all_1_length
Well-Known Member
I must preface this by saying that I love my hair and apart from having fantasies about my hair crushes, I wouldn't change it if I could. That's how secure I am about my hair.
I bc'd this past summer and my hair is still pretty short but it's growing fast and is long enough to braid. Well since it is so short I have decided to braid it up at night to prevent breakage and retain moisture while I sleep since it is so fine and breaks at the drop of a hat. I have found that I retain more length this way. During the day if I'm out without a hat I'll wear a braid out. I have received a lot of complements from random people when I wear my hair this way. It really makes me feel good when people react positively to my hair which is why I'm sooo po'd right now.
I can not stand it when people criticize my hair, particularly my styling choices. By people I mean family and by choices I mean anything that I do to my hair while it is growing out from my big chop. I really don't like it. I think that it's rude and ignorant to judge me this way, this really hurts my feelings. My mother and sister have a problem with how I have been taking care of my hair. Although I have had many set backs over the years I feel that I am finally making progress thanks to this site. Well it's not like anybody ever noticed. Just this evening my mom and sister went in on me because my hair doesn't look like all that it should be. Excuse me but hair journeys are full of ups and downs and my hair may not always look the best but that's only temporary. Tonight I have it in braids and my mother says that it looks terrible. My sister chimes in about how I need a professional to teach me how to style my hair since I'm natural and that I don't know what kind of products to use (aka I need black hair care products). She told me that my hair does not look cute (braidouts) and how I need to listen to her.
LHCF has really been a life saver for me. I didn't know anything about hair care before I came here. Let's see what I have learned since joining (May 2010)
I learned:
About hair type/texture
That cotton pillowcases were causing breakage to the sides of my head creating "clown edges"
Protein/Moisture balance is really important to the health of my hair.
What causes breakage, heat damage, mushy hair and how to correct it/prevent it.
That black hair can grow really long.
shocked: What a real eye opener that one was.)
Relaxed hair can be long and healthy too. (double shocked)
How to self relax and care for relaxed hair (even though I'm natural)
Seamless wide tooth combs.
How to research products and make informed decisions bases on the ingredient list. (golden)
To wrap my hair at night.
That most black people have dry hair and that it is important to moisturize which is not the same as using grease or oils.
That petroleum/mineral oil in products is the debil.
Protective styling.
Just because a person wears weaves/wigs/their hair in a bun doesen't mean that they need to.. they might be ps-ing.
...and the list goes on and on because I'm still learning what my mama neva taught me.
Anyhwho now that I got that off my chest I'm a little less pissed but I still don't like it when I make ground with my haircare achievements only to have folks who know less than half of what's on my list look down on me.
I bc'd this past summer and my hair is still pretty short but it's growing fast and is long enough to braid. Well since it is so short I have decided to braid it up at night to prevent breakage and retain moisture while I sleep since it is so fine and breaks at the drop of a hat. I have found that I retain more length this way. During the day if I'm out without a hat I'll wear a braid out. I have received a lot of complements from random people when I wear my hair this way. It really makes me feel good when people react positively to my hair which is why I'm sooo po'd right now. I can not stand it when people criticize my hair, particularly my styling choices. By people I mean family and by choices I mean anything that I do to my hair while it is growing out from my big chop. I really don't like it. I think that it's rude and ignorant to judge me this way, this really hurts my feelings. My mother and sister have a problem with how I have been taking care of my hair. Although I have had many set backs over the years I feel that I am finally making progress thanks to this site. Well it's not like anybody ever noticed. Just this evening my mom and sister went in on me because my hair doesn't look like all that it should be. Excuse me but hair journeys are full of ups and downs and my hair may not always look the best but that's only temporary. Tonight I have it in braids and my mother says that it looks terrible. My sister chimes in about how I need a professional to teach me how to style my hair since I'm natural and that I don't know what kind of products to use (aka I need black hair care products). She told me that my hair does not look cute (braidouts) and how I need to listen to her.
LHCF has really been a life saver for me. I didn't know anything about hair care before I came here. Let's see what I have learned since joining (May 2010)
I learned:
About hair type/texture
That cotton pillowcases were causing breakage to the sides of my head creating "clown edges"
Protein/Moisture balance is really important to the health of my hair.
What causes breakage, heat damage, mushy hair and how to correct it/prevent it.
That black hair can grow really long.
shocked: What a real eye opener that one was.)Relaxed hair can be long and healthy too. (double shocked)
How to self relax and care for relaxed hair (even though I'm natural)
Seamless wide tooth combs.
How to research products and make informed decisions bases on the ingredient list. (golden)
To wrap my hair at night.
That most black people have dry hair and that it is important to moisturize which is not the same as using grease or oils.
That petroleum/mineral oil in products is the debil.
Protective styling.
Just because a person wears weaves/wigs/their hair in a bun doesen't mean that they need to.. they might be ps-ing.
...and the list goes on and on because I'm still learning what my mama neva taught me.
Anyhwho now that I got that off my chest I'm a little less pissed but I still don't like it when I make ground with my haircare achievements only to have folks who know less than half of what's on my list look down on me.
People can be so hurtful.
