to Giovanni and Aubrey Organic products during my next stretch and also investing in a conditioning cap for deeper DCs. I have a wack patch in the back that grows in very strange and breaks all the time. I rarely use heat and i moisturize and seal twice a day. I also cowash once a week. I keep my hair in a bun at work and I don't wear it down often. I don't know what else to add...I guess that's it.

 

[SuchMagnificent]

Looks great sunnieb

SuchMagnificance, how's your hair. I see you on that pole girl. Teach me a few thangs.

divachyk

Well..I'm back to APL...and its not quite set in yet...I'm not ready to post pics..but the good thing is I found a beautician who is all about healthy hair..wants to give me an avocado treatment next time I come in..She has been doing hair for 18 years and seems to be very knowledgeable.I realized that I'm not a good DIY..my hair thrives when the right person os in it..Ive managed to make MBL 3 times before so im confident that I can do it again..I'm going to make her my stylist from here on out

And I can definitely show you some tricks..lol

 

[divachyk]

SuchMagnificance, I'm sure you're hair is lovely. We support your length no matter where it falls. I've never heard of a stylist offering a avocado treatment. That sounds yummy. You will make MBL again, don't you worry.