Honestly, Do you Think Some People Will Never...

[Sweet_Ambrosia]

Yes, I do think some people will never get to their desired length, but mainly based on how they treat their hair.
If you constantly wear your hair out, your ends are going to have the last word on what length you get to.

Weaves ARE NOT a protective style. In my not so humble opinion, if you want to retain the least amount of length, this is the route to go.

Diet and excercise are going to be more important than MTG or any other miracles in a bottle. (BTW - I've used MTG and it works, but hitting the gym worked better and I don't smell like burnt pig feet.)

If you're not consistent with your regimen, you're not going to get to your goal.

Genetics play a role in how fast your hair grows, but to me maintenance is a bigger issue.

I totally agree w/the bolded parts!

 

[FlowerHair]

I don't even believe MY hair will get to my desired length. But dreams are important, how else would you know where you're going?

 

[nicki6]

I don't even believe MY hair will get to my desired length. But dreams are important, how else would you know where you're going?

I totally agree!! Sometimes I look at the albums of my hair idols and think, "Lord, I'll NEVER get there", but it doesn't stop me from trying:wink2: When I decided to lose weight, there were people in my life that thought it could not be done. I've conquered that goal and I intend to conquer this one too!

Don't let discouragement get the best of you,ladies! Its always seemed that I could get to shoulder length without much effort on my part, but once there my ends would be trashed and I'd have a 2" cut in my future Beginning in April, I decided to consciously be more faithful to the advice given here and have finally moved past my supposed 'terminal length'

Whoever stated that patience and consistency are key right the nail on the head. If you really pay attention, you will notice that most of the ladies here with APL or longer have been on their journey 2+ years.

 

[FlyyGyrl]

I truly believe that anybody can do anything. Some people will say that I am silly, blah, blah, blah. But that is ok

 

[bablou00]

Its a constant battle going thru the motions w/ my hair. Waking up thinking about it. Eating lunch thinking about it. Doin the do thinking about it...lol. Seriously its always on my mind if my hair is going to get where I want it to get but I realized that I cant stress over length but pay attention to my overall health of my body. It basically comes down to you are what you EAT and how you take care of your body. I see my girlfriends who have hair down to their butt who constantly work out, eat right and take care of their hair. Then I have friends who eat like crap never step in a gym and their hair and body tells it all. So aim for more than just long hair, but towards a healthier body....it might do more than u can imagine

 

[MissYocairis]

Get to Their Desired Lengths?

**Disclaimer PLEASE NO NAME CALLING OR ANYTHING! This isn't one of those calling out/negative posts, so please don't make it.

Do you beleive that for some people longer apl, bsl ,wsl, etc is just unattainable?

I was talking toone of my LHCF friendgirls last night through PM and I got to thinking about this question. I seen some people that hair won't budge. I was wondering, if it was only me that thought some people's hair probably will never make it to bsl or beyond. I hope this doesn't come off as catty but I honest want to see what you guys think.
Do you think that every last black women who puts her mind to it can grow hair to longer lengths? Why or why not?

Quite frankly, I do not think it's impossible for someone to reach their desired length, but, what's more, I just don't want to take on the responsibility of passing judgement on what someone else's potential is. I am having a challenged enough time as it is with my own journey and would rather focus on that rather than pointing out what someone else APPEARS to have or not have. How am I to know what someone's hair habits are on a consistent, year in and year out basis? I'd have to have a good feel for all of that to be coming to a conclusion about whether someone else will be successful.

 

[erin558]

even though i know this post wasn't suppose to be, it IS sort of discouraging. I mean you have people replying to your posts with "Happy Growing, girl!" and "You'll be BSL in no time!" and then you turn around and see that people are saying that they think some people aren't going to get to their hair goals. It makes people like me, who aren't even SL ( ive been past SL before so I know I will get there ) feel that people that are BSL are thinking we aren't going to really get there. It just put me off.


for me, BSL, APL hair isn't that important. I just want sort of even, healthy, full hair. When I look at peoples albums I don't really pay attention to the length as much as I care about how healthy it looks.

I agree with people that are saying that anyone can get to their goal if they take care of their body inside and out.

 

[Honi]

I agree with this and at burnt pig feet comment!

Yes, I do think some people will never get to their desired length, but mainly based on how they treat their hair.

If you constantly wear your hair out, your ends are going to have the last word on what length you get to.

Weaves ARE NOT a protective style. In my not so humble opinion, if you want to retain the least amount of length, this is the route to go.

