Any married nightly baggers out there?

[cocoa32]

Awwww....lololol..

Man, this convo has the potential to get so deep. I don't know how long you have been married but your hubby is gonna have some serious reality shock waves to deal with as you guys move forward together. My husband doesn't care about my scarf wrap at all. I guess he has tunnel vision because his eyes are on the prize! Anyway, he's seen me at my very, very worst - illness, etc., and I'm glad that through it all, he still finds me to be very sexy, beautiful and desirable.

P.S. Don't start anything you can't finish. Meaning: don't get him used to you bending over backwards to meet his standard of beauty 24/7 and then years down the road slack off because it will cause BIG trouble. Just a bit of sisterly advice. I have friends that started off tryna please dat man (even if it meant not doing something that was important to them) and then he got spoiled and when they tried to adjust the situation all hell broke loose.

Share your hair goals with him. I hope he's the kind of guy that would understand.

I couldn't agree with you more! Just be you. That's all you can do. You can't bend over backwards to please him when you aren't pleasing yourself. He should understand your hair goals and support them.

I've been wearing a scarf at night our entire marriage (2 1/2 years) and 2 1/2 years of dating b4 that. I just started baggying and my hubby supports it because he sees the difference in my hair and supports me.

 

[LocksOfLuV]

K, I can see how some might take this post a little differently then I meant it. My husband thinks I'm sexy all the time, we've been married 7 years and dated 4 years, he's seen me through breast cancer and all that it has to offer, trust me we've been through hell and back together!!! My husband is not trying to control me by any means. Ugh! Anyway, I think most of the women on the 1st page got what I was trying to say. Trust me, I don't need to be saved from my husband, please re-read the original post in a more of a light hearted way.

well you don't have to baggie the whole head to get the effects. you can just do the ends. you can moisturize your hair, put it in a ponytail, cover with a baggie and then cover it with a bun cover [search ebay for bun covers, they completely mask the baggie]. you can do this at night.

the ponytail will eventually loosen throughout the course of the night but it is a lot better then not protecting your hair with a scarf and/or just sleeping on a pillowcase.

 

[Cayenne0622]

I would LOVE to try this baggie method but I don't think my hubby would let me in the bed with a bag on my head. Once we were married he told me that I couldn’t wear a scarf on my head to bed anymore. This I thought was funny cuz he never said anything while we were dating (I guess he figured he got me now). Anyway, I purchased silk pillowcases.

I sorta approached him with the idea of wearing a bag on my head to bed, he joking said that the sex that night betta be good. LOL!

Honestly, what could I do? I think that even walking around with a bag on my head during the day would bother him. Don't get me wrong, I ultimately do what I feel but I do try to keep him in mind and maintain my sexiness.

I guess I could wear the bag on my head when he’s not around, huh? What do you guys do?

Awwww...Snuckles. I'm sorry ma. I think some of us read it the wrong way because of some of the things you said in your original post. I'm glad you and hubby have a great relationship! Dass what we like to hear! Good luck with your hair goals.

 

[Divine Inspiration]

Awwww...Snuckles. I'm sorry ma. I think some of us read it the wrong way because of some of the things you said in your original post. I'm glad you and hubby have a great relationship! Dass what we like to hear! Good luck with your hair goals.

Agreed. The stuff that you (Cayenne) have highlighted in red was why people thought those things.

However, like Cayenne said, if he's supportive, then that's great. Surely he'll understand your hair goals and your desire to work towards those things.

 

[PinkPeony]

I agree with you Locks & Divine .. Not to be funny but it almost sounds controling? Why all the suddlen he feels he has a "Right" to tel you not to wear that scarf? if he had beef BEFORE hand why didn't he bring it up before you were married?


Am I missing somthing here?

Yes,I think the same way.

 

[cocoa27]

K, I can see how some might take this post a little differently then I meant it. My husband thinks I'm sexy all the time, we've been married 7 years and dated 4 years, he's seen me through breast cancer and all that it has to offer, trust me we've been through hell and back together!!! My husband is not trying to control me by any means. Ugh! Anyway, I think most of the women on the 1st page got what I was trying to say. Trust me, I don't need to be saved from my husband, please re-read the original post in a more of a light hearted way.

