Relaxed Hair Thread

[JudithO]

Mande30 my nape is a looser texture than the rest of my hair and I think I do leave the relaxer on too long in that area. I'm thinking about taking a break from relaxers for a while just roller setting the front and the crown and molding the nape area..does that make sense?

I stopped relaxing my nape completely. No more problems.

 

[mschristine]

I stopped relaxing my nape completely. No more problems.

That's what I was thinking about doing too..I'm very frustrated and I believe that is my last option

 

[Mande30]

@Mande30 my nape is a looser texture than the rest of my hair and I think I do leave the relaxer on too long in that area. I'm thinking about taking a break from relaxers for a while just roller setting the front and the crown and molding the nape area..does that make sense?

mschristine yes, that does make sense. Is any other part of your hair giving you problems, other than the nape. Maybe JudithO 's suggestion about skipping the nape at relaxer time will work. I will try this myself. If it doesn't work out I can try every other relaxer.

 

[Guinan]

How do you avoid relaxing the nape? Especially with relaxer run off. Do you just coat it w/ something? Is the nape the hair closest to your neck?

 

[mschristine]

mschristine yes, that does make sense. Is any other part of your hair giving you problems, other than the nape. Maybe JudithO 's suggestion about skipping the nape at relaxer time will work. I will try this myself. If it doesn't work out I can try every other relaxer.

The rest of my hair is good, no issues with breakage at all. I'm going to try rollersetting and molding first to see if it helps and I won't relax my nape at all on my next relaxer date

 

[mschristine]

How do you avoid relaxing the nape? Especially with relaxer run off. Do you just coat it w/ something? Is the nape the hair closest to your neck?[/QUOTE

The nape is the section that is closer to your neck. I'm going to coat it with thick oils and conditioner to keep the run off from relaxing that part

 

[SuchaLady]

Im glad I have a big relaxed bun. Its a life saver.
Im glad my hair is healthy,
Im glad I use weave for fun and not because my hair looks like rats nibble at it like its cheese

We you truly start to "understand" your hair you appreciate it for so much more than it being just hair. Some reasons shallow; some practical.

 

[JudithO]

How do you avoid relaxing the nape? Especially with relaxer run off. Do you just coat it w/ something? Is the nape the hair closest to your neck?

Of course, there is the run off when you are rinsing off... But it has never been an issue... I rinse really well and cover my entire head with the mid protein step before I neutralize... But I coat in porosity control, section away my nape and relax every other part. The nape is the area closest to your neck.

 

[MrsMelodyV]

Texlaxed yesterday. I love the results! It made my super tight coils much looser and I lost minimal hair detangling as compared to natural.



I haven't straightened yet but I will eventually. I need a trim.

 

[apemay1969]

I haven't been 6 wks post since 2003. The one fiasco I had that brought me to this forum in 2008 doesn't count because I was transitioning and mentally that's different.

I guess the key to survival is low manipulation and co washing for me. I woke up this morning looking like a troll doll scarf and bonnet all on the floor mocking me. Lawd, help me.

 

[Saludable84]

That's what I was thinking about doing too..I'm very frustrated and I believe that is my last option

Definitely relax it less or not at all. I relax my entire edge area around the entire head last, so my nape doesn't see relaxer until I'm ready to wash and likewise for that area around the ears and front edges. It barely gets a minute f relaxer.

Also, when I roller set, I place those rollers down and not too tight. I also only use hair from that area and whatever does not fit is not forced.

I haven't had nape problems in a couple years and I believe just not even bothering it has helped.

 

[apemay1969]

I'm pre-pooing with Tresseme smooth conditioner with grape seed and castor oils. I'm going to wash with ORS Aloe, oil rinse with grapeseed and DC with The Pak. I like the ORS packets better than the bottle. Seems different to me. I used to use a very diluted ACV last rinse but since I've stopped, my hair has been softer. Then I'll air dry 95%, water spritz the dried areas, seal with that awesome grape seed oil, about a dime sized amount. I apply castor to my crown and edges. I apply about three dots of ORS mayo, use a wide tooth comb to remove ultra conditioned shed hair. Lightly brush back and in a bun it goes. Then ill be able to see realistically how long I can stretch this texlax.

This forum is a lifesaver.

 

[Jewell]

@Jewell

YOU HAVE GOT TO STOP DISAPPEARING! You and southerncitygirl always have me worried. I have to stop myself from messaging you two repeatedly

Isn't he her fabulous! Its so regal. I have got to try it. Your hair would look fabulous that way. Its so long and lush . Are your going to update your fotki w/ pics?

EnExitStageLeft

I apologize for being rather absent! Mainly I have been lurking and reading old pages of threads and challenges. I hadnt planned on posting pics of this TU, as I dont want to get anxious about my progress, but I might as well. I get so busy with home life that I dont post as often as I'd like on here, nor do I take pics as often as I used to.