Diet and excercise are going to be more important than MTG or any other miracles in a bottle. (BTW - I've used MTG and it works, but hitting the gym worked better and I don't smell like burnt pig feet.)

If you're not consistent with your regimen, you're not going to get to your goal.

Genetics play a role in how fast your hair grows, but to me maintenance is a bigger issue.

 

[plove]

I totally agree!! Sometimes I look at the albums of my hair idols and think, "Lord, I'll NEVER get there", but it doesn't stop me from trying:wink2: When I decided to lose weight, there were people in my life that thought it could not be done. I've conquered that goal and I intend to conquer this one too!

Don't let discouragement get the best of you,ladies! Its always seemed that I could get to shoulder length without much effort on my part, but once there my ends would be trashed and I'd have a 2" cut in my future Beginning in April, I decided to consciously be more faithful to the advice given here and have finally moved past my supposed 'terminal length'

Whoever stated that patience and consistency are key right the nail on the head. If you really pay attention, you will notice that most of the ladies here with APL or longer have been on their journey 2+ years.

everything she said

 

[Proudpiscean]

even though i know this post wasn't suppose to be, it IS sort of discouraging. I mean you have people replying to your posts with "Happy Growing, girl!" and "You'll be BSL in no time!" and then you turn around and see that people are saying that they think some people aren't going to get to their hair goals. It makes people like me, who aren't even SL ( ive been past SL before so I know I will get there ) feel that people that are BSL are thinking we aren't going to really get there. It just put me off.


for me, BSL, APL hair isn't that important. I just want sort of even, healthy, full hair. When I look at peoples albums I don't really pay attention to the length as much as I care about how healthy it looks.

I agree with people that are saying that anyone can get to their goal if they take care of their body inside and out.

I feel the same way erin558 (being just past shoulder length and transitioning too).....just use it as even more motivation to reach your goals! Just be consistent with your regimen & retain those ends. You CAN do it!

 

[*Happily Me*]

me three! this thread is sorta depressing and makes me wonder if im wasting my time trying to grow my hair out...

i don't see how this thread could be depressing to you. this is only one person's opinion (or a few). look around you at people who did not grow up with long hair and made it there. JamericanDiva (i hope i got her username right) comes to mind.

if you allow this to depress you, changes are you will not make it as you've given up hope and the universe will see to it that you get exactly what you desire. nothing.

be hopeful flawed beauty. it's VERY possible to have long hair. for all of us.

 

[longhairluva]

i don't see how this thread could be depressing to you. this is only one person's opinion (or a few). look around you at people who did not grow up with long hair and made it there. JamericanDiva (i hope i got her username right) comes to mind.

if you allow this to depress you, changes are you will not make it as you've given up hope and the universe will see to it that you get exactly what you desire. nothing.

be hopeful flawed beauty. it's VERY possible to have long hair. for all of us.

OT: DSylla I am loving your hair girl. Can you pm me your regime or do you have it in your fotki.

 

[erin558]

I feel the same way erin558 (being just past shoulder length and transitioning too).....just use it as even more motivation to reach your goals! Just be consistent with your regimen & retain those ends. You CAN do it!

No problem.

I mean I understand where the poster was going with this post but people have to understand that a lot of people aren't that confident with their hair and what it can do. Yeah I may whine about my hair from time to time on here but I really think i can get to my goal, which is healthy even hair. I can't even begin to think about being BSL and all of that now. I have a long way to go and believe it or not I think that this is the fun part. I like my little journey.

My main concern is retaining these ends lol.

are there any challenges for short haired girls/girls just at shoulder yet? I think i should do a post but i don't want to do one if there is already one.

 

[MizaniMami]

Quite frankly, I do not think it's impossible for someone to reach their desired length, but, what's more, I just don't want to take on the responsibility of passing judgement on what someone else's potential is. I am having a challenged enough time as it is with my own journey and would rather focus on that rather than pointing out what someone else APPEARS to have or not have. How am I to know what someone's hair habits are on a consistent, year in and year out basis? I'd have to have a good feel for all of that to be coming to a conclusion about whether someone else will be successful.

I see what you're saying. When I wrote this thread I didn't have no one in particular in mind, I was just wondering. No judgement on anyone or nothing.

Also my intent wasn't to make anyone depressed or feel down. Sorry some of you took it that way. My only intent was to open some healthy dialogue. Not put anyone down. I apologize if I didn't succeed with that.