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I've been lurking on this board for over six months, and I had to reply to this thread!!! Mind you, this is only my second post. And what I've found is that the women on this board are very supportive, and offer alot of good advice. Snuckles, don't be discouraged girlie. I understood what you meant - but those that interpreted it differently (which, in reading it, it definitely could mean the latter) were only trying to offer some sisterly advice. The reason I understood your post is because in my experience (and everyone's experience is different), men -- whether you begin spoiling them or not -- will always act spoiled. They all have their 'little requests' (whether they tell their woman or not). We, as women, like to be catered to, and we like it when our men listen to our requests. So I don't think it's wrong to put some thought behind your man's request - as long as he does the same for you.

 

[cocoa27]

buhahahahaha.....too funny. Got me wondering if my husband has a second family or something. lololol That's totally something he would say.

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Cayenne --- girlllll -- my husband is probably related to your hubby!!!
Me and my husband always joke around!!! I always call him the 'broke comedian'

 

[Hidden_Angel]

Alright, I understand what you posted now, thats why I asked the question if I was missing somthing. I was like why all the suddlen he felt the need to request the scarf not be on the head?...


Thats why i found it so odd! I didn't mean to come off so blunlty because I have a tendicy to do so without even meaning it in a harsh way, and i do realize that they have little "Requests" and so forth. I was just slightly confused by it but I do know realize that you meant in a "half joking" matter about asking him sorta, if that makes any sense.

Good luck with the hair awes ! I think as long as you wrap it witha pretty scarf or somthing you should be fine...

 

[Snuckles]

Cocoa, thanks for coming out of shadows to post.

Thanks to all the ladies that responded in this thread.

No harm, no foul.

I guess I need to start using the smilies to get across what I'm saying more often being that this is the internet and just words on a page. I'm usually too lazy to go hunt for the one I need. Okay, I just looked for the group hug smilie and don't see one so <insert group hug here>

I think that I'm going to approach him with wearing the baggy to bed on some number of nights a week. The other nights I won't wear one. I think that's a great compromise, and yes I do try to spoil my husband only because I love him & I'm trying to keep up with the things he does to spoil me. He's ahead in that arena. Anywho, who knows he may start wearing a baggy to bed himself. He's always wondering why his twist doesn't look as good as mine and he's always worried that he doesn't show enough length because of his shrinkage.

Thanks again Ladies.

 

[Tamrin]

Girl let me tell you the Trick. Get him involved in your Hair routines. My SO loves to be involved. I showed him the Board and the pic of the ladies and their progress. He even went to buy the products with me. He has relaxed washed my hair (better than my stylist ) and help me roller set. Even put up with my rants and raving when the rollers don't stay straight. I need not tell you about the time he made a roller run when I first started. He shoved 4 rollers in his pocket and went and got the ones I needed.... He oils for me andhe knows its his Job to massage my scalp.The funny thing he is the one who keeps reminding me at night to wrap or baggie and tells me when I need to dust. The other day I had my scarf on he was telling me how sexy it looked when I looked like Aunt Jam... LOL. So you see Get him involved and there is nothing more amazing then when your hair is taken care of by someone who loves you. And you will enjoy the quality time. Don't stress over what he says show him and trust me he is going to help you accomplish your goals.

Closer1

 

[growinglong777]

This thread is too funny.. I am a newly wed.. and my hubbie doesn't mind the wraps and bonnets.. as long as only my head is wrapped up, if you know what I mean

 

[septemberbaby]

angie10[/B]]I mostly baggie right before bed. I use the bag, then cover it with a bonnet. My hubby have to wake up real early in the morning, So he mostly goes to sleep before me. I guess he doesn't see too much of my baggying

I do the same thing. Hubby is used to my hair being covered before bed. If he makes a little comment about it, then I know he doesn't want to see it at "that" moment. Afterwards, , I baggie and cover with a bonnet before I go to sleep.

 

[Blackoutzangel05]

Girl let me tell you the Trick. Get him involved in your Hair routines. My SO loves to be involved. I showed him the Board and the pic of the ladies and their progress. He even went to buy the products with me. He has relaxed washed my hair (better than my stylist ) and help me roller set. Even put up with my rants and raving when the rollers don't stay straight. I need not tell you about the time he made a roller run when I first started. He shoved 4 rollers in his pocket and went and got the ones I needed.... He oils for me andhe knows its his Job to massage my scalp.The funny thing he is the one who keeps reminding me at night to wrap or baggie and tells me when I need to dust. The other day I had my scarf on he was telling me how sexy it looked when I looked like Aunt Jam... LOL. So you see Get him involved and there is nothing more amazing then when your hair is taken care of by someone who loves you. And you will enjoy the quality time. Don't stress over what he says show him and trust me he is going to help you accomplish your goals.