It is very regal indeed! Thanks, girl...I havent tried the style yet, but when I do, I will take pics and post em in my Fotki.

 

[Mahsiah]

I'm getting a dome dryer in a couple of weeks and I'm so excited!

 

[mschristine]

I'm getting a dome dryer in a couple of weeks and I'm so excited!

Me too..I got rollers, pins and setting lotion all picked out as well..

 

[mschristine]

Definitely relax it less or not at all. I relax my entire edge area around the entire head last, so my nape doesn't see relaxer until I'm ready to wash and likewise for that area around the ears and front edges. It barely gets a minute f relaxer. Also, when I roller set, I place those rollers down and not too tight. I also only use hair from that area and whatever does not fit is not forced. I haven't had nape problems in a couple years and I believe just not even bothering it has helped.

Do you think coating my nape with conditioner and castor oil will help with the relaxer run off?

 

[Cattypus1]

Do you think coating my nape with conditioner and castor oil will help with the relaxer run off?

I use Vaseline over conditioner, usually Porosity Control. The Porosity Control slows the processing and Vaseline all but stops it...for a reasonable amount of time, at least long enough to finish applying and smoothing.

 

[Saludable84]

Do you think coating my nape with conditioner and castor oil will help with the relaxer run off?

I use Vaseline over conditioner, usually Porosity Control. The Porosity Control slows the processing and Vaseline all but stops it...for a reasonable amount of time, at least long enough to finish applying and smoothing.

I use base (the minty one) though vaseline is also fine and crisco so something that won't rub off will work. Conditioner and oil may run off with water after a while, so while its good, I find that good coaters of the hair work better.

 

[SuchaLady]

divachyk how did you do the top bun? I know it looks simple and effortless but no matter how I twist my hair it ends up looking like the same bun http://www.longhaircareforum.com/showpost.php?p=19129963&postcount=578

 

[Nix08]

At 8 weeks post the volume at my roots is just overwhelming. Scalp massages just makes it 'visibly' worse.

 

[quirkydimples]

Why didn't anyone ever tell me about pin curls?! I love them!

When I wear my hair straight, it's usually...straight. And, if I do curl it, the curls are kind of meh after one night of cross wrapping. I've been lamenting the fact that my stand-up dryer and all my rollers are in storage, and the fact that even if they weren't I don't have the time or energy to rollerset. So on a whim, I decided to try pin curls and voila!

Hair that is curled under (I did big loops/curls) with lots of body and bounce. Best of all: it takes less than five minutes.

On an entirely unrelated note: I saw that someone posted Shea Moisture products were BOGO at CVS. Went there immediately and they were already sold out, but wait! I saw the manager and she gave me a rain check so I can still get the deal when they restock.

 

[317537]

Former self relaxer first time at the salon experience. So I self relax every 20weeks or so maintaining with flatironing my roots after 8 weeks. I decided to go to the salon for the first time ever for a touch up. I was super scared to let someone put relaxer on me. I told my stylist that I'm sensitive used to use optimum care but always manage to burn my nape a lil bit He used Mizani butter blends, blew me out cut ( a few inches) and curled with a curling iron. I'm not a fan of the iron but I thought it turned out pretty good. He was appalled that I stretch 20 weeks but it's really cause I hate hate hate relaxing myself. He said I should come at least every 10 weeks. Well see.... Guess I'm getting off the long stretch bandwagon. It was a lot more expensive than 2 boxes of 7.99 optimum care at Sally's but I didn't have any burns or under processed areas like when I do it myself. What do u ladies think? Are you a long stretcher because u hate self relaxing or for hair health? I know some people relax every 4 weeks. I think my hair would all break off if I did that! Sent from my iPhone using LHCF

 

[brownb83]

Former self relaxer first time at the salon experience. So I self relax every 20weeks or so maintaining with flatironing my roots after 8 weeks. I decided to go to the salon for the first time ever for a touch up. I was super scared to let someone put relaxer on me. I told my stylist that I'm sensitive used to use optimum care but always manage to burn my nape a lil bit He used Mizani butter blends, blew me out cut ( a few inches) and curled with a curling iron. I'm not a fan of the iron but I thought it turned out pretty good. He was appalled that I stretch 20 weeks but it's really cause I hate hate hate relaxing myself. He said I should come at least every 10 weeks. Well see.... Guess I'm getting off the long stretch bandwagon. It was a lot more expensive than 2 boxes of 7.99 optimum care at Sally's but I didn't have any burns or under processed areas like when I do it myself. What do u ladies think? Are you a long stretcher because u hate self relaxing or for hair health? I know some people relax every 4 weeks. I think my hair would all break off if I did that! Sent from my iPhone using LHCF

Gourgeous!!!!