 

[*Happily Me*]

i don't see how anyone could be discouraged from this thread. did you guys take a look at the drastic changes thread at all?

no one could tell me nothing negative about myself if i ALREADY know and believe i will have a positive outcome. in fact, that motivates me even more. (i'm very competive).

think DSD (i love her screenname and find myself saying this all the time.) Don't Speak Defeat. put those negative thoughts out of your brain and continue loving and babying your hair!

 

[MizaniMami]

i don't see how anyone could be discouraged from this thread. did you guys take a look at the drastic changes thread at all?

no one could tell me nothing negative about myself if i ALREADY know and believe i will have a positive outcome. in fact, that motivates me even more. (i'm very competive).

think DSD (i love her screenname and find myself saying this all the time.) Don't Speak Defeat. put those negative thoughts out of your brain and continue loving and babying your hair!

I feel the same way. I thought it was just me. I don't see how other's opinion of how they feel would dictate how I feel about MY hair.

 

[Royal Glory]

We have hundreds of women here who had no hair as a child who now have hair flowing down their backs so YES, black women can grow hair and we can achieve long lengths. We have too many people ON THIS BOARD who have turned their hair around for me to believe otherwise. If anyone actually does, just visit so's comparison shot thread...if thats not enough inspiration for you, I don't know what to tell you. Remember not everyone who benefits from this board is a poster, and we have had lots of members who have moved on since attaining their goals.

I agree with the other posters who state care and maintenance factor equally if not more than genetics. I know personally, since going natural, my hair should be 8-10 inches longer than it is now, but I havent been taking consistent care of it. I dont think anyone can say definitively whether or not black women have the genes to grow hair or not. IMO, modern black women (americans in particular) have no clue what lengths our hair can grow to and wont until we reeducate ourselves about and consistently practice proper hair care. We have GENERATIONS of misinformation and abuse. Even in our own families in the year 2006 some of us struggle against myths and bad practices: Infrequent washing possibly leading to scalp fungus, using harsh detergents like joy, poor diet, inferior ingredients, misuse of heat, too frequent relaxing, too frequent trims, relaxing root to tip, too tight braids, improperly attached weaves, stylists or others who will sabotage your efforts, improper handing (ripping a comb or brush through it or not using proper tools: ie a comb with the teeth too fine), and an over all attitude that we should be doing more important things than being vain or delusional enough to want long hair and spend time taking care of it.

As has been mentioned before, if your hair wasnt growing, one relaxer would last you a lifetime. If its coming in at the roots, the effort should be to maintain the ends. The sooner we embrace our hair, relaxed or natural, as the crown of Glory God intented it to be, instead of seeing is as a symbol of shame, the sooner we will reach our goals. Once those under your circle of influence see your progress and then seek knowledge for themselves, then they too will make strides, influence and educate others and eventually long hair on a black woman will be a common occurrence and not the oddity it has been made out to be.

*disclaimer* I'm not addressing anyone in particular, its just MY thoughts on the subject.

Hallelujah to that! Very well put, Enchantmt! (No wonder you are a LGCF moderator. )

 

[FlawedBeauty]

even though i know this post wasn't suppose to be, it IS sort of discouraging. I mean you have people replying to your posts with "Happy Growing, girl!" and "You'll be BSL in no time!" and then you turn around and see that people are saying that they think some people aren't going to get to their hair goals. It makes people like me, who aren't even SL ( ive been past SL before so I know I will get there ) feel that people that are BSL are thinking we aren't going to really get there. It just put me off.


for me, BSL, APL hair isn't that important. I just want sort of even, healthy, full hair. When I look at peoples albums I don't really pay attention to the length as much as I care about how healthy it looks.

I agree with people that are saying that anyone can get to their goal if they take care of their body inside and out.

i totally agree with the bold red. it makes me feel like some may say "don't worry u'll get there in no time" but are really thinkin 'yeah right, ur never gonna reach that length.'

ok, now please don't jump on me here for this but, when i first read this this is the feeling i got...my feelings were now that the original poster has reached her bsl goal and has this healthy, beautiful bsl hair, i felt like it was saying, 'ha ha look at where i am and i too bad some of you will never get there, what does everyone else think.'

had this thread been posted by her at the beginning of her journey when it looked as it did i probably would have taken it diffently. now i KNOW that is not what the poster intended but i just wanted to share how it made me feel reading it and i personally took it as being a little caddy. but like i said if it was posted at the begining of her journey i probably would feel differently.