Closer1

That is so cute!!!!

 

[Cayenne0622]

Cocoa, thanks for coming out of shadows to post.

Thanks to all the ladies that responded in this thread.

No harm, no foul.

I guess I need to start using the smilies to get across what I'm saying more often being that this is the internet and just words on a page. I'm usually too lazy to go hunt for the one I need. Okay, I just looked for the group hug smilie and don't see one so <insert group hug here>

I think that I'm going to approach him with wearing the baggy to bed on some number of nights a week. The other nights I won't wear one. I think that's a great compromise, and yes I do try to spoil my husband only because I love him & I'm trying to keep up with the things he does to spoil me. He's ahead in that arena. Anywho, who knows he may start wearing a baggy to bed himself. He's always wondering why his twist doesn't look as good as mine and he's always worried that he doesn't show enough length because of his shrinkage.

Thanks again Ladies.

Okay, if ya'll both start wearing baggies to bed...can you please post a pic here?? That would hilarious and cute at the same time!!! Next ya'll will be arguing about who's baggy is the greasy one with whole in it. hehehehehehe

 

[Cayenne0622]

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Cayenne --- girlllll -- my husband is probably related to your hubby!!!
Me and my husband always joke around!!! I always call him the 'broke comedian'

You got that right! My hubby is the same way and half of his jokes are corny! lol

Oh yeah, ladies. For some reason my plastic shower cap (baggy) was irritating the crap out of me when I put it on last night. I had tied it down and everything and by the time I got out of the shower, I had to snatch it off. It was irritating me around the forehead and nape...(the elastic in the bag). It hadn't bothered me before but I wrapped my head with saran wrap last night and that went just as well. I'm considering cutting the elastic gathering off the edge of my baggy and then using double-sided fabric tape to tape it to the inside of one of my satin night scarves. That way I'll be killing 2 birds with one stone. Don't they have something like that in the BSS already?

 

[Hair Peace]

Get him involved in your Hair routines. My SO loves to be involved. I showed him the Board and the pic of the ladies and their progress. He even went to buy the products with me.

...and made me buy a satin pillowcase and doo-rag for HIM!

 

[Tamrin]

Yours did? wow. Thats funny. LOL.

 

[Lavendar]

Girl let me tell you the Trick. Get him involved in your Hair routines. My SO loves to be involved. I showed him the Board and the pic of the ladies and their progress. He even went to buy the products with me. He has relaxed washed my hair (better than my stylist ) and help me roller set. Even put up with my rants and raving when the rollers don't stay straight. I need not tell you about the time he made a roller run when I first started. He shoved 4 rollers in his pocket and went and got the ones I needed.... He oils for me andhe knows its his Job to massage my scalp.The funny thing he is the one who keeps reminding me at night to wrap or baggie and tells me when I need to dust. The other day I had my scarf on he was telling me how sexy it looked when I looked like Aunt Jam... LOL. So you see Get him involved and there is nothing more amazing then when your hair is taken care of by someone who loves you. And you will enjoy the quality time. Don't stress over what he says show him and trust me he is going to help you accomplish your goals.

Closer1

This man needs to teach a class on "How to Care for Your Woman's Hair". Whatever it costs.....I'm in!!!!

 

[soonergirl]

Funny stories guys!!! My dh puts up with the mtg smell and kindly tries to bleach all the stains from my pillowcase that the mtg leaves from unfortunate nightly leaks.. He no longer looks at my product stash with a glazed over stare!!!

 

[albane]

Same experience as Closer 1. My husband is very helful with all haire care issues. I do not usually put scarf or baggie at night, but if I have a long conditionning treatment, he will not object at it. He likes helping me for my rollerset and several times he mentionned ... and proved ....that I was so sexy with my huge rollers. But for sure I would discuss with him any specific procedure involving a baggie at night.

 

[albane]

Same experience as Closer 1. My husband is very helful with all hair care issues. I do not usually put scarf or baggie at night, but if I have a long conditionning treatment, he will not object at it. He likes helping me for my rollerset and several times he mentionned ... and proved ....that I was so sexy with my huge rollers. But for sure I would discuss with him any specific procedure involving a baggie at night.