I stretch for 8-10 weeks for health. But I just realized that I am very under processed.

However my hair is stronger and thicker.

 

[Lilmama1011]

Former self relaxer first time at the salon experience. So I self relax every 20weeks or so maintaining with flatironing my roots after 8 weeks. I decided to go to the salon for the first time ever for a touch up. I was super scared to let someone put relaxer on me. I told my stylist that I'm sensitive used to use optimum care but always manage to burn my nape a lil bit He used Mizani butter blends, blew me out cut ( a few inches) and curled with a curling iron. I'm not a fan of the iron but I thought it turned out pretty good. He was appalled that I stretch 20 weeks but it's really cause I hate hate hate relaxing myself. He said I should come at least every 10 weeks. Well see.... Guess I'm getting off the long stretch bandwagon. It was a lot more expensive than 2 boxes of 7.99 optimum care at Sally's but I didn't have any burns or under processed areas like when I do it myself. What do u ladies think? Are you a long stretcher because u hate self relaxing or for hair health? I know some people relax every 4 weeks. I think my hair would all break off if I did that! Sent from my iPhone using LHCF

I stretch for health

 

[Cattypus1]

Former self relaxer first time at the salon experience. So I self relax every 20weeks or so maintaining with flatironing my roots after 8 weeks. I decided to go to the salon for the first time ever for a touch up. I was super scared to let someone put relaxer on me. I told my stylist that I'm sensitive used to use optimum care but always manage to burn my nape a lil bit He used Mizani butter blends, blew me out cut ( a few inches) and curled with a curling iron. I'm not a fan of the iron but I thought it turned out pretty good. He was appalled that I stretch 20 weeks but it's really cause I hate hate hate relaxing myself. He said I should come at least every 10 weeks. Well see.... Guess I'm getting off the long stretch bandwagon. It was a lot more expensive than 2 boxes of 7.99 optimum care at Sally's but I didn't have any burns or under processed areas like when I do it myself. What do u ladies think? Are you a long stretcher because u hate self relaxing or for hair health? I know some people relax every 4 weeks. I think my hair would all break off if I did that! Sent from my iPhone using LHCF

I want that hair!!! Beautiful,

 

[yaya24]

317537
Your hair came out great!!!

I would stick with what has been working.
He just met you. How does he know that 10 weeks is your stretching cut off point?

Girl he wants that relaxer TU money every 10 weeks.

 

[brownb83]

I dyed my hair again yesterday... oh well. That dirty brown hair is ugly to me on me.

I think i can dye every three months since I don't use heat ever.

I also detangled in the shower and it was so much better! After I rinsed my conditioner I used a quarter size per section (4 sections), I stood under the water and combed through.

It was so quick and easy.

 

[NGraceO]

Me too..I got rollers, pins and setting lotion all picked out as well..

mschristine
I love how I did ALLLLLL that a couple of weeks ago, only to realized my highly textured texlaxed hair is a pain in the arse to roller set My arms were SO through. LOL

 

[pre_medicalrulz]

I dyed my hair again yesterday... oh well. That dirty brown hair is ugly to me on me.

I think i can dye every three months since I don't use heat ever.

I also detangled in the shower and it was so much better! After I rinsed my conditioner I used a quarter size per section (4 sections), I stood under the water and combed through.

It was so quick and easy.

Really?! I love that dirty brown color on me. Its like having subtle highlights. Lol!

 

[NGraceO]

Former self relaxer first time at the salon experience. So I self relax every 20weeks or so maintaining with flatironing my roots after 8 weeks. I decided to go to the salon for the first time ever for a touch up. I was super scared to let someone put relaxer on me. I told my stylist that I'm sensitive used to use optimum care but always manage to burn my nape a lil bit He used Mizani butter blends, blew me out cut ( a few inches) and curled with a curling iron. I'm not a fan of the iron but I thought it turned out pretty good. He was appalled that I stretch 20 weeks but it's really cause I hate hate hate relaxing myself. He said I should come at least every 10 weeks. Well see.... Guess I'm getting off the long stretch bandwagon. It was a lot more expensive than 2 boxes of 7.99 optimum care at Sally's but I didn't have any burns or under processed areas like when I do it myself. What do u ladies think? Are you a long stretcher because u hate self relaxing or for hair health? I know some people relax every 4 weeks. I think my hair would all break off if I did that! Sent from my iPhone using LHCF

GORGEOUS!!!!! I stretch for a long time for hair health. I noticed the one time I relaxed at 12 weeks, it was a disaster. I am a highly textured texlaxed chic so relaxing and attempting to match texture with so little newgrowth (1 1/2 inches) was no bueno for me:-/ oh well. lol