like another poster said, i thought this board was about disproving the myth that black women could not have long, healthy hair

 

[FlawedBeauty]

i don't see how anyone could be discouraged from this thread. did you guys take a look at the drastic changes thread at all?

no one could tell me nothing negative about myself if i ALREADY know and believe i will have a positive outcome. in fact, that motivates me even more. (i'm very competive).

think DSD (i love her screenname and find myself saying this all the time.) Don't Speak Defeat. put those negative thoughts out of your brain and continue loving and babying your hair!

i got discouraged from the thread because it made me think that maybe the women are right, maybe i will neve be able to reach bsl...that was the discouraging part, especially when there is already doubt in one's head it may just worsen it. when ur stuck at a plateau and not seeing progress and then u read that some women think that some will not reach their lenght it may kinda make them think maybe they're right, even if they're not.

 

[erin558]

i totally agree with the bold red. it makes me feel like some may say "don't worry u'll get there in no time" but are really thinkin 'yeah right, ur never gonna reach that length.'

ok, now please don't jump on me here for this but, when i first read this this is the feeling i got...my feelings were now that the original poster has reached her bsl goal and has this healthy, beautiful bsl hair, i felt like it was saying, 'ha ha look at where i am and i too bad some of you will never get there, what does everyone else think.'

had this thread been posted by her at the beginning of her journey when it looked as it did i probably would have taken it diffently. now i KNOW that is not what the poster intended but i just wanted to share how it made me feel reading it and i personally took it as being a little caddy. but like i said if it was posted at the begining of her journey i probably would feel differently.

like another poster said, i thought this board was about disproving the myth that black women could not have long, healthy hair

Yeah, I feel you on that. it just come off as really strange and i noticed that a lot of other girls that are at longer lengths were replying with that "yeah, I believe some girls arent going to make it there either." Don't worry about anyone "jumping down your back" because if this is how you feel, this is how you feel. Everyone else in this thread had no problem saying that they think girls on here aren't going to make it to should length, so you shouldn't feel bad about saying that people saying this threw you off. I really wasn't going to say anything but I didn't want people that lurk this board that might have hair that is in a bad state right now think that most of us feel that people aren't going to make it. That is crap.

 

[MizaniMami]

i totally agree with the bold red. it makes me feel like some may say "don't worry u'll get there in no time" but are really thinkin 'yeah right, ur never gonna reach that length.'

ok, now please don't jump on me here for this but, when i first read this this is the feeling i got...my feelings were now that the original poster has reached her bsl goal and has this healthy, beautiful bsl hair, i felt like it was saying, 'ha ha look at where i am and i too bad some of you will never get there, what does everyone else think.'

had this thread been posted by her at the beginning of her journey when it looked as it did i probably would have taken it diffently. now i KNOW that is not what the poster intended but i just wanted to share how it made me feel reading it and i personally took it as being a little caddy. but like i said if it was posted at the begining of her journey i probably would feel differently.

like another poster said, i thought this board was about disproving the myth that black women could not have long, healthy hair

I didn't see Erica's comment, so I am just gonna reply to both you and her in one post. When I tell someone "you'll be there no time" I absolutely mean it. I won't even take the time to type it if I didn't mean it. I don't even take my time to post, if I wasn't going to speak the truth, BELIEVE THAT (not saying if I don't reply to anyone's post I think neg. about them, half the time I honestly don't see the post)! Everyone who knows me know that I won't even spend time typing lies, there is no point.

I honestly didn't know people were gonna be so sensitive to this thread. I SWEAR I had no underlying meaning and I just wanted to open some dialogue. I didn't know that by trying to open some dialgue my other words/posts were going to be taken with a grain of salt and put under a mangnifying glass. I mean seriously, come oooonnn.

But I am not trying to make an argument outta nothing, so whatever gives, everyone has a right to feel the way they feel. I just know I am not about to explain myself or my intentions anymore than I already have. Some people will get it, other's won't.

"You can't have 'em all..."