 

[natstar]

Snuckles-

I think you made a great point and it's a great idea.. Compromise. You can wear the baggie and a scarf a few times a week and go w/out on the other nights. Honestly, IMO baggying EVERY night isn't that necessary. Maybe you can wear a loose braid on some nights as well. I think u came to a great solution

 

[Mahalialee4]

I baggy (whole head) every night, and wear a scarf or a doo-rag over it - and I've just started doing that over the last year - previously, I would usually wear my hair out - but I also had dreads. If hubby told me I couldn't wear a scarf to bed, well. It would be a funny, FUNNY, conversation, and I know there would only be one person sleeping in that bed, and it wouldn't be him!
And as an OP said - by the time we are in bed, the LAST thing he is thinking about is what's on my head. I suppose if it REALLY bothered him, we could do our thang without it on, and then I would get up, put my hair up, do my thing, and go to sleep - the room is dark then, so it ain't no nevermind.

Nappywoman: Are you in the "Cornrow Till Christmas without extensions challenge at Nappturality forum?

 

[Averoigne]

Hi ladies!

I've been lurking for a while but this thread compelled me to step out of the shadows. You've been posting some extremely poignant and witty vignettes describing the intimacy you share with your mates. All I can say is, I wish I had a hubby or SO who would grumble about my baggies, 'cause a grumblin' man in the bed is better than no man in the bed at all...

I'll work on my marital status later. For now, it's all about the hair...

 

[Cayenne0622]

Hi ladies!

I've been lurking for a while but this thread compelled me to step out of the shadows. You've been posting some extremely poignant and witty vignettes describing the intimacy you share with your mates. All I can say is, I wish I had a hubby or SO who would grumble about my baggies, 'cause a grumblin' man in the bed is better than no man in the bed at all...

I'll work on my marital status later. For now, it's all about the hair...

lololol....spoken like an unmarried woman for sure. Girllllll...you gotta watch what you wish for!!! That was funny though. Welcome to the board!!

 

[NuMe2004]

Girl, my hubby doesn't mind the scarves, but he did see me with a plastic cap on my head one day while I was letting some olive oil penetrate my hair. He DIED LAUGHING! That, I will never do again...plus it didn't help that I did this during the day and was standing outside waiting for him .

 

[Lavendar]

My hubby is extremely curious about everything I do to my hair. He never minds anything I put on or how I look. If I'm really looking crazy, like when I wear the space helmet dryer, he will laugh...but he's cool. If anything he wants to know if I'm doing something he can do too. I can never put on a face mask without doing his face too, or wash my face with something new without him using it too. And he pays attention to if I'm really tired....as soon as I plop my butt on the bed he says, "Nope, get up and get your hair hat (that's what he calls my scarf and bonnet)."

 

[Lady Esquire]

he does not mind 'cause he loves what i am doing w/my hair.
i wear a scarf, even though we have satin sheets. when i baggy, i do not baggy my entire head. i wear a loose baggy with a scrunchie and i use a sandwich bag on the pony. maybe you can only baggy your ends. and then you can cover the baggied ends with a bun cover .

 

[dimpalz]

rofl! This thread is hilarious, it just reminded me how I spent last weekend with my friend of many years and from when I got indoors to when I left, I had that headscarf on. ***** better TRY say something! lol Compromise is good, if/when it comes to it I'll be willing, but he (my future hubby) better be prepared to run his hands thru my dry half squished fro as a result

 

[Tamrin]

My hubby is extremely curious about everything I do to my hair. He never minds anything I put on or how I look. If I'm really looking crazy, like when I wear the space helmet dryer, he will laugh...but he's cool. If anything he wants to know if I'm doing something he can do too. I can never put on a face mask without doing his face too, or wash my face with something new without him using it too. And he pays attention to if I'm really tired....as soon as I plop my butt on the bed he says, "Nope, get up and get your hair hat (that's what he calls my scarf and bonnet)."

Girl I know how you feel. Last night my SO and I were watching tv and I dozed off snuggled with my lil cow Pillow (don't ask) and all of a sudden I feel a push I nearly jumped out of my skin there he was standing there with scarf and comb in hand. I said let me sleep me said no wrap it NOW. Im like dayummn grumbled wrapped my hair tied my scarf and snuggled my pillow. LOL BTW he did say MTG smells like Smoked meat LOL and Kept pouring peppermint and lavender oil in it. LOL