 

[erin558]

i got discouraged from the thread because it made me think that maybe the women are right, maybe i will neve be able to reach bsl...that was the discouraging part, especially when there is already doubt in one's head it may just worsen it. when ur stuck at a plateau and not seeing progress and then u read that some women think that some will not reach their lenght it may kinda make them think maybe they're right, even if they're not.

this thread didn't discourage me but i knew that someone would get discouraged. thats why i replied with what I replied with because I really do think that people will make it to their goals. They might have to go about it different than someone else but if they just treat their hair like silk, eat right/drink right, something will come out of it. Instead of focusing on health just focus on having hair that doesn't look like it was chewed up like ants! lol. when i first started growing my hair out from it being basically shaved in the back, i knew that I had to worry about how it's health. when you give your all to that you will retain length without even notice. you will just wake up one morning and be like "Wow." From one girl to another, I want you to know that I do think you will make it to your goal. know at least one person believes you will. im not just saying this eitiher!

 

[erin558]

I didn't see Erica's comment, so I am just gonna reply to both you and her in one post. When I tell someone "you'll be there no time" I absolutely mean it. I won't even take the time to type it if I didn't mean it. I don't even take my time to post, if I wasn't going to speak the truth, BELIEVE THAT (not saying if I don't reply to anyone's post I think neg. about them, half the time I honestly don't see the post)! Everyone who knows me know that I won't even spend time typing lies, there is no point.

I honestly didn't know people were gonna be so sensitive to this thread. I SWEAR I had no underlying meaning and I just wanted to open some dialogue. I didn't know that by trying to open some dialgue my other words/posts were going to be taken with a grain of salt and put under a mangnifying glass. I mean seriously, come oooonnn.

But I am not trying to make an argument outta nothing, so whatever gives, everyone has a right to feel the way they feel. I just know I am not about to explain myself or my intentions anymore than I already have. Some people will get it, other's won't.

"You can't have 'em all..."

No i feel you, you have your opinions. If you feel that people aren't going to make it to their goals then that's how you feel but I think to people that really are sensitive about their hair that something like this coming from a girl with BSL hair, i think they feel that you think that only a select few can make it. I think if this thread would have come from some frustrated girl that was at neck length, it wouldn't have been taken like that. It's hard to relate to someone with long pretty hair being like "I don't think some people are going to make it." Like I said in my post, I KNOW that you didn't mean to hurt anyones feelings and that you were really just going for a discussion. I'm really glad this post was made because it shows some people how members feel about other members progress and it might actually give people the extra push they need to really kick their hair routine into high gear to prove people wrong.

I mean you've got to look at it from the other side. How would yuou feel if you were told to come to this board by a friend because you were having hair issues and then you stumble across a post that has replies in it saying that they think people arent going to make it and a lot of the people in the post that are saying this are girls witih hair past SL?

I'm really, really not cornering you or saying that you are mean for this post, i just want to know. this isn't even to one person either.

 

[MizaniMami]

No i feel you, you have your opinions. If you feel that people aren't going to make it to their goals then that's how you feel but I think to people that really are sensitive about their hair that something like this coming from a girl with BSL hair, i think they feel that you think that only a select few can make it. I think if this thread would have come from some frustrated girl that was at neck length, it wouldn't have been taken like that. It's hard to relate to someone with long pretty hair being like "I don't think some people are going to make it." Like I said in my post, I KNOW that you didn't mean to hurt anyones feelings and that you were really just going for a discussion. I'm really glad this post was made because it shows some people how members feel about other members progress and it might actually give people the extra push they need to really kick their hair routine into high gear to prove people wrong.

I mean you've got to look at it from the other side. How would yuou feel if you were told to come to this board by a friend because you were having hair issues and then you stumble across a post that has replies in it saying that they think people arent going to make it and a lot of the people in the post that are saying this are girls witih hair past SL?

I'm really, really not cornering you or saying that you are mean for this post, i just want to know. this isn't even to one person either.

Okay, maybe if I said this if I had shorter hair it would make things better.... My opinions don't change with the length of my hair. It just don't.

It's cool, I get where you are coming from. I just don't want my other posts to be put under a magnifying glass, cause if that's the case I'll do myself a favor I won't post anymore. I can't have people thinking I am a liar.

 

[FlawedBeauty]

IMO i don't see y this thread was even started and what good would come from it. and there is no need to explain, but i cant see y anyone who is a part of a "support" forum would want to read a bunch of posts with women saying that they are sure some of us won't reach our desired goals. that imho is not my idea of support.

 

[HermioneWeasley]

ok, now please don't jump on me here for this but, when i first read this this is the feeling i got...my feelings were now that the original poster has reached her bsl goal and has this healthy, beautiful bsl hair, i felt like it was saying, 'ha ha look at where i am and i too bad some of you will never get there, what does everyone else think.'

had this thread been posted by her at the beginning of her journey when it looked as it did i probably would have taken it diffently. now i KNOW that is not what the poster intended but i just wanted to share how it made me feel reading it and i personally took it as being a little caddy. but like i said if it was posted at the begining of her journey i probably would feel differently.

I honestly don't think this poster was starting this thread with that in mind, but I completely understand how you could feel this way. And frankly, I really do hope that others and the moderators on this forum think carefully about allowing these sorts of threads to exist. Yes, everyone has a right to free speech, but these types of threads, no matter how innocent they start out, almost always degenerate into namecalling or hurt feelings.

It's not for me or anyone else to say whose hair can do what. I'm focused on my journey and maxing out my potential. I will always support my sistas, though. If someone on the forum who was spear bald and had been since childhood came on and said she wanted to get to waist length as her ultimate goal, I'm cheering her on. Wagging my finger and saying, "Uh-uh, not for you babe" helps no one, including myself.

There have been times that I've gotten the feeling that longer-haired members have been doing the verbal equivalent of patting people on the head who have shorter hair and lofty goals. I've learned to just skip over those particular posts and ignore those posters, but I've been here for awhile and I know what to look for. New people coming here for support and seeing threads like this might think twice about sticking around, and that would be a shame, since there's a wealth of information to be mined here.

 

[plove]

i totally agree with the bold red. it makes me feel like some may say "don't worry u'll get there in no time" but are really thinkin 'yeah right, ur never gonna reach that length.'

ok, now please don't jump on me here for this but, when i first read this this is the feeling i got...my feelings were now that the original poster has reached her bsl goal and has this healthy, beautiful bsl hair, i felt like it was saying, 'ha ha look at where i am and i too bad some of you will never get there, what does everyone else think.'

had this thread been posted by her at the beginning of her journey when it looked as it did i probably would have taken it diffently. now i KNOW that is not what the poster intended but i just wanted to share how it made me feel reading it and i personally took it as being a little caddy. but like i said if it was posted at the begining of her journey i probably would feel differently.

like another poster said, i thought this board was about disproving the myth that black women could not have long, healthy hair

should she not ask a question because we are about disproving the myths about black women hair?


If you know who you are and what you can do or what your hair can do why do yu care what others say.

People on here told me not to leave micros in my hair longer then 3 months
it's 6 months later and i still have my braids in.
someone could tell me right now that all my hair is going to fall out if i don't take my braids out. do you think I'm going to run a take my braids out. I think not.


what I'm trying to say is how can somebody tell you what your hair can do.

 

[MizaniMami]

I think you ladies are taking the thread waaay to personal. Seriously, maybe I should have seriously reconsidered before posting this-Maybe *I* was in the wrong?

Okay, whatever, I'm done, I get the point.

 

[erin558]

Okay, maybe if I said this if I had shorter hair it would make things better.... My opinions don't change with the length of my hair. It just don't.

It's cool, I get where you are coming from. I just don't want my other posts to be put under a magnifying glass, cause if that's the case I'll do myself a favor I won't post anymore. I can't have people thinking I am a liar.

nah, i don't think you are a liar. if you say that you mean it when you tell people these things that I believe you. lol i really, really don't think you were trying to be mean when you made this post. I honestly think you were open for discussion. my main thing was that people that are really sensitive were gonna freak out and stop taking care of their hair and use pink oil moisturizer again or something.

 

[Proudpiscean]

i totally agree with the bold red. it makes me feel like some may say "don't worry u'll get there in no time" but are really thinkin 'yeah right, ur never gonna reach that length.'

ok, now please don't jump on me here for this but, when i first read this this is the feeling i got...my feelings were now that the original poster has reached her bsl goal and has this healthy, beautiful bsl hair, i felt like it was saying, 'ha ha look at where i am and i too bad some of you will never get there, what does everyone else think.'

had this thread been posted by her at the beginning of her journey when it looked as it did i probably would have taken it diffently. now i KNOW that is not what the poster intended but i just wanted to share how it made me feel reading it and i personally took it as being a little caddy. but like i said if it was posted at the begining of her journey i probably would feel differently.

like another poster said, i thought this board was about disproving the myth that black women could not have long, healthy hair

To be honest, that was my exact same thoughts when I read the title of this thread ......but me, still being new here, didn't want to rock the boat. Whether everyone will reach their goals or not shouldn't be the issue. To me it (this board) should be all about being encouraging/supportive to everyone because we are all at different starting points, and for someone just starting out, this can make or break them.